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Need help from Muslims ONLY - I don't wanna be bi...

First of all, I do not want your opinion if you are about to tell me to 'embrace my sexuality' or other bs like that.

Getting to it, I watch porn regularly and I realise this is a sin in itself however I am trying to wean myself off it. My biggest issue is, recently I started watching lesbian porn and I have realised that I get the greates pleasure from watching it. It gives me the most intense of orgasms and makes me *** really quickly in comparison to heterosexual porn. Although this makes me feel good, I feel very guilty and disgusted with myself afterwards. I am from an orthodox Muslim family and cannot begin to imagine how my parents would react if they found out about this. It is not the fear of them finding out that's making me pose this question, but rather genuine disgust with myself.

After watching porn of such a nature I found myself looking for lesbian dating websites and basically trying to arrange something with someone. I really do not want this though because when I look back on this, e.g. now, I feel grossed out and know that it is very wrong. I realise this is all from the devil so please, can someone help me out. Any duaas or something that can help me?

Thanks in advance guys.

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Original post by hereforthereps
First of all, I do not want your opinion if you are about to tell me to 'embrace my sexuality' or other bs like that.

Getting to it, I watch porn regularly and I realise this is a sin in itself however I am trying to wean myself off it. My biggest issue is, recently I started watching lesbian porn and I have realised that I get the greates pleasure from watching it. It gives me the most intense of orgasms and makes me *** really quickly in comparison to heterosexual porn. Although this makes me feel good, I feel very guilty and disgusted with myself afterwards. I am from an orthodox Muslim family and cannot begin to imagine how my parents would react if they found out about this. It is not the fear of them finding out that's making me pose this question, but rather genuine disgust with myself.

After watching porn of such a nature I found myself looking for lesbian dating websites and basically trying to arrange something with someone. I really do not want this though because when I look back on this, e.g. now, I feel grossed out and know that it is very wrong. I realise this is all from the devil so please, can someone help me out. Any duaas or something that can help me?

Thanks in advance guys.


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Astaghfirullah
having a **** is calm but you can't go get jiggy with it that's too far restrain yourseslf smh ramadans coming


Jazakalaahu khayran bro, inshallah I'm going to start doing this from tomorrow and of course Ramadan is coming up which is helpful. Do you also have any advice for long-term? Because in all honesty I don't think I can fast everyday!
Original post by Plantagenet Crown
Astaghfirullah


I know, quite disgusted with myself. Any advice?
Original post by Brumtown1
having a **** is calm but you can't go get jiggy with it that's too far restrain yourseslf smh ramadans coming


Yeah the issue is having a **** watching les porn reuslts in me trying to get with a female, any advice? I don't know how to 'restrain myself' bro, it's hard and annoying as fukc because I do not want this.
you shouldnt have posted this in this section. just because u said you dont want others to say ''embrace your sexuality'' it doesnt mean it will stop them. also you will just get others mocking islam. so go to the religion section and post it in the islamic society forum.
-from a fellow muslim sis
Original post by hereforthereps
Yeah the issue is having a **** watching les porn reuslts in me trying to get with a female, any advice? I don't know how to 'restrain myself' bro, it's hard and annoying as fukc because I do not want this.


Bro I say **** more and distract yourself like read a book watch a film etc whatever you enoy and are you male or female?
Original post by Bookaddict02
you shouldnt have posted this in this section. just because u said you dont want others to say ''embrace your sexuality'' it doesnt mean it will stop them. also you will just get others mocking islam. so go to the religion section and post it in the islamic society forum.
-from a fellow muslim sis


Yeah I'm aware it's not going to stop anyone from saying so, I am merey trying to make it clear that I am not interested and will not respond to such comments. Additionally, the risk of having my religion mocked will not prevent me gaining advice to better myself. Islam is mocked on a daily basis so it is hardly something to shy away from. How can I move this to the Islamic society forum?
Original post by Brumtown1
Bro I say **** more and distract yourself like read a book watch a film etc whatever you enoy and are you male or female?


