Am I doing something wrong?

She doesn't know you well.
Personally I'd rather you came up to me on multiple occasions and we talked a bit so I knew you before giving you my number.
Straight up asking for it won't get you anywhere.
How exactly are you asking them? Do you know them well?

If a random person came up to you and chatted with you for a bit and then asked you for your number what would you do?

Frankly, I would say no unless they had similarities with me or something to talk about. (Like gaming or books or something.)

I would probably give it out because I'm a desperate being

The other 5 after that have rejected me because they have a boyfriend or gave me a straight up no.

I even made the effort today to approach and ask if I can sit down with her. She hardly knew English and her banter was dead. Then one of my class mates awkwardly joined us and didn't say anything, then once she had to leave I asked for her phone number and it was still a no. Wtf am I doing wrong?

Why you desperate?

If you are desperate you will find people who are toxic and will manipulate you. (Most likely anyway.)

I just asked if I can sit here (on her table), no she was a random girl I have had my eyes on for some time.

Are you wanting to hook up with these girls?



Why does she have to give her number to you? After things went so awkwardly, what exactly were you expecting?

What is going wrong is that it seems you are so single mindedly pursuing trying to obtain girls numbers, that you're almost completely ignoring how things are actually going on between you two.

If people don't feel any chemistry with you (nothing in common, opposite sense of humour etc) or feel you are coming on too strong or giving off other bad vibes (desperate, needy, insecure or self-absorbed etc), then they're not going to want to invite/encourage you more by giving their number to you.

Try to get to know people more first before asking for numbers. Things have to go naturally well before a number swap is realistically on the cards. Be more mindful of not just how you're coming off to other people, but how they're interpreting you. You can't just force friendship on people (the feelings have to be mutual).

That's my point. She knows virtually nothing about you-I'd rather know something about you or at least have something in common.
Maybe have seen each other about?

Meh I don't know why I'm desperate, her not giving me her number knocks my confidence as well tbh. How would I only find those kind of people?

Yeah we walk past each other quite often, that was my first time going up to her tho.

At least you can go up to people and ask, that is the first step, there will always be times when you are rejected. There are many reasons for this.

Yeah but I don't get why my success rate is at around 15%... It's embarrassing

Yeah I know what you mean, so it was mostly not down to looks (as she let me sit down), it was probably because we weren't that similar etc. Is that what ur trying to say? Okay I will, tbf I may just wait till university now.

Why? That is better than mine which is a 0 since I have never asked for one

Not having any real chemistry going on between you too will certainly discourage a number swap. You need to work on social skills with people everyday regardless of what your intentions are (rather than only approaching people when you have a particular objective in mind). Try not to take rejection too personally (not least because nothing ventured, nothing gained).

Yeah I get ur point but I just find it hard to try and apply that mindset and not care too much