My mum installed an online dating app on her phone...?

Original post by Anonymous

Hi
I just found out that my mum installed an app called ‘Zoosk’ on her phone. I went on the app to see what it was because I was very curious of the ‘love heart’ app icon. I haven’t seen much after opening the app because I don’t go through her stuff, but now I’m very suspicious to why she would install an app like this on her phone. She’s been married for over 20 years and there are no problems between her and my dad (who lives abroad). Can someone give me advice on what I should and if I should be worried??

Thanks

You have no right to be on your mother's phone. Further to this, your mum's business isn't your business and you don't have the right to invade her privacy.
Children always think they know what is going on in their parents' lives.

Reply 22

TimmonaPortella

Reasons not to dig around in other people's phones.

No idea what I'd actually do in this situation. There's no good solution.

Reply 23

Tootles

Original post by Anonymous

Hi
I just found out that my mum installed an app called ‘Zoosk’ on her phone. I went on the app to see what it was because I was very curious of the ‘love heart’ app icon. I haven’t seen much after opening the app because I don’t go through her stuff, but now I’m very suspicious to why she would install an app like this on her phone. She’s been married for over 20 years and there are no problems between her and my dad (who lives abroad). Can someone give me advice on what I should and if I should be worried??

Thanks

How do you know she and your dad haven't agreed that she can seek attention elsewhere while he's away? Polyamorous relationships/marriages are absolutely a thing, and in secure partnerships can be a very effective and harmless way of relieving sexual stress.

Basically, mind your own ****ing business.

she wants some ****

Original post by random_matt

She's human and has sexual needs, long distance relationships don't work.

Long distance relationships can work.

I did it with my boyfriend for over a year - he lived overseas. Still together a few years on.

Reply 26

lizolove

19

It may be that she has an agreement with your dad that she can see other people.

If you're worried or think it's unfair on your dad, maybe raise it with her. At the end of the day, it isn't really your business, but I can see why you feel concerned. I would probably raise it with her and see what's going on - better to act now than somebody getting hurt unnecessarily.

Reply 27

ann_js

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You could try asking your mum about it. but its very personal as its a relationship between your mum and dad
also why were you going through her phone in the first place?

Reply 28

rdexcite

10

I wouldn't jump to conclusions right away... it's very possible she's never even met up with anyone on the app / just likes the idea of being attractive to men bla bla bla

Reply 29

You should tell your dad. This thread's responses are ridiculous. Honestly switch the genders and there would have been different answers...

Your dad doesn't deserve to be cucked, I assume he sends you guys money from abroad. Your mother is literally free-loading off of him, and then proceeds to cheat. She is in no way the victim. Your dad deserves to know the truth, and you should confront your mother about this.

Reply 30

Original post by Dignifieddeath

Lol I dont think you should be worried , to put it politely your mother is bored and urgently requires (preferably) attractive male company. I am sure your father does the same abroad, too many of us are conditioned to think of our parents as saints but I can assure you that isnt the case. Hope this helps x

You are the very definition of cuckold. If your partner cheated on would you say that?

Reply 31

Dignifieddeath

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Original post by Anti-Fem

You should tell your dad. This thread's responses are ridiculous. Honestly switch the genders and there would have been different answers...

Your dad doesn't deserve to be cucked, I assume he sends you guys money from abroad. Your mother is literally free-loading off of him, and then proceeds to cheat. She is in no way the victim. Your dad deserves to know the truth, and you should confront your mother about this.

Dont make assumptions, my father earned way more money than my mother (he was not rich at all but you get the point) and he never gave my mother a penny.

Reply 32

Original post by Dignifieddeath

Dont make assumptions, my father earned way more money than my mother (he was not rich at all but you get the point) and he never gave my mother a penny.

The money doesn't matter ffs. The whole point is that this man works abroad to support his family and his wife is cheating on him. That is very unfair!

Reply 33

Dignifieddeath

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Original post by Anti-Fem

The money doesn't matter ffs. The whole point is that this man works abroad to support his family and his wife is cheating on him. That is very unfair!

No it isnt, it depends on how the husband is and a combination of other things. I wouldnt be faithful to my husband if he was like my dad a total cheapskate who treated my mum like ****.

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Original post by Dignifieddeath

No it isnt, it depends on how the husband is and a combination of other things. I wouldnt be faithful to my husband if he was like my dad a total cheapskate who treated my mum like ****.

Ok so what if you were abroad working, and you weren't giving that much attention to your husband. So he decides to cheat on you, because as you said he "needs some attractive attention". How would you feel? Would it not be better if this husband of yours split up with you?

Reply 35

Dignifieddeath

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Original post by Anti-Fem

Ok so what if you were abroad working, and you weren't giving that much attention to your husband. So he decides to cheat on you, because as you said he "needs some attractive attention". How would you feel? Would it not be better if this husband of yours split up with you?

lol men always go around cheating all the time, its just about opportunity for them i dont even believe in loyalty and marriage anymore

Reply 36

cat_mac

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If it helps, your dad is probably cheating too.
Living in a different country to your partner isn’t sustainable.

Reply 37

Original post by Dignifieddeath

lol men always go around cheating all the time, its just about opportunity for them i dont even believe in loyalty and marriage anymore

So what, because men cheat, it's alright if you cheat on your partner? I'm not sure what world you live in, but jfc you actually need to open your eyes...

Reply 38

Original post by cat_mac

If it helps, your dad is probably cheating too.
Living in a different country to your partner isn’t sustainable.

That's just making a big assumption...

Reply 39

Little Popcorns