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Reply 101

I'm suprised so many people think 15 is too young.
Some people may still be really immature at that age, but some people are really immature until they're completely out of education at 25.

I just think once you get to about 13/14 age doesn't have anything to do with it. it's how mature you are as a person.
I'm 19 by the way and all that's different in sex now and when I was younger is that I'm less self conscious and not afraid to give myself a good time - despite any boob wobblage or embarassing noises.

for most people, attitudes to sex change as they go through life. what's to say there's anything wrong with having sex young if the people feel ready and want to do it? especially if they're in a relationship and really care about the person.

Reply 102

Because any sex risks pregnancy even if protection is used and frankly I'd be surprised if anyone here who was having sex at 11 would have been capable of being a parent. The age of consent isn't just in place due to the maturity involved in the act of having sex, it's there because it assumes a certain maturity associated with dealing with any consequences of having sex too.

Reply 103

15.

What's with all the virginity threads of late.

Reply 104

Angelil
Because any sex risks pregnancy even if protection is used and frankly I'd be surprised if anyone here who was having sex at 11 would have been capable of being a parent. The age of consent isn't just in place due to the maturity involved in the act of having sex, it's there because it assumes a certain maturity associated with dealing with any consequences of having sex too.


pregnancy does not = becoming a parent.

also I said 15 being young. once you get to around 14 the level of maturity really ranges among people.
I also know plenty of extremely immature 16 year olds, far less mature than I was at say 13/14. but because they're 16 they're magically capable of dealing with things?

as for the parenting thing, it's suprising how quickly people grow up and learn to be a decent parent when they become pregnant and really want to keep the baby. I Watched a program not long (born survivors?) ago about a 13 year old having a baby and it suprised me how adult she was about the whole thing.

Reply 105

One of my friends is pregnant at 17, and I actually admire her courage and the way in which she is handling it. She is still doing her A levels, she has her own flat (NOT a council flat, not that there is anything wrong with that in certain circumstances), she has got a job and I really bloody look up to her.
It depends on the person.

Reply 106

Anonymous
pregnancy does not = becoming a parent.

also I said 15 being young. once you get to around 14 the level of maturity really ranges among people.
I also know plenty of extremely immature 16 year olds, far less mature than I was at say 13/14. but because they're 16 they're magically capable of dealing with things?

as for the parenting thing, it's suprising how quickly people grow up and learn to be a decent parent when they become pregnant and really want to keep the baby. I Watched a program not long (born survivors?) ago about a 13 year old having a baby and it suprised me how adult she was about the whole thing.

Where did I say anything about becoming magically capable?
Plus, when you do ANYTHING you have to be prepared for POTENTIAL failure, not just sex. If you go for a job you have to prepare for the fact that you might not get it. If you participate in extreme sports you have to prepare for the fact that you might get hurt etc. While I know that sex doesn't automatically equal pregnancy, it's foolish to think that using a condom automatically protects you as well (HOW many stories have you heard about contraception failing? Lots, no doubt.).

Reply 107

Angelil
Where did I say anything about becoming magically capable?
Plus, when you do ANYTHING you have to be prepared for POTENTIAL failure, not just sex. If you go for a job you have to prepare for the fact that you might not get it. If you participate in extreme sports you have to prepare for the fact that you might get hurt etc. While I know that sex doesn't automatically equal pregnancy, it's foolish to think that using a condom automatically protects you as well (HOW many stories have you heard about contraception failing? Lots, no doubt.).


you were talking about the age of consent being there becuase it's linked to how mature you are. I was just saying I don't think maturity is particularly linked to age.

when did i say when you don't have to be prepared for what could happen? All I've talked about is the link between maturity and age.

Reply 108

I lost it in the womb.

Reply 109

Depending on which count you mean, I'd say either 16 or 19.

Was bloody confusing very first time round and the second time.... let's just say never again.

