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Going on holiday with my boyfriend?! watch

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    So me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now (both 21).
    Our relationship is great, I couldn’t be happier with him.
    Last year we went away to the Algarve and I’m naturally a redhead - aka: in a hot country I will just go red/burn/or nothing in my skin colour will change.
    My boyfriend is naturally dark haired and tanned (he’s not mixed race, he just has the natural complex to tan easily).

    Going on holiday I felt beyond self conscious standing next to him, I was so pale and in all the photos there was such a noticeable difference I just thought I looked ugly in comparison. I didn’t try and self tan there because it’s a hassle and I hate the sticky feeling along with the smell you get from fake tan.

    Recently a load of photos got produced that we sent away for and I’m horrified at the way I look. In comparison it just doesn’t look like we go together and I’d hate for him to see the disgust I see in myself.

    I feel like I’m one of very few naturally very very fair skinned people that doesn’t bother to self tan and now I feel like it’s going against me because all I see now is me standing out like a sore thumb
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    I think you need to start feeling more secure about yourself and love yourself for who you are. I only know what you posted on your post but being in a relationship for a whole year doesn't happen very often, nowadays relationships (especially being in your early 20s) last like a couple of months. A guy who can stick around long is not just sticking there just because, he's there for a reason and that reason is that he likes being with you and spending time with you. Learn to be more comfortable in your skin and embrace yourself. The more you love yourself, the more he'll love you.

    You should talk to him about it. If something is bothering you, your boyfriend should be the one you go to first. You guys should be able to trust each other to tell the truth, even if its something you are self-conscious about. And being pale or going red is not ugly, im sure if you asked your boyfriend he'll tell you the same thing. You need to be able to look at yourself and not be judgemental, but rather how your boyfriend looks at you. cos he wouldn't be your boyfriend if he wasn't attracted to you.
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    You won't look as bad as you think you do. Try talking to your boyfriend about how you feel.
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