Can i say"i've been having problems with my mental health" without having an illness Watch

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Little bit of backstory , spring term of 2018 has probably been one of my worst in terms of how my mental health was. Everyday i was feeling depressed and i kept myself isolated from everyone (friends and family) I had no enjoyment and had no passion and i never spoke to anyone at all.



Now just to clarify i wouldn't say i have a mental illness and i'm feeling alot better about myself now after some videos i watched so i definitely don't have depression, but from january-march i was feeling upset about myself constantly and i was being less sociable and more afraid to socialise with others.



The problem is that when i went up to the group of people i normally hang out with i talked to them about how i felt these past couple of months and why they haven't seen me (i would normally go and stay in the library during lunch times and frees) and they just simply said "you can't have mental health issues because you don't have a mental health illness" even though i never said that i had depression or anxiety but this is how i felt these past couple of months



so i have 2 questions :



1) Can i say that my mental health hasn't been doing ok ,even though i don't have a proper mental illness , bearing in mind that nothing has happened to make me upset these past months so nothing is making me upset it's just how i felt these last months , just depressed



2) Are my friends correct in what they said



any help appreciated , thanks
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oops the title should be :

Can i say"i've been having problems with my mental health" without having a proper mental illness
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Absolutely. You don't need depression to say that you have had a real period of low moods, hell no one is perfect. Just because people haven't been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, eating disorders doesn't mean they can't suffer with those illnesses or that "normal" people never suffer with any mental health issues.

I can see why maybe they could be right, depending on your wording or how they think you are acting but in a general sense, no. They should have been more concerned with you, try to gauge how you actually are feeling before making any judgements. I would only expect their sort of remarks if you went around saying that you have clinical depression every two weeks.
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Absolutely. You don't need depression to say that you have had a real period of low moods, hell no one is perfect. Just because people haven't been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, eating disorders doesn't mean they can't suffer with those illnesses or that "normal" people never suffer with any mental health issues.

I can see why maybe they could be right, depending on your wording or how they think you are acting but in a general sense, no. They should have been more concerned with you, try to gauge how you actually are feeling before making any judgements. I would only expect their sort of remarks if you went around saying that you have clinical depression every two weeks.
i made a new thread cause i left something out , but thank you
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Little bit of backstory , spring term of 2018 has probably been one of my worst in terms of how my mental health was. Everyday i was feeling depressed and i kept myself isolated from everyone (friends and family) I had no enjoyment and had no passion and i never spoke to anyone at all.



Now just to clarify i wouldn't say i have a mental illness and i'm feeling alot better about myself now after some videos i watched so i definitely don't have depression, but from january-march i was feeling upset about myself constantly and i was being less sociable and more afraid to socialise with others.



The problem is that when i went up to the group of people i normally hang out with i talked to them about how i felt these past couple of months and why they haven't seen me (i would normally go and stay in the library during lunch times and frees) and they just simply said "you can't have mental health issues because you don't have a mental health illness" even though i never said that i had depression or anxiety but this is how i felt these past couple of months



so i have 2 questions :



1) Can i say that my mental health hasn't been doing ok ,even though i don't have a proper mental illness , bearing in mind that nothing has happened to make me upset these past months so nothing is making me upset it's just how i felt these last months , just depressed



2) Are my friends correct in what they said



any help appreciated , thanks
Hi there. This is a topic that I think a lot of people find difficult and I expect a lot of people have a similar view to your friends. You can have difficulties with your mental health without having an actual mental health condition though.

"Mental health" means the overall wellness of your thoughts and emotions and any little negative thing is technically a problem with your mental health. Even being sad cos you dropped your ice cream is technically a short term issue with your mental health. We don't call it that or treat it like a big deal cos we know it will pass soon, but with longer things it's far more reasonable to refer to them as a problem with mental health.

Things like grieving and heartbreak are something we on the whole treat more seriously and empathetically because they are longer lasting and have a deeper affect on us and our lives. Those are legitimate issues with somebody's mental health. They aren't mental health conditions, but they are having a long term negative impact on a persons mental state.
It's the same even if there's no reason (or no obvious reason) for that negative effect. There's still a long term negative impact. It's affecting thoughts and emotions so it's mental and it's lasting a while and isn't nice so it's a problem. Mental + problem = mental problem.

It's just like how you can have a tummy ache without having IBS or worms and how you can have a headache without having concussion or a brain tumour. Those are physical health issues with no actual condition causing them.


You can absolutely say that you've been having some difficulties with your mental health.

You might also like to consider getting some support from your GP or somebody like a counsellor though if you're still not feeling great. They can help you out with how you're feeling and may also be able to give you some tips on how to explain it to people.


Hope that makes sense.
Btw, I've edited you title a bit for you. There's a limit on the number of letters you can use so it's a bit different to what you wanted originally. I'm also going to pop this into the mental health section.
(I removed your other thread because it looks identical to me. Please let me know if there was anything different and I can edit it in here for you)
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Of course you can have mental health issues without actually having a diagnosed mental illness. Stress is the first example that comes to mind - whilst it's not an illness, it can severely impact your mental wellbeing and can be just as debilitating.
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