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    In first year I had a great social life and everything was fine. In second year, it was still decent but not as good because obviously everyone was in separate housing, taking uni more seriously and everyone was super loved up in their relationships.

    Now I'm in third year and it has been so dull. In first term I went out a fair amount but nowhere near as much as I used to. Then it was exams in january and since they've ended, I've only had one night out. Wasn't too bad because I had my dissertation so I was busy anyway but now that's over I have more free time and no social life.

    Basically, within my main friendship group, some people had arguments so now there isn't a group. With the rest of the people nothing is ever really organised because we all have dissertations at different times, and everyone has a boyfriend. Either long distance so they're away every other weekend, or at uni so they spend all their time together.

    In my house, one girl is snowed under with project work (I had that in first term so I can relate), one girl works most evenings at a bar, one girl has moved in with her boyfriend (or some weeks he comes to ours), and then the final girl is always with her boyfriend or with her family.

    So pretty much everyone is in a relationship/too snowed under with work and when they do have free time they don't really want to do anything. They just want to spend it with bfs.

    On my course I have a few good friends but they spend all their free time with boyfriends as well and we don't even have the same modules either.

    If it was first or second year I'd think about getting a job or joining a society but it's coming to the end of third year so it's not really feasible. Obviously third year is the time to be really knuckling down with your work and I have lots to do as well, but I just hate how it's such a rubbish end to my uni life.

    Anyone got any tips?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In first year I had a great social life and everything was fine. In second year, it was still decent but not as good because obviously everyone was in separate housing, taking uni more seriously and everyone was super loved up in their relationships.

    Now I'm in third year and it has been so dull. In first term I went out a fair amount but nowhere near as much as I used to. Then it was exams in january and since they've ended, I've only had one night out. Wasn't too bad because I had my dissertation so I was busy anyway but now that's over I have more free time and no social life.

    Basically, within my main friendship group, some people had arguments so now there isn't a group. With the rest of the people nothing is ever really organised because we all have dissertations at different times, and everyone has a boyfriend. Either long distance so they're away every other weekend, or at uni so they spend all their time together.

    In my house, one girl is snowed under with project work (I had that in first term so I can relate), one girl works most evenings at a bar, one girl has moved in with her boyfriend (or some weeks he comes to ours), and then the final girl is always with her boyfriend or with her family.

    So pretty much everyone is in a relationship/too snowed under with work and when they do have free time they don't really want to do anything. They just want to spend it with bfs.

    On my course I have a few good friends but they spend all their free time with boyfriends as well and we don't even have the same modules either.

    If it was first or second year I'd think about getting a job or joining a society but it's coming to the end of third year so it's not really feasible. Obviously third year is the time to be really knuckling down with your work and I have lots to do as well, but I just hate how it's such a rubbish end to my uni life.

    Anyone got any tips?
    I can empathise with you as I was in your position while at uni. My suggestion is to continue working hard to achieve your goals at uni. There's only about 2-3 months to go and this is the most important time of the year for you so making new friends and socialising at this point may go against you. What course are you doing? If you decide to do a graduate job, you'll make friends there.
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    It's not uncommon, 2nd-3rd year seems to be mostly people getting their noses down, I'm in 2nd but a mature student who's been here before. TBH most of the bubbly, social party time students have, well, failed and dropped out or buckled down one way or another.

    People deal with the pressure and work in various ways, and a lot like me go OTT on the stress and procrastination so yeah, It takes up almost all my waking time and other things just get sacrificed for a while. As you've noted the social side of it is starting to dissipate, people are working on different projects, modules and deadlines. My advise is just to batter through this last bit, it's part of the ride.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In first year I had a great social life and everything was fine. In second year, it was still decent but not as good because obviously everyone was in separate housing, taking uni more seriously and everyone was super loved up in their relationships.

    Now I'm in third year and it has been so dull. In first term I went out a fair amount but nowhere near as much as I used to. Then it was exams in january and since they've ended, I've only had one night out. Wasn't too bad because I had my dissertation so I was busy anyway but now that's over I have more free time and no social life.

    Basically, within my main friendship group, some people had arguments so now there isn't a group. With the rest of the people nothing is ever really organised because we all have dissertations at different times, and everyone has a boyfriend. Either long distance so they're away every other weekend, or at uni so they spend all their time together.

    In my house, one girl is snowed under with project work (I had that in first term so I can relate), one girl works most evenings at a bar, one girl has moved in with her boyfriend (or some weeks he comes to ours), and then the final girl is always with her boyfriend or with her family.

    So pretty much everyone is in a relationship/too snowed under with work and when they do have free time they don't really want to do anything. They just want to spend it with bfs.

    On my course I have a few good friends but they spend all their free time with boyfriends as well and we don't even have the same modules either.

    If it was first or second year I'd think about getting a job or joining a society but it's coming to the end of third year so it's not really feasible. Obviously third year is the time to be really knuckling down with your work and I have lots to do as well, but I just hate how it's such a rubbish end to my uni life.

    Anyone got any tips?
    I honestly think this is the norm at this point in final year. I’m a final year student too, just handed my dissertation in and now I’ve got 2 more deadlines to reach in April (which I’ve already started) so I ended up moving back home. I just found that friendships were wavering in final year, everyone was stressed so walking on egg shells was the norm, people are too busy or too wrapped up in their own lives to talk or go out and I just found that if I knew I spent my last 2/3 months of uni just knuckling down, at least I had tried my hardest in the end!
    It’s not necessarily a bad thing, you just have to get used to the lack of contact and dipping of friendships during stressful periods. I certainly will come away from University with half the friends I went in with, but you do lose contact - my siblings did when they left - and the real world sets in. I’d say you’re best just getting on with work you need to do and perhaps go home for a bit if that’s feasible possible, it’ll be a lot less intense and it’ll give you a break from a house full of girls too (which from experience is so difficult to deal with!)
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