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Yesterday, I was at TKMaxx with my mum, and the guy serving us was clearly gay. I found him quite attractive and gave him the eye/ "gayze". It felt really nice.

This did remind me that I don't have any gay people in my life outside the Internet, and I want that to change. Being in a position where I don't have much friends, I would like to spend more time around gay people and possibly even find a bit of romance.

My school is Catholic and I live in a town which feels a bit void of gayness, so I'm not really sure where to start. It's my last year of school next year if that makes any difference.
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Anyone got some advice? As I said, that encounter with the guy yesterday felt really nice, and I would love to have more interaction with gay people. I see them as my true friends anyway.
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Anyone got some advice? As I said, that encounter with the guy yesterday felt really nice, and I would love to have more interaction with gay people. I see them as my true friends anyway.
If possible, move to another city. If you're thinking of going to Uni, choose a city that's full of gay folk

I'm pretty sure Brighton is the gayest city in the UK and at one point, it was the gayest city in the world. Gayness aside, it's a great city. Pleasant vibes, lots to do, plenty of young, good looking individuals, clubs, cafes, a cool pier, no shortage of jobs etc. Living there is expensive though.

Funny, I always assumed gay people would have an easier time meeting up and getting laid
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If possible, move to another city. If you're thinking of going to Uni, choose a city that's full of gay folk

I'm pretty sure Brighton is the gayest city in the UK and at one point, it was the gayest city in the world. Gayness aside, it's a great city. Pleasant vibes, lots to do, plenty of young, good looking individuals, clubs, cafes, a cool pier, no shortage of jobs etc. Living there is expensive though.

Funny, I always assumed gay people would have an easier time meeting up and getting laid
I'm in Glasgow just now if that helps.
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Yesterday, I was at TKMaxx with my mum, and the guy serving us was clearly gay. I found him quite attractive and gave him the eye/ "gayze". It felt really nice.

This did remind me that I don't have any gay people in my life outside the Internet, and I want that to change. Being in a position where I don't have much friends, I would like to spend more time around gay people and possibly even find a bit of romance.

My school is Catholic and I live in a town which feels a bit void of gayness, so I'm not really sure where to start. It's my last year of school next year if that makes any difference.
This sounds like you could have written this for me, I have the exact same problem! However, I’ve kind of just accepted I need to wait until to uni to meet any other gay people I really like... sorry, ik that’s not much help, but I’m in the exact same boat
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Brighton does sound like the exact opposite of Glasgow, Might be a nice place.

Anyone who would say that I could get what I am wanting if I stayed in Glasgow?
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Brighton does sound like the exact opposite of Glasgow, Might be a nice place.

Anyone who would say that I could get what I am wanting if I stayed in Glasgow?
Glasgow is absolutely not devoid of gay people. It's the gay capital of Scotland and has the largest Pride festival in Scotland. I met my bf at Glasgow Pride last summer.

Pride is in August this year I believe, and I would wholeheartedly encourage you to go to that, but if you're not prepared to wait until then your best bet would be one of the clubs or groups that LGBT Scotland and the like run. There should be specific ones for young people, usually 13-18 and then 18-25 IIRC.

If you already know some gay people though, you're as well meeting people through them. I was the only gay kid at my old school but I still knew a ton of gay people across the country through the Gayvine. One bizarrely fruitful place is Reddit - I've met several guys off there, both as friends and as... the other thing. Also, the first date I ever had with a dude was through Yellow, but apparently it's now 80% over 18's, so maybe avoid that.

Failing all of that, all you can really do is wait. Practically any uni you go to will have a ton of gay people and gay-friendly societies/ clubs, so you'll meet plenty of other gays there.

