Hi guys, I’ve been in a relationship for almost 9 months with a guy and there’s been a whole load of events that have happened that makes me want to break up with him. I’m a university student, aged 19, so hopefully this puts things into perspective.
The story:
Sooo one night he went out with some friends and kissed another girl - I don’t know the length, I dont know if it was passionate or not, I just know he did it on the lips and one of his friends informed me accidentally.
So when I found out about this, I broke up with him but said that I would give him a second chance at the end of uni if he wanted so he could right now, get out all of his nightclub/partying energy out of him.
Well, he was insanely sorry and by the weeks end, I forgave him after some immense events but said that we’d have to do things again VERY slowly as I needed time to heal. He said that he would cut down and would not be going out for a while. He said this on Sunday.
Yesterday he went out with his friends, apparently due to peer pressure and not wanting to let down the group when he was drinking with them indoors.
I feel quite annoyed and upset again and feel like maybe I should breakup with him again because like I don’t understand why he would go out so soon just after we talked about how it hurt me. I’ve told him already that I’ll feel odd about the situation and a bit hurt and will be talking to him tomorrow evening in person. He said that he loves me immensely and that he is so very sorry. I’m afraid that if I break up with him he could self-harm and I’d feel so upset if he did that as that’s what he did when we broke up the first time. Should I breakup with him or not?
Any reply is helpful ❤️