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Who's never been in a relationship?

EDIT: Oh, poop - sorry mods :frown: I still don't know this forum too well and forgot there was a 'Health and Relationships' bit, could someone move it for me? Sorry! I blame it on not feeling too good...

Yes, 'tis I again - I'm not feeling too well right now, and even though I should really be writing on my extended essay literature review, making pasta bake and/or getting dressed for this law thing tonight, I've decided to make another moany thread. Woo. :smile:

So yes, simple question really - who's never had a boyfriend/girlfriend?

I'm 21, never been in a relationship, never really done anything with a guy (apart from hug) and yeah.
It's a little bit annoying, but when you get to 3rd year, the excuse "I don't have enough time atm" really does become valid.
This isn't from a lack of trying, if anyone's interested - I've made it obvious to my fair share of guys in the past, but sadly, it's never been reciprocated.

I honestly do just marvel at people who are in relationships, because the odds that two people will first find each other, then both find each other attractive (in whatever ways you want to interpret this) just seem astronomical to me. Obviously odds increase the more societally 'good-looking' you are (i.e. more people are likely to find you 'attractive', hence you have a wider choice to choose from), but I wouldn't say I was 'bad-looking' - and neither are the other people I know who've never had a r-ship.

I never went through that stage of having all those little bitty things when you're like 12-16 that last for a week or a month, and tbh, that doesn't really appeal to me either. I do think I have a strange mind-set, it's very middle-aged in that I kind of want to go straight into a long-term thing, or maybe even a potential marriage partner (NOT that I want to get married any time soon, but I mean as in being able to invest that sort of commitment and security in another individual).

I was having a good conversation with my housemates last night about my/their relationships, and one of them actually pointed out to me that maybe I won't be able to attain this until I do have (what I would term) a 'mistake' (as in, something which doesn't last very long). I honestly had never thought of that before, but I mean, it's not like I'm going to go out and look for that, just so I can hone my skills to get what I really want :p:

I can think of reasons why I haven't found someone:

- Extremely picky
- Don't really 'go out' that much, hence don't meet men, hence nothing can develop
- Has no male friends because of other weird processes

and etc, etc.
I don't know - relationships seem very difficult, confusing - and yet sometimes extremely rewarding.

It is rather amusing though, because when your DAD starts asking your mum "So...does she have a boyfriend yet?", you know that they think something is up and I'm a closeted lesbian :biggrin:

Anyway yes - who else is with me, and/or would care to elaborate on why they are this way and if it bothers them?

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Reply 1
Me. I'm 18 and as of yet am in pretty much the same situation as you. except it doesnt bother me as much. I think its best for a relationship to take you by chance. If that makes sense. When people find out that I've always been single they're shocked but oh well there's more to life then having a list of relationships in your past.
I'm 16 and I've never been in a relationship. Reason: I'm a nerd.
same here! I've just never struck the gold, and I don't plan to throw myself in a relationship, just want it to come about rather than searching for one! :smile:
Reply 4
Glutamic Acid
I'm 16 and I've never been in a relationship. Reason: I'm a nerd.


I think nerds are cool. :wink:
jillyx
I think nerds are cool. :wink:


:eek: But you're a girl!
Reply 6
Glutamic Acid
:eek: But you're a girl!


Yes...whys that a shock.
I love intellectual conversations and plus some nerdy guys are cute.
Reply 7
I'm 20 and I've never been in a relationship. Even though I go out a normal amount, I guess I don't make enough of an effort to meet new people or get to know people better after I've met them once or twice.

Before I came to uni I didn't really have any female friends. I was more acquaintances with girls at school. I socialised with them but was never particularly close to any of them. Now I'm at uni I've got a few female friends, but that doesn't seem to make any difference to my luck with women.
Reply 8
Glutamic Acid
I'm 16 and I've never been in a relationship. Reason: I'm a nerd.


Reason: you're 16!
Reply 9
Aw, that would be cute if you two found love on this thread, lol! :p:
Reply 10
Three weeks until I'm twenty. Had a girlfriend for two months when I was 16. That's it.
Reply 11
Me, but I'm 17.
Reply 12
Ad-Alta
Aw, that would be cute if you two found love on this thread, lol! :p:


This is why TSR should run a dating service...
Reply 13
I'm 18 and I've never been in a relationship, and I also find it crazy how two people are able to just get together, just like that!
Reply 14
Ad-Alta
Aw, that would be cute if you two found love on this thread, lol! :p:


yeah me agreed.

wait who are we talking about???
jillyx
Yes...whys that a shock.
I love intellectual conversations and plus some nerdy guys are cute.


Heh. Plus I'm rubbish at small talk, I just don't really get it.
Reply 16
I've had one boy who I wanted to be in a relationship with but that was impossible so it was about a year of an fun unrelationship. I spent a lot of that time wanting to be in a relationship & watching other couples do relationshippy things such as .. whinge about why their other half hasn't replied or fighting or being paranoid and jealous (cynical, me?)
Then there was this other thing but it was regrettable& to me not a relationship. Not my definition of.

So I have never been in a relationship. Never properly. Doesn't bother me. I've only ever wanted a relationship with someone when it's been totally out of my grasp :/


I will be that 55 year old single woman with twenty cats.
Reply 17
Glutamic Acid
Heh. Plus I'm rubbish at small talk, I just don't really get it.



ahaha yeah me neither. :p:
L i b
Reason: you're 16!


Err, most people I've come across around my age have had some sort of relationship. Not that it bothers me, I've found my love with maths.
A TSR dating service :shock: sounds good to me.

Yep, 18, never had relationship. I'm only young and still learning. I havent worried about it since i was 17.