Finally, as fabulous as we are as a community, the test of your friends and the people you hang out with shouldn't be their sexuality. Having good friends, gay or straight, is the most important thing as a teenager. Straights also have the advantage that if you do crush on them, you know for certain nothing will ever come of it, and it's a lot easier to get over. It is much, much worse getting a crush on your gay friends, believe me.
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Glasgow is absolutely not devoid of gay people. It's the gay capital of Scotland and has the largest Pride festival in Scotland. I met my bf at Glasgow Pride last summer.

Pride is in August this year I believe, and I would wholeheartedly encourage you to go to that, but if you're not prepared to wait until then your best bet would be one of the clubs or groups that LGBT Scotland and the like run. There should be specific ones for young people, usually 13-18 and then 18-25 IIRC.

If you already know some gay people though, you're as well meeting people through them. I was the only gay kid at my old school but I still knew a ton of gay people across the country through the Gayvine. One bizarrely fruitful place is Reddit - I've met several guys off there, both as friends and as... the other thing. Also, the first date I ever had with a dude was through Yellow, but apparently it's now 80% over 18's, so maybe avoid that.

Failing all of that, all you can really do is wait. Practically any uni you go to will have a ton of gay people and gay-friendly societies/ clubs, so you'll meet plenty of other gays there.

Finally, as fabulous as we are as a community, the test of your friends and the people you hang out with shouldn't be their sexuality. Having good friends, gay or straight, is the most important thing as a teenager. Straights also have the advantage that if you do crush on them, you know for certain nothing will ever come of it, and it's a lot easier to get over. It is much, much worse getting a crush on your gay friends, believe me.
Thanks for your response - It's quite long so I'll break down my responses to numbered points.
1) I'm on holiday during Glasgow Pride this year (July 8th & 9th), so that isn't an option. I really wish that I could go there though.
2) I wish that I could go to the LGBT Scotland type meetings, but I'm not out to family, so that makes it harder.
3) I don't know any gay people, bar people on the Internet, who don't live near me.
4) Uni is still 17 months away, and honestly, I can't wait until then. My "people", so to speak, aren't at my school (given up trying there) so quite frankly I will just be lonely and friendless if I wait for almost a year and a half.
5) I can't hang around with straight guys. I agree that having good friends is important and it has made my life a lot harder, but a gay/straight guy friendship is never viable, especially considering what most straight guys are like. I also worry with straight girls that I will be typecast, or even worse, seen as not good enough to be their "gay friend". Gay guys seem like the perfect friends for me.
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I nearly thought that this thread was deleted there! Glad it hasn't been in the end.

So, would you say that there are any ways for me to do this? I don't want to be without gay people in my life any more.
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Thanks for your response - It's quite long so I'll break down my responses to numbered points.
1) I'm on holiday during Glasgow Pride this year (July 8th & 9th), so that isn't an option. I really wish that I could go there though.
2) I wish that I could go to the LGBT Scotland type meetings, but I'm not out to family, so that makes it harder.
3) I don't know any gay people, bar people on the Internet, who don't live near me.
4) Uni is still 17 months away, and honestly, I can't wait until then. My "people", so to speak, aren't at my school (given up trying there) so quite frankly I will just be lonely and friendless if I wait for almost a year and a half.
5) I can't hang around with straight guys. I agree that having good friends is important and it has made my life a lot harder, but a gay/straight guy friendship is never viable, especially considering what most straight guys are like. I also worry with straight girls that I will be typecast, or even worse, seen as not good enough to be their "gay friend". Gay guys seem like the perfect friends for me.
Sorry about the length I went on a bit of a rant. You scared me a bit there because if it was on the 8th and 9th I wouldn't be able to go to either Glasgow or Edinburgh Pride and that would suck. The website says it's on the 14th and 15th of July if that changes anything for you. My bf isn't out to his family either and I know that made things harder for him too, so I appreciate your situation there. I also know what you mean about our "people" - before I was friends with gays, I always wished I had gay friends. I thought they would all be like Damian from Mean Girls or something.