I am a female. Come on dude, be real, how will wan king more often resolve this problem? If anything, it will make it worse.
Reply 12
Original post by hereforthereps
First of all, I do not want your opinion if you are about to tell me to 'embrace my sexuality' or other bs like that.

Getting to it, I watch porn regularly and I realise this is a sin in itself however I am trying to wean myself off it. My biggest issue is, recently I started watching lesbian porn and I have realised that I get the greates pleasure from watching it. It gives me the most intense of orgasms and makes me *** really quickly in comparison to heterosexual porn. Although this makes me feel good, I feel very guilty and disgusted with myself afterwards. I am from an orthodox Muslim family and cannot begin to imagine how my parents would react if they found out about this. It is not the fear of them finding out that's making me pose this question, but rather genuine disgust with myself.

After watching porn of such a nature I found myself looking for lesbian dating websites and basically trying to arrange something with someone. I really do not want this though because when I look back on this, e.g. now, I feel grossed out and know that it is very wrong. I realise this is all from the devil so please, can someone help me out. Any duaas or something that can help me?

Thanks in advance guys.


Username: 'hereforthereps'

Hmmmmm
Even if you are bi and even if you dont' want to embrace it, its not like you're gay. Just go for the opposite sex and live your life like you are straight.
Original post by hereforthereps
I am a female. Come on dude, be real, how will wan king more often resolve this problem? If anything, it will make it worse.


lmao jus tryna help would work if you was an akhi but I got that wrong so I say don't do the ******* but the other stuff would work
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Original post by hereforthereps
First of all, I do not want your opinion if you are about to tell me to 'embrace my sexuality' or other bs like that.

Getting to it, I watch porn regularly and I realise this is a sin in itself however I am trying to wean myself off it. My biggest issue is, recently I started watching lesbian porn and I have realised that I get the greates pleasure from watching it. It gives me the most intense of orgasms and makes me *** really quickly in comparison to heterosexual porn. Although this makes me feel good, I feel very guilty and disgusted with myself afterwards. I am from an orthodox Muslim family and cannot begin to imagine how my parents would react if they found out about this. It is not the fear of them finding out that's making me pose this question, but rather genuine disgust with myself.

After watching porn of such a nature I found myself looking for lesbian dating websites and basically trying to arrange something with someone. I really do not want this though because when I look back on this, e.g. now, I feel grossed out and know that it is very wrong. I realise this is all from the devil so please, can someone help me out. Any duaas or something that can help me?

Thanks in advance guys.


First of all you should stop watching all of this. Like ALL of it. Second ask and beg for forgiveness from Allah and promise you will never do it again. These are just thoughts and you will not get punished for thoughts because the Shaaytan manipulates our thoughts more than we think. As long as you don't act on these thoughts and keep praying to Allah you should be fine.
Original post by johnny.snow
Even if you are bi and even if you dont' want to embrace it, its not like you're gay. Just go for the opposite sex and live your life like you are straight.


How do I fight away the urges though? I a not planning to do something wild and marry a female of course but I keep getting thoughts about secretly meeting one and engaging in sexual activities. I don't want to have such thoughts, it is very disturbing.
Original post by Sahaam
First of all you should stop watching all of this. Like ALL of it. Second ask and beg for forgiveness from Allah and promise you will never do it again. These are just thoughts and you will not get punished for thoughts because the Shaaytan manipulates our thoughts more than we think. As long as you don't act on these thoughts and keep praying to Allah you should be fine.


Thanks for your response, I will try my best. It's really irritating because it usually happens when it gets to exam season and I am really stressed, I tend to take this stress out on pornography and then it all goes wrong. Anyhow, I will try praying and inshallah this will stop.
Original post by Brumtown1
lmao jus tryna help would work if you was an akhi but I got that wrong so I say don't do the ******* but the other stuff would work


To be fair I love reading and stuff and I do this but regardless I still 'find time' for this bs :frown:
dam this is what religion does to people...

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