I have relatives in Stamford and love the architecture - having never lived there I couldn't comment accurately on the atmosphere. I haven't lived in Oxford, so I couldn't on how oppressive the architecture might be, but I was dicussing my reasons for applying. At the point of applying, the architecture was enormously attractive and I never once thought it might be oppressive. No doubt all perceived benefits eventually turn out to have their downsides, though. Rather like the unweaving of that awful rainbow...