What should i do here

Anon because my friends use this.

Well ive been chatting to a really nice girl online for about a week from a dating website. We have exchanged emails and have chatted on msn. I do like the look and sound of her and do want to get to know her more, that is swap phone numbers soonish and have a chat on there. The problem is that she has recently-ish broke up from a long-term relationship of 16 months (her only relationship), so i think shes still trying to get over him, but she also said that she cant wait till he leaves work as its awkward seeing him and talking about his new girlfriend.

However she also mentions she misses aspects of a relationship and being loved bla bla, they did practically see each other the whole time (like they lived together and worked at the same place).

So my question is how slowly should I approach this. Like when should i wait until i ask her for her number?

Reply 1

dh00001

well you can start building a relationship with her and get to know her more. just dont get anything serious until theyre over the ex

Reply 2

Jayjayjay

You should be careful and not push things, go with the flow as it were.

As aforementoned get to know her better, until you are both ready to exchange numbers etc. There may well be a risk of you being a rebound fling or relationship, being with you just because she is recently single and you are there asking for her number very early on, wanting to meet and so on.

Give it some time, until you are sure of her feelings too.

All the best.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Ill try my best to get to know her more, still early days yet :wink:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Is there a timeframe, kind of when can i tell if she is over her ex

Reply 5

randomgirl

There isn't really a time frame, just wait til she is ready. Maybe she'll speak about him less or whatever.

If she likes you she may give you her number eventually, you never know!

Just get to know her on msn for a few days/weeks/months even.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Just an update

From conversation (not from my own pestering) i know her ex is leaving her employment place this friday and she cant wait for him to go. its weird as she says its taking her longer than expected to get over him but still hates the sight of him now.

I have her mobile number now and her facebook contact as well.

Im not sure how to proceed her, a problem ive found is ive always initiated the first contact or conversation (whether on MSN or text), not her. However, she does reply always and we have great long conversations espeically on MSN. Am i reading too much into this?

Im still not sure when I can tell if she is over him and ready to go out on a date. Do you think i should give her a call sometime this week, just a nice friendly chat, or a text again.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Just another update.

She has been acting cold recently with me. Like shes not replied to the texts i send her, and ignores me when she is online. Oh yeah and shes blocked me apparantly on AOL messenger, she is offline on my list but on her facebook it said that she was online.

Oh yeah shes supposidly just come back from a weekend with her aunts and now she is listed as "in a relationship". Great :rolleyes: