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    (Original post by ANM775)
    Same here.

    If I dislike her personality then there's no way i'm i'm going to date her even if she's stunning. I actually lose attraction pretty quick for women with horrible personalities, ...and also women with arrogant personalities/prestige princess personalities...
    Yeah man, huge turn off!
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    (Original post by The Night King)
    OP, you look good(no homo), personality is very important for some and also...why does this matter so much to you? Is getting girls your main and only goal in life?
    Actually, I don't look passable when I'm anything other than very lean. All my fat goes to my face and ONLY one side of it (it's VERY freakish and abnormal). So, I swear to you this is true, I literally look deformed when I go even a few lbs of fat over my ideal.

    And yeah well the only things I enjoy in life are:

    Drinking with mates on a night out
    Flirting with women (I enjoy picking them up more than sex)
    Lifting weights
    Using roids
    Party vacations

    It does not match my personality or upbringing AT ALL, but that is literally all I get pleasure from in life... And playing piano I guess.
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    (Original post by starfab)
    The most attractive guy... with a sh1t personality, is an absolute no.
    But that sort of extremity isnt really hugely common, most women would be able to compromise if theyve got an okay personality
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    Just watch "Dating in the Dark". A show where people "date" in pitch black and decide whether they like each other. Then if they do, their looks are finally revealed to each other.

    The men (much less shallow) are more often willing to date the slightly less physically fortunate women.

    But for the women there is NO compromise. Look good or go home. Personality means NOTHING. You can have the most amazing connection with a girl, but all their brains are wired to think about is your looks, and to an extent how popular/famous you are. They instantly reject men they had amazing connections with because he was ginger, or bald, or looked like Bob the Builder.

    I believe this proves that for men, appearance is everything.
    I don't think it is so much 'good looks', but rather the 'right looks'. Not every girl will take interest in the same 'handsome' guy, sure one could argue that their decision is more heavily based on looks rather than personality, but of course personality undeniably plays a role, in fact, one may argue that having a personality is of more benefit since looks can be somewhat easy to change whereas personality can be more permanent and difficult to alter to a girls liking.
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    Just watch "Dating in the Dark". A show where people "date" in pitch black and decide whether they like each other. Then if they do, their looks are finally revealed to each other.

    The men (much less shallow) are more often willing to date the slightly less physically fortunate women.

    But for the women there is NO compromise. Look good or go home. Personality means NOTHING. You can have the most amazing connection with a girl, but all their brains are wired to think about is your looks, and to an extent how popular/famous you are. They instantly reject men they had amazing connections with because he was ginger, or bald, or looked like Bob the Builder.

    I believe this proves that for men, appearance is everything.
    I thought it was the other way around?
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    As someone's already pointed out, reality TV is very scripted and only shows cuts that appeal to the brainless audience its supposed to attract. Adding in cliches and creating drama is what the show is supposed to do. You also have to realise the type of people who actually take part in this sort of show in the first people.

    Reality TV is far from reality, or at least you'd have to search for that sort of person to come across it in real life.

    Appearance does matter, and I do think ive seen more ugly guys with hot girls than vice versa. Ugly women definitely have it harder.

    I do agree though in a sense that personality hardly means much to women. Most women pretend to care but really theyd settle for someone a bit boring but looks good
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    You watched a reality TV show. You know most of it is all an act for higher viewings right?
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    (Original post by Quaviousthe2nd)
    But that sort of extremity isnt really hugely common, most women would be able to compromise if theyve got an okay personality
    Faced with two options
    a) absolutely awesome personality and okay looks.
    b) absolutely attractive and okay personality.
    I would go for a. Not b. Can't speak for wveryone though,
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    (Original post by The Night King)
    Most likely, don’t see how it would last otherwise. Unless the guy also has a atrocious personality or something:laugh:
    That would be some terrible duo :rofl:
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    (Original post by starfab)
    Faced with two options
    a) absolutely awesome personality and okay looks.
    b) absolutely attractive and okay personality.
    I would go for a. Not b. Can't speak for wveryone though,
    Fair enough, OP is a bit ridiculous anyway, men are far more shallow than women
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    Eh, the way I see it, the golden ratio of good personality to good looks would be something like 40:60 (especially for our age range).

    I think it would lean more towards personality as you grow older (50:50 after 25, then probably 60:40 at 30s) and you start caring about other things over attraction e.g. job/income, life values, convenience etc.
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    Thanks this is very helpful.

    It's a shame that women are so much more shallow than men. I think most men can fall in love with personality...

    Okay I admit that PERSONALLY I can't, because I physically cannot get hard for average girls. But that's something I have NO control over so I don't think I can be blamed for this (even with Cialis or Viagra).

    MOST guys though, you'll see in the show, don't care so much about the way the girl looks.
    So you’re allowed to not be attracted to an average girl, but girls are supposed to grit their teeth and bare it with guys they aren’t attracted to? That’s some top quality bs right there. If you aren’t physically attracted to someone then why should you have to pity date them because “he’s sooo nice and really likes you!!!”.

    Also you repeatedly call yourself severely deformed when from your pictures you are clearly not deformed. You’re either begging for affirmation and the approval of others or are using someone else’s pictures. Both options are pathetic and annoying, two qualities that probably contribute to girls wanting nowt to do with you.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    So you’re allowed to not be attracted to an average girl, but girls are supposed to grit their teeth and bare it with guys they aren’t attracted to? That’s some top quality bs right there. If you aren’t physically attracted to someone then why should you have to pity date them because “he’s sooo nice and really likes you!!!”.

