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    Hi all.

    So I’m a gay male, 24 with my soon to be 25 partner of 1.5 years. We do pretty much everything together, together every evening playing games and watching shows/movies. I love his dearly and we share a lot of passions very deeply.

    Now, obviously, we have differences. I love to keep fit and exercise, he isn’t that bothered. I don’t care how he looks, but I worry about his health with his diet sometimes. On top of this, I find it harder to exercise and eat healthy as he gets annoyed when I won’t share unhealthy food with him or if I wanted to exercise in ‘our time’.

    Lastly, I feel like our sexual compatibility is waning. We have amazing sex, but he’s a top, I always bottom, and that’s it. On top of this, he’s very big, so sometimes it’s hard to take him and I don’t really want to. He’s an outright no to anything else, I’m not allowed near his behind, and I despite being a top he’s very averse to anal play that isn’t fingering or sex (it’s a huge turn on for me).

    I love him more than anything. He’s my rock and I can see myself marrying him. But lately, this worries have started to really nag at me, and I’m even considering if we need to open our relationship. I’m more that happy too, ideas of threesomes or him with other people turn me on. But I don’t think he will be at all.

    Has anyone else had this? I’m just looking for any advice. Going to have a serious talk with him soon.
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    Hi all.

    So I’m a gay male, 24 with my soon to be 25 partner of 1.5 years. We do pretty much everything together, together every evening playing games and watching shows/movies. I love his dearly and we share a lot of passions very deeply.

    Now, obviously, we have differences. I love to keep fit and exercise, he isn’t that bothered. I don’t care how he looks, but I worry about his health with his diet sometimes. On top of this, I find it harder to exercise and eat healthy as he gets annoyed when I won’t share unhealthy food with him or if I wanted to exercise in ‘our time’.

    Lastly, I feel like our sexual compatibility is waning. We have amazing sex, but he’s a top, I always bottom, and that’s it. On top of this, he’s very big, so sometimes it’s hard to take him and I don’t really want to. He’s an outright no to anything else, I’m not allowed near his behind, and I despite being a top he’s very averse to anal play that isn’t fingering or sex (it’s a huge turn on for me).

    I love him more than anything. He’s my rock and I can see myself marrying him. But lately, this worries have started to really nag at me, and I’m even considering if we need to open our relationship. I’m more that happy too, ideas of threesomes or him with other people turn me on. But I don’t think he will be at all.

    Has anyone else had this? I’m just looking for any advice. Going to have a serious talk with him soon.
    Have you talked to him about your needs during sex? If you haven't discussed it with him, he won't know what to do to please you.

    Secondly, I think the whole fitness thing can be worked around. You don't have to be similar in every department, otherwise things would just be boring. Talk to him about how being healthy is important to you and that you want to spend some time exercising or having a healthier diet, he should understand that. I'm not saying don't ever eat unhealthy food or go exercise every day, you need to negotiate with your boyfriend on what sort of agenda suits the both of you. Perhaps say 4 days a week you exercise and the rest of the week is you spending the evening together. Of course, this is something you should try to compromise with your boyfriend.
 
 
 
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