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    I'll keep it short and simple.
    I've been talking to this person for around 12 months. They told me that they weren't ready for a relationship but were essentially 'commited' to myself. Whenever the idea of a relationship is brought up, the other person is quickly ready to shut it down.
    They also said they are not ready to do anything sexual right now, but if they were, it would be with me.
    They've told me they love me and we only see eachother every 2 -3 weeks.
    Any ideas why? or how to persuade them to do what I want? or do I just wait?
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    Thats just weird lol
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    I'll keep it short and simple.
    I've been talking to this person for around 12 months. They told me that they weren't ready for a relationship but were essentially 'commited' to myself. Whenever the idea of a relationship is brought up, the other person is quickly ready to shut it down.
    They also said they are not ready to do anything sexual right now, but if they were, it would be with me.
    They've told me they love me and we only see eachother every 2 -3 weeks.
    Any ideas why? or how to persuade them to do what I want? or do I just wait?
    Perhaps they are just nervous or shy? Are there any cultural issues?
    Decide how long you are prepared to wait or not, but you shouldnt force or pressure them imo. Are there any cultural or religious reasons?

    If they arent ready and that doesnt meet your timetable then find someone else. At least they have told you up front.

    ps not weird at all. They obviously have their reasons.
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    No religious or cultural issues at all.

    Only reason I've been given is pretty straight forward, she said she wants to focus on school etc.
    For anything sexual, she just isn't ready.

    Extremely confusing as she's told me that she loves me, and we've been talking for ages.
 
 
 
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