Accommodation Issues - Can I do anything or just have to put up with it?

Im not sure what you could do about the boyfriend if im honest but regarding the flat mate, have you tried complaining to the landlord?

I'm sharing a house with 3/4 of the flatmates I shared with last year, 2 of those since first year. Up until the beginning of the year, things worked out brilliantly. Unfourtunately, this year has just been one problem after another that, despite only having seven weeks left, I just can't put up with anymore. The two major problems are our final flatmate, who was chosen by the landlord not us, and my other flatmate's boyfriend and I want to know what I can do about either of them, or do I just have to put up with it?

The final flatmate is a slob, to put it mildly. He uses other people's stuff without asking, leaving it in a stained and damaged mess. He uses items, such as toilet roll and dish sponges, without ever contributing towards them. He leaves urine on the bathroom floor. He's never cleaned anything in the house. He never cleans his mess up in the kitchen (we have now had mice for the last 9/12 months) even after we've asked him to so. He's loud ALL THE TIME, especially at 2am in the morning when I have to be up at 6am the next day. We've tried being subtle. We've tried being blunt. It hasn't worked.

Then there's my other flatmate's boyfriend. It seems like he's over more than he was last year and while we do get on fairly well, it eventually reaches an 'overdose' point. One of us will say something to another and the other will take it the wrong way; trouble is, both us are fairly non-confrontational until we reach boiling point, then we will bluntly just say what the problem is, not necessarily thinking of the others feelings and therefore entering a vicious cycle. Apparently I owe him an apology for being 'inconsiderate' when he's had a week of long shifts but I'm not allowed the same luxury, in my own home, when I've had a stressful week of lectures and deadlines. Additionally, he gets involved in flat matters when it suits him but when we include him because it concerns him, he goes all, "not my flat, not my problem". Then there's the problems that occur just because of his presence. My room's next to the communal lounge and I have to walk through it to get to the kitchen. When I'm stressed, I get sensory overloaded really easily and more than one person is too much for my anxiety to cope with. When ever the boyfriend's around, he tries to drag everyone into social evenings. Even if it doesn't turn into a full flat games night, the noise of the whole house doubles. His intentions are in the right place when he tries to get me to "come out and relax" but I don't think he really gets that he's actually making things worse. The only place I have to retreat to is my room but even that's not really a sanctuary because I can still hear the noise. I'd try to bring these issues up with my flatmate but I can't get her alone; she only really comes out of her room when the boyfriend's around.

Any help with any of the problems is greatly appreciated.

Sorry to hear you are in this situation. Unfortunately there isn't a great deal you can do, certainly nothing which can guarantee things will get better. A couple of suggestions though:

1) Re the 4th housemate, perhaps keep toilet roll and sponges in your rooms and just get it out when you need to? That way he can't use what he isn't contributing. Leave dishes that have been festering for days outside his room/in his room.

2) The flatmates boyfriend, have you tried asking if the couple can spend a bit of time at his house? Maybe say you need quiet with exams going on.

It sounds like you've not got long left (a month or two max), before you move out, right? So you need to put up with it one of my flatmates this year has been a pain (not washing up after themselves, leaving food out on the side etc, we have flies right now), I've tried to confront them but it hasn't done anything, and I know that I could start a fight now, or put up with it until I move out