    Also you repeatedly call yourself severely deformed when from your pictures you are clearly not deformed. You’re either begging for affirmation and the approval of others or are using someone else’s pictures. Both options are pathetic and annoying, two qualities that probably contribute to girls wanting nowt to do with you.
    Ord 3rd option: OP has either body dysmorphia or extreme self esteem issues. He’s honestly a good guy, he just needs help. But I don’t think we are qualified enough to provide it here on TSR.
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    (Original post by The Night King)
    Ord 3rd option: OP has either body dysmorphia or extreme self esteem issues. He’s honestly a good guy, he just needs help. But I don’t think we are qualified enough to provide it here on TSR.
    Also the fact he's a manlet with tiny testes can't help.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    So you’re allowed to not be attracted to an average girl, but girls are supposed to grit their teeth and bare it with guys they aren’t attracted to? That’s some top quality bs right there. If you aren’t physically attracted to someone then why should you have to pity date them because “he’s sooo nice and really likes you!!!”.

    Also you repeatedly call yourself severely deformed when from your pictures you are clearly not deformed. You’re either begging for affirmation and the approval of others or are using someone else’s pictures. Both options are pathetic and annoying, two qualities that probably contribute to girls wanting nowt to do with you.
    Lmfao I didn't say you have to go for ugly guys, just thought I might catch flak for saying I can't sleep with average girls. I've tried a few times but yeah I just literally can't unfortunately. Give me an overdose of Viagra and Cialis and it still won't work with them.

    I can only get (and stay) hard with really hot girls.

    Almost every girl I sleep with wants to get into a relationship with me, so the evidence is very clear that my personality is bangin'
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    (Original post by The Night King)
    Ord 3rd option: OP has either body dysmorphia or extreme self esteem issues. He’s honestly a good guy, he just needs help. But I don’t think we are qualified enough to provide it here on TSR.
    As a person with body dysmorphia, posting selfies and asking for rates from extremely attractive girls because that’s all he’ll date isn’t a trait. I think it’s why his posts grate me so much, he just wants people to say he’s 10/10 and can date supermodels and he gets it by pretending he thinks he’s deformed. Trust me, when you have BDD looking in mirrors is hard so taking pictures and looking to date 9/10’s is not on the menu...


    Tbf I think i’m too radge to see past what’s annoying me. He’s clearly got something going on to be posting like this.
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    Lmfao I didn't say you have to go for ugly guys, just thought I might catch flak for saying I can't sleep with average girls. I've tried a few times but yeah I just literally can't unfortunately. Give me an overdose of Viagra and Cialis and it still won't work with them.

    I can only get (and stay) hard with really hot girls.

    Almost every girl I sleep with wants to get into a relationship with me, so the evidence is very clear that my personality is bangin'
    Huge double standard from you. So these girls see the person from dating in the dark, they aren’t attracted to them so “personality means NOTHING” and “appearance is everything” but when you see someone you aren’t attracted to it’s just a matter of you aren’t physically attracted to them? It’s the same thing mate.

    Your personality clearly isn’t that bangin’ by the way you incessantly beg for compliments on here. You clearly think you’re something special so maybe go actually use that to find someone instead of banging on about what a tragic life you have on here.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    As a person with body dysmorphia, posting selfies and asking for rates from extremely attractive girls because that’s all he’ll date isn’t a trait. I think it’s why his posts grate me so much, he just wants people to say he’s 10/10 and can date supermodels and he gets it by pretending he thinks he’s deformed. Trust me, when you have BDD looking in mirrors is hard so taking pictures and looking to date 9/10’s is not on the menu...


    Tbf I think i’m too radge to see past what’s annoying me. He’s clearly got something going on to be posting like this.
    Idk tbh, I feel neutral towards his posts. Even if you’re right, if the man thinks he’s God’s gift then so be it, doesn’t affect me one bit lol. But from what he’s been saying I’m just trying to help as I can. Only help that would be worthwhile for OP though is therapy.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    As a person with body dysmorphia, posting selfies and asking for rates from extremely attractive girls because that’s all he’ll date isn’t a trait. I think it’s why his posts grate me so much, he just wants people to say he’s 10/10 and can date supermodels and he gets it by pretending he thinks he’s deformed. Trust me, when you have BDD looking in mirrors is hard so taking pictures and looking to date 9/10’s is not on the menu...
    I don't have BDD. I am just LEGITIMATELY hideously ugly some days, and good on others. I swear to god.

    It's not psychological or in my head. If I go out on nights when I look good I'll get hit on, if I go out on nights when I'm looking "off" literally nobody will be interested in me and I'll practically be invisible. So I think it's literally a real thing that my face magically changes day to day.

    I didn't say you have to like ugly men lmfaoooo.
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    I don't have BDD. I am just LEGITIMATELY hideously ugly some days, and good on others. I swear to god.

    It's not psychological or in my head. If I go out on nights when I look good I'll get hit on, if I go out on nights when I'm looking "off" literally nobody will be interested in me and I'll practically be invisible. So I think it's literally a real thing that my face magically changes day to day.

    I didn't say you have to like ugly men lmfaoooo.
    That’s physically impossible, but you do you.

    Your OP strongly suggests that you think women should be attracted to ugly men if they have a good personality. If that’s not your opinion then you have a strange way of showing it, in a thread called “personality means nothing for attraction, only appearance matters” when in the real world it’s a combination of the two. Only having personality isn’t enough, only having looks isn’t enough. For a real relationship you have to be attracted to who they are as well as what they look like.
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