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I've completely lost myself?
Now I don't know if this is the right forum, or whatever, but I feel as if I don't know who I am anymore?
I can't pin point why I feel like this?
I feel as if I have no one? and as a result I feel as if I have lost myself.
Now I have always been a confident person, loud and proud, really outgoing and lively, at school I had loads of groups of mates that I hung out with, however I left to go to college about a year ago and it seems I have become isolated from what I once had.
I've seen my mates from school every few months since I left and to be honest it's not the same anymore, half the time I don't know what their talking about and I just don't seem to fit in.
I'm like an outsider?
I'm single, and have been for around a year now, so I don't have anyone close to talk to, and on top of all this I don't really have anyone at college that I'd class as a 'close mate', sorry if im not making sense, it's just I'm finding this hard to explain?
Since I came to college I guess it's opened up my eyes to how lonely life can be, don't get me wrong, I get on with everyone in my group, in fact there isn't anyone I don't talk to or get on with, it's just after class they all seem to go their own way and I have no one,
I feel like i need someone close, I'm used to having mates I can talk about anything too, but we all seemed to have gone our own ways and it seems to be hitting home how lost I feel.
I feel like a complete idiot typing this because it's almost like a last resort, posting it on a internet forum, but I really don't know what to do, I need someone to be there for me, my mates always had my back, it's what made me, me.
I can't stand not having that and I feel lost in myself. It's not like not having a girlfriend, I can't explain it exactly because it's not like I don't have friends, I do, it's just I have no immediate friends, ones that are always there for you, mates that you can tell absolutely everything too, chill out with, go out and get pissed with, crack jokes with etc.
I just don't know who I am, or what I have anymore?!
Lantick
I can't pin point why I feel like this?
I feel as if I have no one? and as a result I feel as if I have lost myself.
Now I have always been a confident person, loud and proud, really outgoing and lively, at school I had loads of groups of mates that I hung out with, however I left to go to college about a year ago and it seems I have become isolated from what I once had.
I've seen my mates from school every few months since I left and to be honest it's not the same anymore, half the time I don't know what their talking about and I just don't seem to fit in.
I'm like an outsider?
I'm single, and have been for around a year now, so I don't have anyone close to talk to, and on top of all this I don't really have anyone at college that I'd class as a 'close mate', sorry if im not making sense, it's just I'm finding this hard to explain?
Since I came to college I guess it's opened up my eyes to how lonely life can be, don't get me wrong, I get on with everyone in my group, in fact there isn't anyone I don't talk to or get on with, it's just after class they all seem to go their own way and I have no one,
I feel like i need someone close, I'm used to having mates I can talk about anything too, but we all seemed to have gone our own ways and it seems to be hitting home how lost I feel.
I feel like a complete idiot typing this because it's almost like a last resort, posting it on a internet forum, but I really don't know what to do, I need someone to be there for me, my mates always had my back, it's what made me, me.
I can't stand not having that and I feel lost in myself. It's not like not having a girlfriend, I can't explain it exactly because it's not like I don't have friends, I do, it's just I have no immediate friends, ones that are always there for you, mates that you can tell absolutely everything too, chill out with, go out and get pissed with, crack jokes with etc.
I just don't know who I am, or what I have anymore?!
Lantick
I know EXACTLY what you're talking about...i've been through the same thing - when i started college last year i felt the same...and at this moment (as strange it may sound) with all the days out and people i'm meeting and hanging out with, i feel like i don't have anyone close...my friends from last year that were my 'peeps', well they now hav new mates cause we're all doing different subjects...
in response to who you are, you are still the same person, but i think you're main problem is to do with the fact that you're still holding on...when i left, i knew that i'd have to let go to my bestest buddies from high school (something that was hard to do) - i'm not saying you have to, but you must've expected that the conversations would be different.
the thing is, you do have friends, just no 'best friend'...well, that will happen, you just have to be patient...the question is; do you trust anyone you know to become your new best friend?
i find my best friend is whoever i decide to share my most personal feelings, who i trust will take it in appropriately...and trust me, there have been a few mistakes on that front, but at least you know...
...but maybe consider that being a bit of a 'floater friend' - it does have benefits...
hope this helped...if not, sorry...i wish you luck..
glo xxx
in response to who you are, you are still the same person, but i think you're main problem is to do with the fact that you're still holding on...when i left, i knew that i'd have to let go to my bestest buddies from high school (something that was hard to do) - i'm not saying you have to, but you must've expected that the conversations would be different.
the thing is, you do have friends, just no 'best friend'...well, that will happen, you just have to be patient...the question is; do you trust anyone you know to become your new best friend?
i find my best friend is whoever i decide to share my most personal feelings, who i trust will take it in appropriately...and trust me, there have been a few mistakes on that front, but at least you know...
...but maybe consider that being a bit of a 'floater friend' - it does have benefits...
hope this helped...if not, sorry...i wish you luck..
glo xxx
glo316
I know EXACTLY what you're talking about...i've been through the same thing - when i started college last year i felt the same...and at this moment (as strange it may sound) with all the days out and people i'm meeting and hanging out with, i feel like i don't have anyone close...my friends from last year that were my 'peeps', well they now hav new mates cause we're all doing different subjects...
in response to who you are, you are still the same person, but i think you're main problem is to do with the fact that you're still holding on...when i left, i knew that i'd have to let go to my bestest buddies from high school (something that was hard to do) - i'm not saying you have to, but you must've expected that the conversations would be different.
the thing is, you do have friends, just no 'best friend'...well, that will happen, you just have to be patient...the question is; do you trust anyone you know to become your new best friend?
i find my best friend is whoever i decide to share my most personal feelings, who i trust will take it in appropriately...and trust me, there have been a few mistakes on that front, but at least you know...
