Experience dating someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) Watch

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I am dating someone who I am pretty certain has BPD. Anyone else been in this position? How did you deal with their emotional episodes?
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I am dating someone who I am pretty certain has BPD. Anyone else been in this position? How did you deal with their emotional episodes?
I can't say I have that experience, but I'd suggest staying calm at all times if you can; appreciate that some of their thoughts might not seem rational to you, but arguing with them constantly over it won't always lead to the best outcome.
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I can't say I have that experience, but I'd suggest staying calm at all times if you can; appreciate that some of their thoughts might not seem rational to you, but arguing with them constantly over it won't always lead to the best outcome.
Thanks! I do try, but the things she comes out with when she's irrational is definitely getting me to doubt myself
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Thanks! I do try, but the things she comes out with when she's irrational is definitely getting me to doubt myself
Doubt yourself about what?:curious:
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About not treating her as well as I think I do
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Thanks! I do try, but the things she comes out with when she's irrational is definitely getting me to doubt myself
Try not to take it personally although ik it's hard, if you know it's irrational she will too when she isn't in that head space. If she is being really out of order though that isn't acceptable. I would want someone to be understanding and considerate (have bpd) but wouldn't want them to let me get away with stuff although most of my stuff is directed at myself but still.
Is nice of you for trying to understand tbh, is such a stigma about it some people would run a mile
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Been through this unfortunately and searched up what I should expect. Every forum told me to forget about it cause 99% of the times it won’t work out, I thought this was bs. After two breakups I can confirm this is true in most cases, try as much as you like but if it gets to the point your risking your own sanity for her, better to dump.
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Been through this unfortunately and searched up what I should expect. Every forum told me to forget about it cause 99% of the times it won’t work out, I thought this was bs. After two breakups I can confirm this is true in most cases, try as much as you like but if it gets to the point your risking your own sanity for her, better to dump.
Same experience here. Was an absolute disaster. I dated a guy with BPD and I was in an awful emotional state for a year during the relationship as I was constantly emotionally manipulated with his emotions projected onto me. I isolated myself from friends and began failing at school due to the stress. The school ended up getting involved - the reason why we have had no contact since. Despite being very aware and supportive of the disorder we went through many breakups and getting back together - it still failed. Don't bother.
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I think not taking things personally, like has already been said, would be a good start.

Just a warning that if you Google "dating someone with BPD" you'll find a lot of horrible articles which are purely based on that person's own experiences, and sometimes not at all. Although you should mindful, take these with a pinch of salt - every individual with BPD is different and therefore every relationship will be different as well. Just because other people may have had bad experiences with someone with BPD, it doesn't mean you will.
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Same experience here. Was an absolute disaster. I dated a guy with BPD and I was in an awful emotional state for a year during the relationship as I was constantly emotionally manipulated with his emotions projected onto me. I isolated myself from friends and began failing at school due to the stress. The school ended up getting involved - the reason why we have had no contact since. Despite being very aware and supportive of the disorder we went through many breakups and getting back together - it still failed. Don't bother.
Did your BF actually have a diagnosis of BPD? if he did i am surprised since you say you were at school yet psychiatrists dont like to diagnose people under 19.
You also can't say to OP not to bother with everyone who has BPD based off of one negative experience
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