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    Last Monday I messaged a girl that i am interested in on fb messenger saying: "Hey, I'll be at uni this week to meet friends. Wanna meet after?"

    Despite her being online numerous times during the week she didn't officially see the message and at the end of the week she messaged me saying "I only just saw this, sorry".

    I have messaged her numerous times before and she replies that same day so although I can't be sure I' am 95% certain that she saw the message before the end of the week.

    I get that she is not interested in me and I'm not going to message her again. My problem is that this was the first time i tried to make progress with a girl i like and now my confidence has taken a hit. How can i overcome this and the girl?

    I'm a male btw.
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    It's possible she didn't see it. Though if she does have messenger, the notification appears on the phone so she could have just dismissed it and replied at a more "convenient" time.

    Just take it on the chin really. You can take solace from the fact that you asked her out. You haven't really lost much by asking to meet up, at least you know now that she's not interested.
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    Only thing you can do is pick yourself back up and move on. Try not to dwell on it, dating is a lot of trial and error to find someone you connect with. Happens to everyone! :console:
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    I had a similar situation as you but I'm a female. so this pretty much shows that its normal getting rejected especially in such a dry way. like honestly, I wouldn't try with her anymore, if she's interested she has to make the guts to hit u up. if not, don't waste ur time. I'm sure that some day someone will be interested in u even if it doesn't seem like it. the best miracles comes with the unexpected. since its ur first time, theres more to look forward to. my guess is that she did see ur message (probs in the notifications) and decide to show that she's not interested by ignoring without actually hurting ur feelings with words. I guess the best way to get over her is to seek attention from other girls, even if ur not interested in them. because when ur actually hanging and talking to them about literally anything really, u'll become more confident in being urself to others I guess?
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    Well does she want to meet?
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    (Original post by zahlicious)
    I had a similar situation as you but I'm a female. so this pretty much shows that its normal getting rejected especially in such a dry way. like honestly, I wouldn't try with her anymore, if she's interested she has to make the guts to hit u up. if not, don't waste ur time. I'm sure that some day someone will be interested in u even if it doesn't seem like it. the best miracles comes with the unexpected. since its ur first time, theres more to look forward to. my guess is that she did see ur message (probs in the notifications) and decide to show that she's not interested by ignoring without actually hurting ur feelings with words. I guess the best way to get over her is to seek attention from other girls, even if ur not interested in them. because when ur actually hanging and talking to them about literally anything really, u'll become more confident in being urself to others I guess?
    Thanks, I don't really have any regrets about the way i asked her or anything and glad that i finally did it.

    Did you ever message/talk to that person again?
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    Thanks, I don't really have any regrets about the way i asked her or anything and glad that i finally did it.

    Did you ever message/talk to that person again?
    well he and I are having streaks on snapchat HAHAHAH but I only send black screens with the time now

    whenever he'd send something worth replying to I would always reply to make him know that I like him and am interested. but he always ignores so now everything he sends I'd pretend like it means nothing. (and it actually does because now he seems really irrelevant) but if he does send a message, I do reply out of respect and courtesy.
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    Well does she want to meet?
    She replied "I only just saw this, sorry" so i'm guessing she doesn't want to meet otherwise she would have suggested a time that she was free, no?
 
 
 
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