Good evening
So, before you all tell me that I am young, have plenty of time, hear my story please.
I am a 22 year old gay male, from England. I came out when I was 18. I have been dating for four years. I have been pretty open about my sexuality since I was 18.
I am coming to the end of my time at University. University was the time I thought most people manage to meet a partner. I am coming to the end of my 4 years, and this also includes living abroad in Europe for a year.
It sounds sad, negative, and self degrading, but maybe I was just never meant to meet anyone. They say someone is out there for everyone, but I can't help but question the validity of this statement.
I get told constantly, that I am good looking, cute, attractive, by girls and guys. I accept I am also not a supermodel either, but point aside, I don't think my looks are really that relevant.
I have been on endless dates. It never goes anywhere. Either they are not interested, or it doesn't go anywhere. Or they are hung up on their ex. Recently, I seem to be attracting a LOT of guys who are not over their ex's, still in love with them. Infact, it has been the case with every guy I met the past year. They might be interested for a short lived time, but realise they are in love with their ex, and then go back to them. Or a guy will be very persistent with me for sex, and when I finally give in, I get the cold shoulder.
I understand a few rejections every now and then is an inevitable part of the dating world but when you simply cannot seem to get past a few dates with a guy, and a guy never feels any sort of connection to you, or develops any feelings, you begin to wonder, what is wrong with me. Clearly something is missing. I just know that I will turn 23, then 25 with the same issues that I have before. I feel that I am always going to attract guys who only want me for sex, or not over their ex's. These guys who want me for sex however, will often then 6 months down the line commit to someone else.
And before you all throw the line 'stop looking, it will find you'. That is what I have been doing, but to no avail.
I just don't see myself ever finding a solution if its been a problem as long as it has. Maybe I just wasn't meant to find anyone, is the sad, but unfortunate reality of myself.
Does anyone else feel like this?