Mature student social life.

I agree, and you shouldn't feel self-conscious about it, neither should you be victimised. What you may have to cope with is peoples opinions and perceptions that may stray from this idealistic view of the situation.

At the end of the day, if you are "normal", you aren't going to have any issues

I agree, and you shouldn't feel self-conscious about it, neither should you be victimised. What you may have to cope with is peoples opinions and perceptions that may stray from this idealistic view of the situation.

At the end of the day, if you are "normal", you aren't going to have any issues

Cool. What are you going to be studying and where?

I'm going to be doing Philosophy at the University of York. How about you?

Not entirely sure yet. Gotta get the qualifications first!

Can you you elaborate on how you'd define "creepy" please mate.

“Creepy” in this context means one thing and one thing only- whether or not you are attractive (and this need not be restricted to only physically attractive). If you are a relatively attractive 30 year old who could pass for being in your 20s, you’re not creepy- simple as.

You could be 20, but a bit awkward, a bit scruffy - maybe going bald or have a few grey hairs but most importantly *not* attractive- and bingo, you’re creepy.

Creepiness has nothing whatsoever to do with being predatory. People at uni are super predatory all the time. I knew a chap at UCL who came to London from Florida *with his wife* to do MSc. He was out every night living the life and getting with everything in sight - but he was objectively a good looking bloke with a beach bod- so it was all a laugh and a joke and he was given a pass on just about everything.

On the other hand, I know young guys - 18/19 who have been chucked out of socs (at Kings) because they were apparently creeping out the women.

“Creepy” in this context means one thing and one thing only- whether or not you are attractive (and this need not be restricted to only physically attractive). If you are a relatively attractive 30 year old who could pass for being in your 20s, you’re not creepy- simple as.

You could be 20, but a bit awkward, a bit scruffy - maybe going bald or have a few grey hairs but most importantly *not* attractive- and bingo, you’re creepy.

Creepiness has nothing whatsoever to do with being predatory. People at uni are super predatory all the time. I knew a chap at UCL who came to London from Florida *with his wife* to do MSc. He was out every night living the life and getting with everything in sight - but he was objectively a good looking bloke with a beach bod- so it was all a laugh and a joke and he was given a pass on just about everything.

On the other hand, I know young guys - 18/19 who have been chucked out of socs (at Kings) because they were apparently creeping out the women.

“Creepy” in this context means one thing and one thing only- whether or not you are attractive (and this need not be restricted to only physically attractive). If you are a relatively attractive 30 year old who could pass for being in your 20s, you’re not creepy- simple as.

You could be 20, but a bit awkward, a bit scruffy - maybe going bald or have a few grey hairs but most importantly *not* attractive- and bingo, you’re creepy.

Creepiness has nothing whatsoever to do with being predatory. People at uni are super predatory all the time. I knew a chap at UCL who came to London from Florida *with his wife* to do MSc. He was out every night living the life and getting with everything in sight - but he was objectively a good looking bloke with a beach bod- so it was all a laugh and a joke and he was given a pass on just about everything.

On the other hand, I know young guys - 18/19 who have been chucked out of socs (at Kings) because they were apparently creeping out the women.

Ahh so you got conditionals? Have you got a favourite that you're hoping for?

I think you're referring to charisma as opposed to attractiveness. That's why guys like the Florida guy seem to get away with being a man whore when others are deemed as sex pests. Charismatic people often aren't seen as being predatory, it's just seen as them enjoying life or living to the full.

“Creepy” in this context means one thing and one thing only- whether or not you are attractive (and this need not be restricted to only physically attractive). If you are a relatively attractive 30 year old who could pass for being in your 20s, you’re not creepy- simple as.

You could be 20, but a bit awkward, a bit scruffy - maybe going bald or have a few grey hairs but most importantly *not* attractive- and bingo, you’re creepy.

Creepiness has nothing whatsoever to do with being predatory. People at uni are super predatory all the time. I knew a chap at UCL who came to London from Florida *with his wife* to do MSc. He was out every night living the life and getting with everything in sight - but he was objectively a good looking bloke with a beach bod- so it was all a laugh and a joke and he was given a pass on just about everything.

On the other hand, I know young guys - 18/19 who have been chucked out of socs (at Kings) because they were apparently creeping out the women.

Nope sorry but creepiness and being a predator kind of go hand in hand whether you are physically attractive or not. I have had perfectly attractive guys not wanting to take no for an answer before. Are they sexual predators? Yes. Are they creepy because they won't leave me the feck alone? Yes! It doesn't matter if they have rugged good looks; a creeper is a creeper! If you try to talk to a girl and she's not very responsive, or she directly says no, it means go away. Even if you are good looking. Most of the time it's just common sense, just be respectful!

So if you're charismatic and blatantly trying it on with people 15 years younger-it wouldn't be too creepy?

I'm not saying that. I'm saying that they are more likely to not be seen as a sex pest. Hopefully they usually would still be seen as such, though.

Have you noticed that yourself through your own observations.

Do you reckon I'd be seen as creepy by trying it on with girls who are 20, me being 35 at that point.? When I say trying it on-I mean in a respectful way, and probably only if they seem attracted to me in the first place.

Cool, that's reassuring.Take it you're speaking from first hand experience.

It depends on the situation. A 35 year old groping a drunk 18 year old will be seen as creepy. Because there's a question over whether consent really exists and because you are expected to be the responsible adult.