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    Am I the only person who is in the straight closet with their parents?

    I'm ashamed of my parents knowing I'm a sexual being. But I'm also ashamed to admit when I'm wrong, like from when I used to say "yuck" to girls as a 5 year old, to now when I like girls.

    So I can't admit to my parents that I am straight, I put on a totally asexual front with them. Is anyone else in this position?
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    Am I the only person who is in the straight closet with their parents?

    I'm ashamed of my parents knowing I'm a sexual being. But I'm also ashamed to admit when I'm wrong, like from when I used to say "yuck" to girls as a 5 year old, to now when I like girls.

    So I can't admit to my parents that I am straight, I put on a totally asexual front with them. Is anyone else in this position?
    Please tell me you arent serious
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    (Original post by Jack22031994)
    Please tell me you arent serious
    i know it's weird isn't it?
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    i know it's weird isn't it?
    There is no such thing as a 'straight closet" Gay people are only 'in the closet' as it isnt the assumed norm (like being straight is), and straight people are not discriminated in the same way, so to compare them is disgraceful
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    (Original post by Jack22031994)
    There is no such thing as a 'straight closet" Gay people are only 'in the closet' as it isnt the assumed norm (like being straight is), and straight people are not discriminated in the same way, so to compare them is disgraceful
    well I'm sorry Chairman Snowflake, please accept my avocado and skinny latte offering to your lordship to repent for my sociolinguistic sin.

    But gay people remain in the closet for reasons other than being discriminated against you know, such as being ashamed to admit they are gay to their parents.
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    well I'm sorry Chairman Snowflake, please accept my avocado and skinny latte offering to your lordship to repent for my sociolinguistic sin.

    But gay people remain in the closet for reasons other than being discriminated against you know, such as being ashamed to admit they are gay to their parents.
    Me a Snowflake?? :rofl:

    Well yeah that can be true, youre right, but comparing it to being 'ashamed to be straight' is frankly ridiculous.
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    Am I the only person who is in the straight closet with their parents?

    I'm ashamed of my parents knowing I'm a sexual being. But I'm also ashamed to admit when I'm wrong, like from when I used to say "yuck" to girls as a 5 year old, to now when I like girls.

    So I can't admit to my parents that I am straight, I put on a totally asexual front with them. Is anyone else in this position?
    Hiya. I just want to make sure I understand what you mean.
    When you were younger you didn't like girls (or boys) and think you came across as a-sexual. Now you've started to like girls you're worried about breaking that a-sexual appearance. It's that right?

    It's totally normal to start becoming more interested in people as you mature. It's nothing to be ashamed of and I very much doubt anybody will find it unusual. You weren't wrong earlier, you just went into people in that way yet. You can't be wrong about things like that and it's totally fine to change your mind too. That's just being human and growing up. There's nothing wrong about it.
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    Am I the only person who is in the straight closet with their parents?

    I'm ashamed of my parents knowing I'm a sexual being. But I'm also ashamed to admit when I'm wrong, like from when I used to say "yuck" to girls as a 5 year old, to now when I like girls.

    So I can't admit to my parents that I am straight, I put on a totally asexual front with them. Is anyone else in this position?
    I know exactly what you mean man. When your parents see you with females more often they'll get used to it. I doubt you're going to get in trouble for being straight, they might tease you about it a bit since you probably come off as a bit introverted and unsocial.
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    what the **** is this thread
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    (Original post by Jack22031994)
    There is no such thing as a 'straight closet" Gay people are only 'in the closet' as it isnt the assumed norm (like being straight is), and straight people are not discriminated in the same way, so to compare them is disgraceful
    Nah. He made sense, he's saying, he doesnt want his parents to know he's sexually active or wants to have sex. It was a joke to me, dont think he was calling for a straight v gay debate.



    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    well I'm sorry Chairman Snowflake, please accept my avocado and skinny latte offering to your lordship to repent for my sociolinguistic sin.


