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    I think so.
    Looking at my position, I don't think that I have enough men in my life that I have or can look up to. I am the oldest cousin/sibling, and only one cousin is a boy (who I barely know). It's led to me being gay, and also having a slightly twisted view on men and the concept of masculinity. I feel as if that part of my life is missing.

    Would you agree? If I ever raised a son, then I would hope to surround him with enough great people of either gender.
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    (Original post by Joe2001)
    I think so.
    Looking at my position, I don't think that I have enough men in my life that I have or can look up to. I am the oldest cousin/sibling, and only one cousin is a boy (who I barely know). It's led to me being gay, and also having a slightly twisted view on men and the concept of masculinity. I feel as if that part of my life is missing.

    Would you agree? If I ever raised a son, then I would hope to surround him with enough great people of either gender.
    yes definitely i agree having an elder male rolemodel and someone to look up to is important for boys same goes with girls too
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    (Original post by Joe2001)
    I think so.
    Looking at my position, I don't think that I have enough men in my life that I have or can look up to. I am the oldest cousin/sibling, and only one cousin is a boy (who I barely know). It's led to me being gay, and also having a slightly twisted view on men and the concept of masculinity. I feel as if that part of my life is missing.

    Would you agree? If I ever raised a son, then I would hope to surround him with enough great people of either gender.
    definately. Any young boy needs to have good male role models. Also on a personal note do you wish that you weren't gay?
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    Yeah I do think boys don't always have many role models
    For example I know quite a lot of boys that have been to jail, do quite a few illegal activities etc (we are in year 11), carry round knives and they learn it from the older boys around them
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    (Original post by Rawnblade)
    definately. Any young boy needs to have good male role models. Also on a personal note do you wish that you weren't gay?
    I love my sexuality, but part of me wishes that I wasn't as gay people have it harder, particularly at my age when closeted.
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    It is a regret of my childhood. I wish that I had an older brother or an older cousin of my gender who I could bond with and look up to. I haven't had that and the effects are showing.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah I do think boys don't always have many role models
    For example I know quite a lot of boys that have been to jail, do quite a few illegal activities etc (we are in year 11), carry round knives and they learn it from the older boys around them
    In that case, they do have role models, but very negative ones, which is much worse.
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    I swear you can't blame that for you being gay. All you have done is discovered you are, not turned gay. (If you had enough male role models you would still 'discover' your gay.)
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    (Original post by monkeyman0121)
    I swear you can't blame that for you being gay. All you have done is discovered you are, not turned gay. (If you had enough male role models you would still 'discover' your gay.)
    I think it is a contributing factor though.
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    (Original post by Joe2001)
    I think it is a contributing factor though.
    You can't become gay if you were not before.... All you have done is discover that you are, maybe that has contributed to you discovering it but it still would of happened either way.
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    Yes, certainly. Good relations with the father are the key, especially in the teenage and adolescent years.





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    (Original post by monkeyman0121)
    You can't become gay if you were not before.... All you have done is discover that you are, maybe that has contributed to you discovering it but it still would of happened either way.
    I don't think sexuality is set in stone when you are born. It takes a certain number of years, and likely environmental factors come into that.
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    (Original post by Mill Hill)
    Yes, certainly. Good relations with the father are the key, especially in the teenage and adolescent years.
    I've got to be quite honest and say that the strong father/son bond just isn't there for me.
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    (Original post by Joe2001)
    I've got to be quite honest and say that the strong father/son bond just isn't there for me.
    I am sorry to hear that, but on the positive note you are conscious of this fact and therefore you are in a better position that someone who is not aware of these implications.
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    The real problem is when Boys from 3 Years old are subjected to Education and starting Nursery, the ratio of Female to Male Teachers making up the teaching industry is quite horrific.I've read reports of it being close to 72/27% Female. Boys fall behind Girls from a young age ? How does this happen so quickly ? I believe their arent enough Male Teachers and then from a early age, Boys start to mess about and then only get worse when into Secondary School etc
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The real problem is when Boys from 3 Years old are subjected to Education and starting Nursery, the ratio of Female to Male Teachers making up the teaching industry is quite horrific.I've read reports of it being close to 72/27% Female. Boys fall behind Girls from a young age ? How does this happen so quickly ? I believe their arent enough Male Teachers and then from a early age, Boys start to mess about and then only get worse when into Secondary School etc
    That's very true - I only had 1 male teacher in my old primary school.
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    The real problem is when Boys from 3 Years old are subjected to Education and starting Nursery, the ratio of Female to Male Teachers making up the teaching industry is quite horrific.I've read reports of it being close to 72/27% Female. Boys fall behind Girls from a young age ? How does this happen so quickly ? I believe their arent enough Male Teachers and then from a early age, Boys start to mess about and then only get worse when into Secondary School etc
    This has culminated especially in the last decade with Girls finishing University with sucessful degrees at nearly twice the rates of Boys...It is very worrying for Boys, and it screams help is needed to get this back to some sort of level playing field where both Boys/Girls are finishing Education with roughly the same level of success, however i dont see this, i just see more Males being Lambested and Boys getting stabbed...
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    role model concerning what?

    masculinity (labour skills)? sexuality (you can be gay and masculine, straight and camp)? how to treat a woman? fatherhood (not being a dead beat)? family values? school?

    As far as family values I think two parent homes having a mum and dad only benefits cos there's two incomes. Not necessarily gonna make you a better person :curious:.
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    (Original post by Bang Outta Order)
    role model concerning what?
    Someone of your gender to look up to and have a close bond with.
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    (Original post by Joe2001)
    Someone of your gender to look up to and have a close bond with.
    why did you mention your sexuality? do you think if you had a male role model you wouldnt be gay.
 
 
 
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