Gay friends can be just as annoying and dumb and trashy as straights. Also, don't give up on straight boys. My best friends are straight boys and, though they are massive pricks, they are the good kind. Some straight girls will typecast you as 'gay best friend' and be annoying about it, but with the majority of girls, I find that I typecast myself into that role more than they typecast me.

Long story short, sexuality and gender don't affect how good you are of a person. There are awesome straight boys and annoying gay boys. If you want IRL gay friends specifically then you're probably out of luck, barring others being in the closet. My only advice is to work with what you have right now. Would it be great to have some gay friends, who share a common experience and identity with you? Yeah. But the straights really aren't all that bad. Some of them are great.
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Sorry about the length I went on a bit of a rant. You scared me a bit there because if it was on the 8th and 9th I wouldn't be able to go to either Glasgow or Edinburgh Pride and that would suck. The website says it's on the 14th and 15th of July if that changes anything for you. My bf isn't out to his family either and I know that made things harder for him too, so I appreciate your situation there. I also know what you mean about our "people" - before I was friends with gays, I always wished I had gay friends. I thought they would all be like Damian from Mean Girls or something.
That must be tough if your BF is still closeted. I get back into Scotland on July 15th, so probably not an option either. I wish it was August again like last year.

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Gay friends can be just as annoying and dumb and trashy as straights. Also, don't give up on straight boys. My best friends are straight boys and, though they are massive pricks, they are the good kind. Some straight girls will typecast you as 'gay best friend' and be annoying about it, but with the majority of girls, I find that I typecast myself into that role more than they typecast me.
I can't be friends with straight men. I've had too many bad experiences with them, and long story short - Given my personality, I don't think that I could be friends with them. Plus, do straight men want gay friends? For me, it does change the dynamic. It was a really different feeling seeing a gay person for once yesterday, and I felt good around him, as opposed to straight men who suck the life out of me.

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Long story short, sexuality and gender don't affect how good you are of a person. There are awesome straight boys and annoying gay boys. If you want IRL gay friends specifically then you're probably out of luck, barring others being in the closet. My only advice is to work with what you have right now. Would it be great to have some gay friends, who share a common experience and identity with you? Yeah. But the straights really aren't all that bad. Some of them are great.
I know what you mean, but I am stuck at a school where I simply just don't have anyone, and they clearly aren't there, so it is time for me to try something else. I can't relate to straight guys and they are polar opposites to me, so I will avoid them as future friends. Gay guys are the types that I want to be friends with, and friendship won't feel right until it is the case. I really need some gay guys as friends IRL, but they seem to be nowhere.
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Looking at straight guys in my life - the dynamic is completely off when with them and I have encountered some really nasty guys that make me think that I can't trust straight guys with friendship again. Even seeing the way that my dad and his friends interact makes me cringe.
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What about a boyfriend? Any way that I could get one? I want one but that would also expand the LGBT people in my life.
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Yesterday, I was at TKMaxx with my mum, and the guy serving us was clearly gay. I found him quite attractive and gave him the eye/ "gayze". It felt really nice.

This did remind me that I don't have any gay people in my life outside the Internet, and I want that to change. Being in a position where I don't have much friends, I would like to spend more time around gay people and possibly even find a bit of romance.

My school is Catholic and I live in a town which feels a bit void of gayness, so I'm not really sure where to start. It's my last year of school next year if that makes any difference.
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what do you mean?
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I'm afraid that is an incorrect answer!
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Yesterday, I was at TKMaxx with my mum, and the guy serving us was clearly gay. I found him quite attractive and gave him the eye/ "gayze". It felt really nice.

This did remind me that I don't have any gay people in my life outside the Internet, and I want that to change. Being in a position where I don't have much friends, I would like to spend more time around gay people and possibly even find a bit of romance.

My school is Catholic and I live in a town which feels a bit void of gayness, so I'm not really sure where to start. It's my last year of school next year if that makes any difference.
Tbf other than gay bars I'm not sure. Then again I can't really tell so it might be different for you
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