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    Yes I know this is super trivial and it doesn’t sound like a real problem.
    But it is to me. I am so used to socializing and meeting people every day but ever since I moved to uni I feel super bored and depressed.
    I tried looking up some societies but nothing really spoke to me. Like why would I join a GOT society? I am not obsessed with shows or anything like that.
    Also people on my course don’t seem so friendly either. I tried to link up some people but they all stay at home and study or seem really cold and distant so I’d feel awkward asking them to do sth together....
    And the fact that I live in a small town (Guildford) doesn’t help at all. You can’t do anything here.
    I have always tried to look for a way out in such a deadend situation but I seriously don’t know what to do.
    Oh, and my flatmates are utter creeps who won’t even say hi to you when they see you...
    If anyone has recommendations on how to deal with this and find friends I’d be really grateful.
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    (Original post by bluerain716)
    Yes I know this is super trivial and it doesn’t sound like a real problem.
    But it is to me. I am so used to socializing and meeting people every day but ever since I moved to uni I feel super bored and depressed.
    I tried looking up some societies but nothing really spoke to me. Like why would I join a GOT society? I am not obsessed with shows or anything like that.
    Also people on my course don’t seem so friendly either. I tried to link up some people but they all stay at home and study or seem really cold and distant so I’d feel awkward asking them to do sth together....
    And the fact that I live in a small town (Guildford) doesn’t help at all. You can’t do anything here.
    I have always tried to look for a way out in such a deadend situation but I seriously don’t know what to do.
    Oh, and my flatmates are utter creeps who won’t even say hi to you when they see you...
    If anyone has recommendations on how to deal with this and find friends I’d be really grateful.
    You are sounding like you are trapped at the wrong uni and could do with one with a bigger social life and in a bigger city plus a new flat? You should know by now if things are for you. If its first year hen you get a gift year to change courses or you could try for a transfer into second year. I could suggest some ways to try and make friends but youve tried some of them.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    You are sounding like you are trapped at the wrong uni and could do with one with a bigger social life and in a bigger city plus a new flat? You should know by now if things are for you. If its first year hen you get a gift year to change courses or you could try for a transfer into second year. I could suggest some ways to try and make friends but youve tried some of them.
    I am at uni halls so I can’t really change the flat when there are 4 months left of uni. And I also don’t really wanna change uni cause it’s pretty good for my course :/ and the only big city near me is London which I can’t really afford right now. Quite the situation, innit?
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    (Original post by bluerain716)
    I am at uni halls so I can’t really change the flat when there are 4 months left of uni. And I also don’t really wanna change uni cause it’s pretty good for my course :/ and the only big city near me is London which I can’t really afford right now. Quite the situation, innit?
    Just going to have to keep trying then. Maybe there are some hobbies and groups in Guildford that do things you are interested in or start a friendship group. I wasnt suggesting changing halls, just pointing out your flat was an issue. Yu also need to consider where and with whom you will live next year. Doesnt sound like a good fit to me, but up to you.
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    I'd recommend getting a part time job. Most people with a job at uni end up with a pretty solid group of work friends to socialise with. Bar work is a safe bet if you want to feel social and be around young people.
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    Just going to have to keep trying then. Maybe there are some hobbies and groups in Guildford that do things you are interested in or start a friendship group. I wasnt suggesting changing halls, just pointing out your flat was an issue. Yu also need to consider where and with whom you will live next year. Doesnt sound like a good fit to me, but up to you.
    It may not be a “good fit” but unfortunately that doesn’t mean that it’s easy to fix the situation :/ I have a friend back from high school that I’m living with so at least that’s sorted 😅
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    (Original post by bluerain716)
    It may not be a “good fit” but unfortunately that doesn’t mean that it’s easy to fix the situation :/ I have a friend back from high school that I’m living with so at least that’s sorted 😅
    I'm not there so I cant appreciate how much of an issue it is. maybe a new household next year with fun people will change things for the better. A few good friends can make all the difference.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    I'm not there so I cant appreciate how much of an issue it is. maybe a new household next year with fun people will change things for the better. A few good friends can make all the difference.
    Oh but you don’t need to it’s my experience not yours. I didn’t come here to ask for sympathy but for advice in stead cause it’s not a tragedy or something. I hope you are right about what you said though. Best regards to you!
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    (Original post by bluerain716)
    Oh but you don’t need to it’s my experience not yours. I didn’t come here to ask for sympathy but for advice in stead cause it’s not a tragedy or something. I hope you are right about what you said though. Best regards to you!
    It helps provide better advice if I can get an accurate appreciation on the situation. I never suggested it was a tragedy, just working a way out for the most productive way to give you the best result that you indicated you desired. Just keep trying different avenues. the frustrating thing is there are probability people youd get on great with at uni that are in the same situation. You have to increase contacts and use other peoples networks.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    It helps provide better advice if I can get an accurate appreciation on the situation. I never suggested it was a tragedy, just working a way out for the most productive way to give you the best result that you indicated you desired. Just keep trying different avenues. the frustrating thing is there are probability people youd get on great with at uni that are in the same situation. You have to increase contacts and use other peoples networks.
    Of course it’s better when you can appreciate the situation but that doesn’t always work especially when you read about it online. And I didn’t mean to say it was a tragedy of course. I am sure there are a lot of people in the same situation. The hard thing is to find who they are. 😅 I hope it works out at the end of the day. Thanks for your time though
 
 
 

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