Future university plans :3

So my girlfriend is one year older than me and I’ve heard she can choose to stay out of uni dormsinto an apartment/flat in her second year. Since I’m going to be in my first year will I be able to move in with her? Or do I have to stay in uni dorms due to me being a first year?

Reply 1

Pete_M21

11

I haven’t heard or seen anywhere that you must stay in uni halls in your first year of university so you can live with your girlfriend in a flat, however, you may miss out on a lot of social aspects as halls offer a lot for first years to get involved in.

Reply 2

ShadyWhama

OP

7

Oh I see the reason of uni halls now, though I think i will have enough social time during lunch and breaks :smile:

Thanks for your help Pete

Reply 3

PollyParrot23

14

My advice is do not move in with your girlfriend in first year. There's no rush. I know lots of people who didn't live in halls in first year and they ended up feeling isolated. I know you can socialise in your breaks but it's not the same. Halls are a totally different experience which you may or may not like, but uni is all about experiences and trying new things.

Also many couples choose to live together. A lot of them break up. Can you imagine how awkward that is?! I'm sure things with your girlfriend are great but there's guarantee there'll stay great. If you break up or go through a rough patch, there's no escaping her. You're in your first year of uni and I'm not saying you'l deliberately do anything but things happen, you change as you become more grown up and independent so your relationship will likely be tested. No reason it can't last through uni, just don't get yourself into this little 'perfect relationship' bubble, give some thought to realities. I also think it's important to have a separate life, not just be a couple. You have loads of time to see where the relationship goes and move in together when you're in second year or after you've graduated.

Reply 4

ShadyWhama

OP

7

Thanks for your advice, Polly
Though Im going to be in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for a year, when she goes university, I’ll be doing my last year of a levels. once I go into university and make the decision of staying in halls, that will be 2 years of long distance, you say that things may happen and they do.

I notice that we get frustrated at times when we don’t see each other and we end up arguing over the phone - i understand this and I’m not falling for that “perfect couple bubble” that you say of course nobody is perfect. but imagine I push away being together for another year when she’s missing me the most... my relationship is just as well as over. keeping her without me has more of a chance that things could happen - not saying they will but they can. I do give my loved one all my trust but is it really essential that I socialise within halls rather than staying close and secure together with my girlfriend where i can get the same if not better support and with the extra love and care. Of course I will have a separate life from being a couple as I will be studying by myself. this next sentence may be cringe as hell... I have put everything to her because i know she’s the one she’s devoted so much for me as well and I don’t see anything that could break us apart - we’ve gone through a lot of “rough patches” and none of them seem to be able to break our bond.

Specially what do you mean living in halls is different from socialising in breaks. Like will it give me something that will help me in the future because all I see is a lot of distractions and people who I may not really get along with since I’m a born-to-be introvert.

Reply 5

username3720230

10

Original post by ShadyWhama

Thanks for your advice, Polly
Though Im going to be in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for a year, when she goes university, I’ll be doing my last year of a levels. once I go into university and make the decision of staying in halls, that will be 2 years of long distance, you say that things may happen and they do.

I notice that we get frustrated at times when we don’t see each other and we end up arguing over the phone - i understand this and I’m not falling for that “perfect couple bubble” that you say of course nobody is perfect. but imagine I push away being together for another year when she’s missing me the most... my relationship is just as well as over. keeping her without me has more of a chance that things could happen - not saying they will but they can. I do give my loved one all my trust but is it really essential that I socialise within halls rather than staying close and secure together with my girlfriend where i can get the same if not better support and with the extra love and care. Of course I will have a separate life from being a couple as I will be studying by myself. this next sentence may be cringe as hell... I have put everything to her because i know she’s the one she’s devoted so much for me as well and I don’t see anything that could break us apart - we’ve gone through a lot of “rough patches” and none of them seem to be able to break our bond.

Specially what do you mean living in halls is different from socialising in breaks. Like will it give me something that will help me in the future because all I see is a lot of distractions and people who I may not really get along with since I’m a born-to-be introvert.