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    I was dating this guy for 4 months when we broke up because he said he was confused sexually; he didn't know what he wanted. He was completely new to same-sex relationships, we weren't open and I think it all got a bit too real for him to quickly.

    Less than a week after we broke up this girl in our friendship group who's been "in love with him" for months moved in for kill as it were and it seemed like they'd get together. I was crushed, 1) that a girl who knew about our relationship and was our friend would move in so quickly and try to get together with him, showing me especially no respect of friendship whatsoever, and 2) that I was so easily replaced! But things were not as they seemed...

    He said to her, as he'd said to me, that he just wants to be alone for a while and sort out his head, clear his confusion etc. However, he's been subtly flirting with me all week and last night we both got a bit drunk and he was flirting openly with me, in front or her! We ended spending the night together. For a someone who thought he "wasn't into guys afterall" he was extremely eager under the covers.

    Perhaps what's worst is that we all live in the same halls at uni, we all have the same friends and go out together all the time. Me and him live opposite each other! And we're all living together next year. I've got myself in quite a mess and don't know how to get out of it without one of us getting horribly hurt in the process. Any insights?
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    Ouch. Maybe the three of you need to sit down around the same table and agree that you're all confused, and you all need to back off eachother. :P It's never clever to date within a house-share...
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    Move on. Love triangles regardless of sexuality is never a good thing. He's confused which means whatever he does can't be taken for real. He might give you false hopes. Break the triangle and move on to better guys who aren't confused.
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    By the looks of it, he doesn't know what he wants so he thinks he can use both you and the girl without any real consequences. I'd stop now. If you really like him and in a few months he decides what he wants then great - having said that do you really want to be with someone who can easily mess people around to suit him?
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    Thank god. An original thread for once. Beats the usual "I have spots" or "I will never have sex" and "I have a lumpy XYZ, should I see a doctor".

    Anyway, these things rarely work out unless you are Tilda Thingyamy or Roseanne.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was dating this guy for 4 months when we broke up because he said he was confused sexually; he didn't know what he wanted. He was completely new to same-sex relationships, we weren't open and I think it all got a bit too real for him to quickly.

    Less than a week after we broke up this girl in our friendship group who's been "in love with him" for months moved in for kill as it were and it seemed like they'd get together. I was crushed, 1) that a girl who knew about our relationship and was our friend would move in so quickly and try to get together with him, showing me especially no respect of friendship whatsoever, and 2) that I was so easily replaced! But things were not as they seemed...

    He said to her, as he'd said to me, that he just wants to be alone for a while and sort out his head, clear his confusion etc. However, he's been subtly flirting with me all week and last night we both got a bit drunk and he was flirting openly with me, in front or her! We ended spending the night together. For a someone who thought he "wasn't into guys afterall" he was extremely eager under the covers.

    Perhaps what's worst is that we all live in the same halls at uni, we all have the same friends and go out together all the time. Me and him live opposite each other! And we're all living together next year. I've got myself in quite a mess and don't know how to get out of it without one of us getting horribly hurt in the process. Any insights?
    Have an open relationship...?
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    The situation is truly maddening. I've developed such strong feelings for him, and it's come to the point where I really do believe I love him. I'm not going to pretend to know how he feels about me, but he told me he loved me on friday night. But people say things that aren't true when they're drunk...

    This bizarre situation revolves around no-one knowing what's going on inside my ex's head, especially him!

    I've thought about your suggestion hammers_gal, and I think it's a good one, but I'd feel so helpless if I just left the door open to her. What does one do?
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    Oh dear. What a kerfuffle! Are him and the girl "in a relationship" or what? You didn't specify if they'd slept together or whatever. Because it seems to me he's definitely more into you...

    I've had a similar experience where a guy kept denying he was gay/bi but was VERY eager in bed....methinks people like him and your friend are gay, just unwilling to properly coming out because their fear it will disadvantage them socially because it's not 100% accepted.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was dating this guy for 4 months when we broke up because he said he was confused sexually; he didn't know what he wanted. He was completely new to same-sex relationships, we weren't open and I think it all got a bit too real for him to quickly.

    Less than a week after we broke up this girl in our friendship group who's been "in love with him" for months moved in for kill as it were and it seemed like they'd get together. I was crushed, 1) that a girl who knew about our relationship and was our friend would move in so quickly and try to get together with him, showing me especially no respect of friendship whatsoever, and 2) that I was so easily replaced! But things were not as they seemed...

    He said to her, as he'd said to me, that he just wants to be alone for a while and sort out his head, clear his confusion etc. However, he's been subtly flirting with me all week and last night we both got a bit drunk and he was flirting openly with me, in front or her! We ended spending the night together. For a someone who thought he "wasn't into guys afterall" he was extremely eager under the covers.

    Perhaps what's worst is that we all live in the same halls at uni, we all have the same friends and go out together all the time. Me and him live opposite each other! And we're all living together next year. I've got myself in quite a mess and don't know how to get out of it without one of us getting horribly hurt in the process. Any insights?
    sorry to bump this old thread. I couldn't stop feeling sorry for you :console: Did everything work out for you?
 
 
 
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