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    Since about 6 months ago after starting my first year of a two year course I got a job in a kitchen. I love it there, everyday I look forward to working there but my mum. My mum works in the same job as what I'm studying and wants me to be like her. It's easy, stable and great pay but I hate it. I have been applying for chef apprentiships behind her back but when confronting her she tells me I'm stupid. Do I just follow my dreams but be hated by my mum or waste another year to then waste 30k at uni just to keep my mum happy? Sounds stupid but this is my mum, I don't want to be a disappointment.
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    you have a sit down talk with your mother. It is your future after all and it's better if you put your dream ahead as long as you're committed to it. Life's too short to not take chances and miss out on amazing opportunities. There's money to be made in being a chef. My cousin went to a chef school for years and went straight into work and she loves it. Your mum just needs to look at it through your eyes.
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    Do what you want and not what she wants. She has no control over it
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    You mother can't force you to do anything! That being said perhaps it would be better to get this degree - then try to be a chef, that way you will have your degree to fall back on, you will be secure and your... questionable mother will be satisfied enough.

    Reread your comment, if you're doing a levels or whatever why not finish them then go into the chef route, if you don't like it you can pick up your uni route.
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    Honestly, Sit down and talk to her about it if she doesn't want to listen you will need to start thinking about yourself your desires and your happiness. I know she is your mum but you are also your own person and in the end, live for yourself because you will regret it following her wishes. Don't let her authority over you dictate your life. Think about how much you love your job at the kitchen every work day looking forward to your shifts, the people you work with and the routine of it all. Now think about that all going away and you going to lessons and leaving that all behind so that your mum doesn't get mad at you.

    Hope I could give a bit of insight!!
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    (Original post by Joebarj)
    Since about 6 months ago after starting my first year of a two year course I got a job in a kitchen. I love it there, everyday I look forward to working there but my mum. My mum works in the same job as what I'm studying and wants me to be like her. It's easy, stable and great pay but I hate it. I have been applying for chef apprentiships behind her back but when confronting her she tells me I'm stupid. Do I just follow my dreams but be hated by my mum or waste another year to then waste 30k at uni just to keep my mum happy? Sounds stupid but this is my mum, I don't want to be a disappointment.
    What are you studying ?
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    (Original post by K.bower)
    you have a sit down talk with your mother. It is your future after all and it's better if you put your dream ahead as long as you're committed to it. Life's too short to not take chances and miss out on amazing opportunities. There's money to be made in being a chef. My cousin went to a chef school for years and went straight into work and she loves it. Your mum just needs to look at it through your eyes.
    Thank you my dude, I will try that and hope for the best that she understands where I'm coming from.
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    Why not finish you're degree, then do the apprenticeship, that way you're kit wasting money one and you have something to fall back on if it goes tits up
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    Why not finish you're degree, then do the apprenticeship, that way you're kit wasting money one and you have something to fall back on if it goes tits up
    It's an idea but it makes me so depressed and sad. I hate it, no friendly, horrible lectures and I don't find it interesting.
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    This will sound depressing but it's true - if you do what she wants, one day she will probably die before you, then you're left living your life being miserable and for what?
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