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    I'm a (prospective) mature student hoping to do my PGCE in September, having graduated 4 years ago. I work in a council run children's home and when I told my boss I wanted to leave to do this course she was upset but really understanding (apparently I mentioned it in my interview so she knows it's a long standing wish).

    I did my part of the application and sent off the electronic reference request 2 months ago (she signed up and electronically accepted to do it on the 15th January) but still hasn't done it. Whenever I ask her she says yes yes of course I'll do it, I'm on it, I'm doing it, but still hasn't.

    I'm getting really worried about missing out on the course because of her filibustering this reference, and I'm starting to worry that is her intention- if she delays long enough I'll miss out and they'll keep me in my job another year (it's a pretty dismal job and we all know they're going to struggle to find someone else to put up with some of what I put up with).

    So my question is, what can I do? I'm fairly certain she isn't under any obligation to do this reference but I need her to, and soon. She's my line manager, and though there are other people there who could do it, she knows me best and would be able to write the best recommendation.

    (Original post by leigh_anne)
    She's my line manager, and though there are other people there who could do it, she knows me best and would be able to write the best recommendation.
    That's irrelevant if she's not going to do it.

    I'm not sure of your deadlines, but as a last-ditch effort, you can thank her for her good intentions, but if she doesn't have time to do it, then you understand and will get the reference from someone else.

    She'll most likely say "I'll do it straight away" or something to that effect, so be prepared to counter with a: "thank you" but also (and most essential) a: "I really appreciate it, but if you can't get to it by -insert reasonable date here-, I'll understand and ask -insert name of someone else here- if they will be able to."

    If you're up against the wall with deadlines already, simply change reference request and if she asks about it, just explain that you figured she had too much on her and you thought it best to get someone else to do it who had more time.

    Edit: If you are at all suspicious that she is either consciously or subconsciously trying to sabotage your application, then do you really want a reference from her at all?
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