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Reply 111

Anonymous
pregnancy does not = becoming a parent.

so what you support abortion? Tell me how these kids (yes kids cos that's what they are at 10-13) could handle the fact of being pregnant, deciding whether to keep or abort it. The legal age limit (16 where I live) is in place for a reason. If 11 year olds were mentally and emotionally and physically (sometimes) capable of making such decisions about sex, etc then that would be the set age. In high school, there must have been about 5 girls who got pregnant and had the child. It was a sad sight to see. Who do you think brought up these kids? it was mostly their parents or older siblings. It's different for every family, but the girls who were silly wnough to get pregant weren't the 'smartest' people in the world. They were the kids under the bridge smoking and doing drugs. What kind of life do you think their children will lead? the thought of kids ****ing scares and disgusts me so much.

Reply 112

Butterflies & Hurricanes
so what you support abortion? Tell me how these kids (yes kids cos that's what they are at 10-13) could handle the fact of being pregnant, deciding whether to keep or abort it. The legal age limit (16 where I live) is in place for a reason. If 11 year olds were mentally and emotionally and physically (sometimes) capable of making such decisions about sex, etc then that would be the set age. In high school, there must have been about 5 girls who got pregnant and had the child. It was a sad sight to see. Who do you think brought up these kids? it was mostly their parents or older siblings. It's different for every family, but the girls who were silly wnough to get pregant weren't the 'smartest' people in the world. They were the kids under the bridge smoking and doing drugs. What kind of life do you think their children will lead? the thought of kids ****ing scares and disgusts me so much.


I wasn't talking about 10-13. I was talking 13/14 onwards. and said so.
I got pregnant when I was 12 (through rape) and I was mature enough to really think about what to do and went through with the abortion. I know it's a little different but I really do think people can handle it.
also I've said in this thread that personally I think don't think sex at 12 is right.

If you're not mature enough to have sex you shouldn't. but I think at 15 (which was the age I orginially mentioned) there are people who are fully capable of handling sex and all that could come with it.
the age of consent really has little to do with whether you could handle being pregnant. there are people in their 20's/30's who become pregnant and completely freak out.

Reply 113

Im not against abortion, but if you just waited until you're of legal age, maybe by then you would have more of a choice if you did manage to get pregnant, whether or not you use contraception.

Reply 114

Anonymous
I wasn't talking about 10-13. I was talking 13/14 onwards. and said so.
I got pregnant when I was 12 (through rape) and I was mature enough to really think about what to do and went through with the abortion. I know it's a little different but I really do think people can handle it.
also I've said in this thread that personally I think don't think sex at 12 is right.

If you're not mature enough to have sex you shouldn't. but I think at 15 (which was the age I orginially mentioned) there are people who are fully capable of handling sex and all that could come with it.
the age of consent really has little to do with whether you could handle being pregnant. there are people in their 20's/30's who become pregnant and completely freak out.

Oh that's so terrible im so sorry. :s:You must be a brave person to have dealt with all that at such a ripe age.

Reply 115

Butterflies & Hurricanes
Oh that's so terrible im so sorry. :s:You must be a brave person to have dealt with all that at such a ripe age.


Yeh, I agree....

Reply 116

I got pregnant when I was 12 (through rape) and I was mature enough to really think about what to do and went through with the abortion. I know it's a little different but I really do think people can handle it.
also I've said in this thread that personally I think don't think sex at 12 is right.


That's a horrible thing to go through. Well done for being able to talk about it.

I lost my virginity at 17, which seemed incredibly old compared to all of my friends and I felt like the last person ever, which was horrible. But at least I didn't regret it when it did happen. One of my guy friends lost it when he was 10. I find that *really* weird.

Reply 117

Blue Rose
18 still got it. So you know I'll be at least 18 when it happens. I think I'll be older than 19 too. Probably older than 20 too. Don't really wanna lose it to be honest. Not for a while yet. There's no rush.
Same, but I'm a year older (20 in September). I see no point in just getting it done. If I can have fun with a girl in another way that leaves us both satisfied, then why take it further? If it happens, it happens, but I don't need it to happen.

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