I'm 19. I've been in a relationship with a guy for over 2 years now and I love him to death. I've never ever thought about women before but then the other day I saw a video about a woman who was married to a man for years and then realised she was a lesbian later in life. I've never really thought about possibly being a lesbian but since watching that video it's been bugging me. I find myself looking at other girls but most of the time it's a 'her outfit or hair is nice' or just admiring they are pretty, something like that. I've only ever had feelings for boys and only ever wanted to be in relationships with boys. Could all this mean I'm a lesbian.
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- 11-03-2018 14:00
- 11-03-2018 14:27
Not at all, it's natural to admire beauty in others, even boys do it even though we most likely won't admit it. I think there is a small but important difference between finding someone "attractive" and actually being attracted to them in a "I like that person and want to pursue something with them" sort of way. Forgive me if I'm wrong but I think you personally are at a place where mentally your brain can't differentiate those two feelings when you find something about someone attractive. I'd advise doing something like writing down things about yourself that you probably wouldn't say aloud (e.g. insecurities, secrets about yourself), in order to know and feel more confident about your preferences and not feel like those things are not so much a burden that you have to carry around in your life. I hope this will help you feel confident in your sexual preference because knowing yourself makes a big difference in how you experience and live your life😊
- 11-03-2018 15:28
Nah, it's normal to admire other girls as long as you dont wanna f*ck them