    Anyway OP I've been in one and never speak to my mum about sex, dont even say the word around her but she knows Im obv having sex by now, Im 25. Wen I started having sex and getting oral I was 12 or 13, obv never said that to her. Finally had intercourse at 15 and wrote a rap about it to my mum, read it to her, and she asked, "Did you have sex?" That's it lol. She's lowkey ashamed I'm not a virgin good son.
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    Hiya. I just want to make sure I understand what you mean.
    When you were younger you didn't like girls (or boys) and think you came across as a-sexual. Now you've started to like girls you're worried about breaking that a-sexual appearance. It's that right?

    It's totally normal to start becoming more interested in people as you mature. It's nothing to be ashamed of and I very much doubt anybody will find it unusual. You weren't wrong earlier, you just went into people in that way yet. You can't be wrong about things like that and it's totally fine to change your mind too. That's just being human and growing up. There's nothing wrong about it.
    I meant like in general i'm always ashamed to admit i'm wrong. for instance I am ashamed to admit I was wrong about a political issue that I had an opinion on.

    Most 5 year old boys say "yuck!" to girls. and when i became interested in them i was ashamed to admit that I had changed my mind and started to like them.

    and as part of the 'innocent' image that surely everyone puts on infront of their parents, i took it to the extreme of not even wanting to admit i liked girls for that reason too, because if i did then, by extension, my parents would think i had a dirty mind etc. (only as far as is normal)
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    You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    Hiya. I just want to make sure I understand what you mean.
    When you were younger you didn't like girls (or boys) and think you came across as a-sexual. Now you've started to like girls you're worried about breaking that a-sexual appearance. It's that right?

    It's totally normal to start becoming more interested in people as you mature. It's nothing to be ashamed of and I very much doubt anybody will find it unusual. You weren't wrong earlier, you just went into people in that way yet. You can't be wrong about things like that and it's totally fine to change your mind too. That's just being human and growing up. There's nothing wrong about it.
    yea, glad I understand as well otherwise I went fully into over-share mode
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    well I'm sorry Chairman Snowflake, please accept my avocado and skinny latte offering to your lordship to repent for my sociolinguistic sin.

    But gay people remain in the closet for reasons other than being discriminated against you know, such as being ashamed to admit they are gay to their parents.
    He's not a snowflake. You're the snowflake for thinking being the norm is something that requires some sort of admittance.
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    (Original post by CollectiveSoul)
    I meant like in general i'm always ashamed to admit i'm wrong. for instance I am ashamed to admit I was wrong about a political issue that I had an opinion on.

    Most 5 year old boys say "yuck!" to girls. and when i became interested in them i was ashamed to admit that I had changed my mind and started to like them.

    and as part of the 'innocent' image that surely everyone puts on infront of their parents, i took it to the extreme of not even wanting to admit i liked girls for that reason too, because if i did then, by extension, my parents would think i had a dirty mind etc. (only as far as is normal)
    Honestly I think the issue here might be how much you think about your reputation and what people think. There's no shame in being wrong sometimes and being able to admit that is really strong. And in this case I think maybe you're worrying a bit too much about how your parents see you. Obviously people don't really want their parents knowing all their dirty secrets, but this isn't really a big deal. It's just being human.
    The way I see it your thinking so much about how people see you has dug you a bit of a hole. I can get that. I kinda did the same when I was younger. You can move past it though. Just be you and even if that is a bit different from what people expected they'll get used to it.
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    I think most of us have been that five year old, and pretty much everybody adult knew we'd grow out of it. I'd not worry about it.
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    This the type of stuff they teach at St Andies? Elite my arse.
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    People here ashamed to say to their mums if they find a girl hot...then there’s me telling my mum whoever I shagged and all that stuff. It’s only natural, people, nothing to be ashamed of.
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    (Original post by The Night King)
    People here ashamed to say to their mums if they find a girl hot...then there’s me telling my mum whoever I shagged and all that stuff. It’s only natural, people, nothing to be ashamed of.
    nahh I want your mum, I still feel a cloud of shame with mine smh
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    (Original post by gjd800)
    I think most of us have been that five year old, and pretty much everybody adult knew we'd grow out of it. I'd not worry about it.
    I was worse when I was a kid lol I was very inappropriate and obnoxious about sex. Just screamed at random girls to blow me and whipped it out and all. Had my first kiss right in the middle of class lesson, didnt give a ****.
 
 
 
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