...but maybe consider that being a bit of a 'floater friend' - it does have benefits...
hope this helped...if not, sorry...i wish you luck..
glo xxx
in response to who you are, you are still the same person, but i think you're main problem is to do with the fact that you're still holding on...when i left, i knew that i'd have to let go to my bestest buddies from high school (something that was hard to do) - i'm not saying you have to, but you must've expected that the conversations would be different.
the thing is, you do have friends, just no 'best friend'...well, that will happen, you just have to be patient...the question is; do you trust anyone you know to become your new best friend?
i find my best friend is whoever i decide to share my most personal feelings, who i trust will take it in appropriately...and trust me, there have been a few mistakes on that front, but at least you know...
...but maybe consider that being a bit of a 'floater friend' - it does have benefits...
hope this helped...if not, sorry...i wish you luck..
glo xxx
I appreciate your reply, I really do.
To be honest that's exactly what I would call myself at this moment in time, a 'floater' friend, gets on with everybody, but doesn't have a select group of mates.
I mean my class at college is split into three different groups, I can see the divide and most of my lecturers can as well.
I'm mates with all three groups but the people in each group keep themselves with the same people almost everyday, where as I'll work with anyone and just get on with it.
However that was ok at first, I mean I got to know everyone but however I know this isn't me, adjusting is harder than I thought it would be and I just can't seem to get round it.
It's not like I'm hard to get on with or anything, it just seems everyone has their own 'best mates' and I have nobody.
It probably wouldn't be as bad if I had a girlfriend, but because I don't at this moment in time I feel like its me against the world, on my own
Lantick
It's actually scary how this is almost word for word, exactly how I would've written such a post, if I were to do so.
I don't know how to help you, because it's me all over. Absolutely crap. I've never felt so low in my whole life.
Sorry you're feeling like this too.
I don't know how to help you, because it's me all over. Absolutely crap. I've never felt so low in my whole life.
Sorry you're feeling like this too.
Becca <3.
It's actually scary how this is almost word for word, exactly how I would've written such a post, if I were to do so.
I don't know how to help you, because it's me all over. Absolutely crap. I've never felt so low in my whole life.
Sorry you're feeling like this too.
I don't know how to help you, because it's me all over. Absolutely crap. I've never felt so low in my whole life.
Sorry you're feeling like this too.
It's just typed as I feel, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way, however it's not because it's possibly the worse feeling ever and I'm sorry your feeling like this too.
I know it probably sounds really sad, but I feel better for posting this on a forum and actually discussing it.
I mean I choose to go to College rather than study pointless As levels at school because it's more 'fitting' for my future, though I sometimes think why didn't I just take the 'easy option' and stay with my mates and take pointless As levels at school because after all your only at school once.
I know this is a few months old, and maybe it's bad form to drag up an oldish thread, but I thought I'd do a search before I started my own thread.
I know just how you feel, OP. I'm in my second year at uni, and while I am happy there and have a boyfriend I met on my course, I don't have a proper group of friends like I did in sixth form. We used to be such a tight-knit group but I haven't made any true friends since I started uni, and all my friends who moved away to uni (I live at home) have made new friends and we barely keep in contact.
This might or might not be the reason why I feel like I've lost myself - I don't know why I feel that way, but I just think I'm different to the person I used to be in school, and because I don't know how or why, I don't know how to get her back. Glad I'm not the only person who's felt like this, but I really hope I can start feeling like myself again.
I know just how you feel, OP. I'm in my second year at uni, and while I am happy there and have a boyfriend I met on my course, I don't have a proper group of friends like I did in sixth form. We used to be such a tight-knit group but I haven't made any true friends since I started uni, and all my friends who moved away to uni (I live at home) have made new friends and we barely keep in contact.
This might or might not be the reason why I feel like I've lost myself - I don't know why I feel that way, but I just think I'm different to the person I used to be in school, and because I don't know how or why, I don't know how to get her back.
Glad I'm not the only person who's felt like this, but I really hope I can start feeling like myself again.
perhaps its time to start pushing yourself to make an effort with new people? like really try and ask someone if they wanna go out somewhere like for a drink or a few people to bowling or something? maybe with that extra push people will become your closer friends. i didnt have any friends at all when i started college and tbh it feels like im always having an identity crisis coz whilst i ahve frineds i can sort of talk too.. they are very different from me and sometimes we just on such different levels with things i find it hard to beleive they will fully understand me or i find it hard to relate to them.
Sound slike you need to just go out and have a good time tho.. with someone, get stories to tell people.
I guess also when iv told anyone that i feel like iv lost msyelf iv been told to nto think who i am. Its one of those things thats harder said than done but i guess if your not thinking who you are.. you will naturally become yourself.
I know its hard right now but just try and find all the enjoyment you can and make the best of it. you wont be at college for a very long time..
Hope thats some help and not just a big ramble..
all the best
Sound slike you need to just go out and have a good time tho.. with someone, get stories to tell people.
I guess also when iv told anyone that i feel like iv lost msyelf iv been told to nto think who i am. Its one of those things thats harder said than done but i guess if your not thinking who you are.. you will naturally become yourself.
I know its hard right now but just try and find all the enjoyment you can and make the best of it. you wont be at college for a very long time..
Hope thats some help and not just a big ramble..
all the best
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