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    So I am all excited about starting uni this year but my only worry is drinking? Do I have to? My dad was a alcoholic for like 12 years and its put me off drinking or drinking a lot at one time. I know the whole thing with uni is clubs and alcohol but the thought alone of drinking and having to go out clubbing I really don't like. Any advice? Do you have to drink in uni?
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    Of course you don't have to drink if you don't want to. Uni is not all about drinking and clubbing. Of course if you don't drink you'll miss out on that environment but there's more to do than drinking. What exactly are you worried about by not drinking? Not being able to make friends? University will have you meet loads of people, on your course, as part of societies, whoever you live with and so on. Not fitting in? Plenty of people don't drink and anyone that judges you for it isn't worth your time.

    I don't drink and I don't go out clubbing. I'm still friends with plenty of people who do and it hasn't mattered in the slightest. I'm only missing out on things I'm not interested in anyway (getting drunk, being out at 2am in a club, etc.)
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    Of course you don't have to drink if you don't want to. Uni is not all about drinking and clubbing. Of course if you don't drink you'll miss out on that environment but there's more to do than drinking. What exactly are you worried about by not drinking? Not being able to make friends? University will have you meet loads of people, on your course, as part of societies, whoever you live with and so on. Not fitting in? Plenty of people don't drink and anyone that judges you for it isn't worth your time.

    I don't drink and I don't go out clubbing. I'm still friends with plenty of people who do and it hasn't mattered in the slightest. I'm only missing out on things I'm not interested in anyway (getting drunk, being out at 2am in a club, etc.)
    Ok thank you :-) my boyfriend who's been to uni says you have to drink and his brother so just got me bit worried
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    No, you absolutely don't - I was so stressed about this before university, please don't worry. You will have to work a bit harder socially than most though - I do have a tee total friend at another uni who has struggled to make friends because she won't go to any social event with alcohol. That's unavoidable I'm afraid. Thing is, there's no better place to find other non/ minimal drinkers than at a drinks event - they're easier to spot. Try and be sociable and friendly, and don't worry about people judging you, they won't. Oh, and you definitely don't need to go clubbing. I went once in freshers, and after about 5 minutes the group of people I was with looked at each other and went "nah". We left and went and drank tea in someone's room instead.
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    No, you absolutely don't - I was so stressed about this before university, please don't worry. You will have to work a bit harder socially than most though - I do have a tee total friend at another uni who has struggled to make friends because she won't go to any social event with alcohol. That's unavoidable I'm afraid. Thing is, there's no better place to find other non/ minimal drinkers than at a drinks event - they're easier to spot. Try and be sociable and friendly, and don't worry about people judging you, they won't. Oh, and you definitely don't need to go clubbing. I went once in freshers, and after about 5 minutes the group of people I was with looked at each other and went "nah". We left and went and drank tea in someone's room instead.
    Haha OK thank you. I don't mind being around people who drink n stuff just don't like doing it myself. I have always had to work harder to get where I wanna go and to do things so I'm good
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    (Original post by Rhian98)
    So I am all excited about starting uni this year but my only worry is drinking? Do I have to? My dad was a alcoholic for like 12 years and its put me off drinking or drinking a lot at one time. I know the whole thing with uni is clubs and alcohol but the thought alone of drinking and having to go out clubbing I really don't like. Any advice? Do you have to drink in uni?
    If you don't want to nobody is going to force you to drink but if you do drink obviously be careful how much you drink, i.e. drink sensibly. Anyways, I'm sure you'll be okay.
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    Drinking and going to clubs is 100% optional at university.
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    Of course you don't have to drink, it's totally your own decision. You can still have a fun night out without drinking.
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    Of course not! One of my flatmates in first year was allergic to alcohol and no one was physically capable of giving a fraction of an iota of the tiniest of shits conceivable about the fact she didn't drink because if she had more than a sip she'd die.

    As long as you're not a hermit or act like a self entitled **** for not drinking, I doubt people will even notice, let alone care
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    you don't have to...

    but the vast majority of people drink, and the majority of social occasions include aclahol.

    So bassically, either you accept that you will be the sober one whilst all your friends are drunk - or you find other people who like socialising without drinking.

    In my first year I tried the first, and it was awful - in my 2nd year I met my wife who also doesn't drink, and we had a pretty great social life for the rest of our time at university, with other people who also didn't drink to much.

    You just need to find them.
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    (Original post by Rhian98)
    Ok thank you :-) my boyfriend who's been to uni says you have to drink and his brother so just got me bit worried
    You can tell your boyfriend he is wrong. People who say you have to drink don't see things from a non-drinkers perspective so don't really know what they're talking about. It's undeniable that you'll miss out on some things by not drinking. But that's no different on missing out on things because you didn't join a society, or because you don't talk to classmates and so on. Drinking and partying is optional
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    You don't need to drink at all. If you're hanging out w ppl who're drinking, and u don't want to, just get a glass of coke or summet. Or just have a very diluted drink. People won't be weird about it if you don't want to drink. i'm not sure ppl really care.
    If anyone is pressuring u to drink, drop em, theres better people u can make friends w.
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    (Original post by Rhian98)
    So I am all excited about starting uni this year but my only worry is drinking? Do I have to? My dad was a alcoholic for like 12 years and its put me off drinking or drinking a lot at one time. I know the whole thing with uni is clubs and alcohol but the thought alone of drinking and having to go out clubbing I really don't like. Any advice? Do you have to drink in uni?
    You don't have to drink.

    I really dislike the taste of alcohol but I still have a beer/glass of wine with a/bunch of friend(s) now and again as a 'social' thing. Certainly not enough to get drunk.
 
 
 
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