What do i do ???!!

Right, here's the deal.

I've been going out with this girl for over a month and half now and things were going good at first but about 2 weeks ago i really started thinking about the future of our relationship and she does dance like every night so i can never go out with her after school after 5 and the only time i can see her properly is on the weekend. I keep on asking when she's free but she always says she'll ask her mum and if her mum says she's not free she doesn't argue and then just gives up trying. I asked her if she can skip a few dance lessons and she said her mum will kill her so she can't which really pi**ed me off. So basically, i'm not happy in the relationship. But! We're two days away from our GCSE exams so if i break up with her it might affect her exam results as i know she cares for me and i'm her fist serious boyfriend, it's just she doesn't stick up for herself to her mum. It's really pi**ing me off. What the f**k do i do??

Right, here's the deal.

I've been going out with this girl for over a month and half now and things were going good at first but about 2 weeks ago i really started thinking about the future of our relationship and she does dance like every night so i can never go out with her after school after 5 and the only time i can see her properly is on the weekend. I keep on asking when she's free but she always says she'll ask her mum and if her mum says she's not free she doesn't argue and then just gives up trying. I asked her if she can skip a few dance lessons and she said her mum will kill her so she can't which really pi**ed me off. So basically, i'm not happy in the relationship. But! We're two days away from our GCSE exams so if i break up with her it might affect her exam results as i know she cares for me and i'm her fist serious boyfriend, it's just she doesn't stick up for herself to her mum. It's really pi**ing me off. What the f**k do i do??

You have a point , if u break up with her now it might affect her exam

If u dont mind me asking, do you like her as much as she like you?

Im guessing she still texts you a **** tonne? thats the worst part.

I reckon forget about her and dump her after exams.

Yeh i think i might just do that, do it as soon as though, we have prom a week later ... :/ argg thats another problem !!!

Yeh i do like her a lot but what's the point in being in a relationship where we don't see each other.

Right, here's the deal.

I've been going out with this girl for over a month and half now and things were going good at first but about 2 weeks ago i really started thinking about the future of our relationship and she does dance like every night so i can never go out with her after school after 5 and the only time i can see her properly is on the weekend. I keep on asking when she's free but she always says she'll ask her mum and if her mum says she's not free she doesn't argue and then just gives up trying. I asked her if she can skip a few dance lessons and she said her mum will kill her so she can't which really pi**ed me off. So basically, i'm not happy in the relationship. But! We're two days away from our GCSE exams so if i break up with her it might affect her exam results as i know she cares for me and i'm her fist serious boyfriend, it's just she doesn't stick up for herself to her mum. It's really pi**ing me off. What the f**k do i do??

Yeah true
I understand where ur coming from
If she likes and cares abt u and u inturn likes her back
Why dont you just ask her directly? Ask why she is not putting any efforts in your relationship
Maybe she want to but her mom is holding her back
Its up to , if ur really not happy in that relationship , its better off without it for you then atleast you wont be stressed out this much
And if ur breaking up with her
Do it after the exams , then that way her exams wont get affected

Hope you figure out what to do
Dont be so stressed out


P.s sorry if i went to far or if i didnt make sense

1. Break up with her in person, not over text.
2. Dont leave it long - I waited a month to break up with her and she just got more and more obsessed with me in that time and it drove me nuts.
3. Dont lie to her- she'll probably have a tonne of questions if you do break up with her.

i'd say if you aren't happy, then yes you should break it off soon so she doesn't get more attached. however, you aren't realistically going to see each other much during exams anyway because id assume your going to be revising. so my advice on this one is stick the relationship out until exams are over, then break up during summer. as you are her first serious boyfriend, this will affect her a lot, and from my own experience, my boyfriend messing me about during GCSE's definitely affected my results.

Also though, id say don't worry too much about the future of your relationship at this age. if you like them and they make you happy, be with them. even if you don't get to see them much. if they dont make you happy, dont be with them.

I'll give you the advice my dad gives me. you arent married, you dont have kids together, you dont own a house together or a dog. if you want to break things off, you can, you dont have anything to factor in at this age other than your own feelings.

hope this helps, good luck kiddo!

Forgot a small tiny detail
If u r planning to break up with her
Hv ur distance with her alright , so then she might get a hint
U get what i mean ryt?

Yeah true
Why dont you just ask her directly? Ask why she is not putting any efforts in your relationship
Maybe she want to but her mom is holding her back

That depends on you.. ask your heart. If you truly love her and you know that she loves you too then my advice is that don't break up with her. Being a girl I can understand her problems.. maybe she doesn't want to get involved in a physical relationship or maybe she is nervous because as you said you're her first serious boyfriend. Well, it's right that you shouldn't be in a relationship where you're not happy. But think again are you not happy just because you both can't get to see each other? If that was the matter then there wouldn't be any "long distance relationship". You both are together just for around two months, don't jump to conclusions so quick. So my point is that take your time, get to know her more, see what happens next and then you can go end the relationship if you want. Remember, a true relationship doesn't have the word break up! And yeah if you find out that you don't love her like before then it's better to confess it as soon as you can. Good luck!


Sorry if I sound rude.

No your right. There's always ways on fixing things in a relationship that either of you don't like such as one being shy, but sometimes when i'm speaking to her i don't know, sometimes i might be bored, sometimes i might be interested. I think deep down i want to love her, but i just don't. It's harsh to say but it's true.

Maybe because i'm going through exams my mind might be conflicted and i just can't think properly and that i need to wait until after exams which is what i think i'm going to do.

Thanks everyone though, this has been really stressing me out. Thanks