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Is it just me or do girls always go for looks.

Hi Guys,

Im 16, and it seems to me that every girl I see and try and get to know, always goes for looks. I admit im not the nicest looking guy in the world, but I am one of the nicest guys on the inside (so family say etc) and almost all of the girls I know go for looks. It really does bug me, and Ive been single for at least 18 months now, after my last relationship ended for some stupid reason.


But since then, ive tried and make a girl like me, but they are all the same and only go by whats on the outside. I hate being single tbh, I donno why, and although it might be a sad thing to be hating, but i do :smile:

I was just wondering whether its true for someo ther boys out there trying to get a girl >.>

Thanks for your advice in anticipation,
Kingsley :smile: xox

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Nope, so very not true. You'll get someone eventually, and at least when you have a girlfriend you'll know it's because they like you for who you are :smile:
Reply 2
Females are strange. QED.
Well im a girl and i hardly go for looks at all, i mean i would probably reserve if a guy was like hideously, absolutly, revolting (Like i mean gives the hunchback of dotre dame a run for his money) but im guessing that you probably arn't like that. I mean yes looks is always a bonus but i mean eventually looks are gonna go away so if ur a crap person inside then you will die ugly, old and alone. So in short, i'm a girl and i go for personality anyday. xx
you're 16. Its a bit early to be tarring an entire gender don't you think
Reply 5
I agree to some point. Some wont notice you as boyfriend material if they dont like your looks straght away. But then some girls need to look closer to realise what a catch most guys are. A lot of my male mates have trouble getting girls because theyre not imediately attractive. Although, having known them some years, if I wasnt such good friends with them, I would date them. Because when you start to look closer, my mates are HOT! I guess it's like a vicious circle: not attracted at first; become friends; look closer and realise they're hot; now too late to do anything about it cause you're "such good friends" :frown:
No, that's definitely not true. It varies from girl to girl - some girls do go for looks admittedly but others don't.
Definitely not true. Although maybe at the age of 16 its truer than say when you're 19, well it was for me anyway i must admit. At the moment I really like someone whos really not that good looking if im honest but hes got an amazing personality. Give it time and the right girl will come along.
Reply 8
southernlight
Nope, so very not true. You'll get someone eventually, and at least when you have a girlfriend you'll know it's because they like you for who you are :smile:


Hahah. That last bit of your statement is hilariously harsh. Or, she could just have set the bar really really low :biggrin:
Is it just me, or do all these threads start with "is it just me?" :p:

And, of course girls will be prejudice over looks when picking guys - most men are over women' looks.

After that first hurdle, THEN you can start to get along...

:smile:
Reply 10
this is a joke right, you sound more like a 40 year old bitter misogynist.
ramzwj
Hahah. That last bit of your statement is hilariously harsh. Or, she could just have set the bar really really low :biggrin:


Dammit, I was hoping it wouldn't come out too harsh :frown: I meant it in the nicest way OP! :smile:
Reply 12
Kingsley2003
I am one of the nicest guys on the inside (so family say etc)


At least your mum loves you. :smile:
Not just looks.

Money too. :eek:
Reply 14
Kingsley2003
Hi Guys,

Im 16, and it seems to me that every girl I see and try and get to know, always goes for looks. I admit im not the nicest looking guy in the world, but I am one of the nicest guys on the inside (so family say etc) and almost all of the girls I know go for looks. It really does bug me, and Ive been single for at least 18 months now, after my last relationship ended for some stupid reason.


Quite a biased view there.
Stop worrying and have some fun! You are 16 so get on out there! You'll meet someone and frankly if a person judges you JUST on your appearance they're not worth worrying over! :biggrin:
I guess you just haven't found the right girl yet.

It's only natural to base your first impressions on appearance. Within a few seconds of seeing you, a girl will probably have made a decision as to whether or not she would date you on the basis of looks alone. Once this provisional decision is made, it's just a question of how much you can do to either turn it around or help confirm it. I'm sure you're not as bad-looking as you think. Girls are (in my opinion) far more difficult to predict in terms of what/who they find attractive.
Reply 17
TuckingFypo™
Not just looks.

Money too. :eek:


hahahaha :biggrin: beat me to it
Kingsley2003
Hi Guys,

Im 16, and it seems to me that every girl I see and try and get to know, always goes for looks. I admit im not the nicest looking guy in the world, but I am one of the nicest guys on the inside (so family say etc) and almost all of the girls I know go for looks. It really does bug me, and Ive been single for at least 18 months now, after my last relationship ended for some stupid reason.


The fact that you are conceding that other men are attractive, plus -

xox


Well... I don't want to jump to any conclusions.
To be fair, at 16 he's probably right. Most girls at that age DO go for looks over anything else. So... OP... just give it some time.

Of course there's also the possibility that you're just boring. There's such a thing as being TOO "nice".