Muslim boyfriend

Honestly I’m in the exact same boat but I’m a Muslim, with extremely strict parents who are traditional Pakistanis and my boyfriend is white, non Muslim. We have been together for 2 years

Honestly, from my perspective I would leave my family for him, or any man tbh. All my life they have been so controlling over who I see, what I eat, how I dress, how I act. And it’s gotten to the point where I just wanna “rebel” and live my own life, how I wanna live it.

I know they mean well, and i respect my parents so much. I’ve just dealt with how they control me, without really questioning them because I don’t wanna hurt them.

But the time comes where you just gotta let them go. I don’t wanna spend the rest of my life being controlled by my parents, and neither should your boyfriend. He’s an adult, he’s mature enough to make his own life decisions. Is he gonna let his family dictate how he lives his life for the rest of his life? Is he gonna risk marrying a girl of his culture, just to please his family when he actually loves you?

The chances are, I’m sure when you two have kids and settle down his family will come back to him and realise how happy he is. It’s just in the moment they are angry and not very understanding, but time heals things and I’m sure they’d want a relationship with their grandkids in the future

My parents have no idea about my bf. They threw my cousin out because her bf was white and non Muslim, and I know the same will happen to me. But I’m only 17, I’d only introduce him to the family if it was to marry him, and I had a job and could financially support myself

I completely understand your bfs point, as I too hide things from them to please them and just go along with things so I don’t dishonour them. But you can’t spend the rest of your life doing this. I would encourage him to just suggest the idea to his parents like “mum I kinda wanna get married, am I allowed to marry someone outside of our culture” and then gradually get to the introducing stage.

I would never encourage him to be horrible to his parents and swear at them, he should be civilised and mature in his approach

Good luck honestly I really feel your pain, and his. I understand both sides and honestly its so difficult.

Lol. Well I know he’s not using me. Are you Muslim btw?

Been with my boyfriend of 3 years he’s Muslim and I’m white british. I’m a secret from everybody he knows.He’s terrified of telling his parents. I can’t help but wonder that if I was Muslim we’d be married By now. Shall I push him to tell them or leave it up to him?

I was absolutely scared of telling family obviously it didn’t go down too well but at the end of the day I don’t think I would’ve been happy with anyone else. I knew I’d made the right choice and I stuck by it. One of my wife’s brothers really hated me and said a lot of nasty things to me and I mean nasty and racist believe it or not we get on great now. In the beginning it’s hard and you have all sorts go in your mind. At one point I felt like my life wasn’t worth living.
This is what I did one night after a massive row I was in my bedroom and I thought that’s it. I called my girlfriend and said it’s now or never and she wa alike we can’t we need somewhere to live blah blah.
I packed a bag walked by my parents bedroom door and opened it slowly and took a quick look in the room with my parents asleep and honestly thought this was the last time I will see them. I walked out in tears and taht was it.
We stayed with friends here and there and after a few months we were able to get a place to rent.
I saw my parents a couple of times in shops but they ignored me. That really hurts and a few years later after our first child was born I got a text from my sister asking if we can comeback over and the rest is history.
Just be brave and if your boy/girlfriend are genuinely in love with you then you can make a future together and in time I’m sure your families can come together. Wish you all the best

I know I’m kidding myself to be honest. I’ll never be accepted but I’m an optimist so there’s a small part of me that’s got hope. I just cherish everyday I have with him. I love him too much to come between him and his family. And I would walk away so he didn’t have to choose. He really has changed my life for the better and I’m so glad I’m with him now. It’s not that I don’t want to fight for him I do but if you love someone that much you’ll let them go. He really is a special person and I will always love him no matter who I’m with. But I doubt I’ll ever love someone as much as I love him. It’s strange how people change your life. I can’t explain it but he’s the type of person you look forward to seeing everyday even if it’s for a moment. If we were together a life time I could never get bored of his stories. I wish I could tell him much I appreciate him. And as weird as it sounds I would love his family as much as I love him cos there apart of him. I’m being very sentimental today lol. Also I’ve gotta say I’d make a bloody good wife. I get sad cos I know we would have a wonder life together 😢

In Islam a man can marry a non Muslim woman so you can tell him to tell his family that. There’s no reason for his family to not accept you as long as you’re not an awful or troublesome person. If they’re not accepting you it’s Probobaly to do with cultural stuff where some cultures people don’t like marrying outside their own race, or even their own caste within their race. These rings happen. But do remind him that marrying a non Muslim is allowed so you would not need to convert unless you want too, anyone saying you need to is just trying to scare you off

Been with my boyfriend of 3 years he’s Muslim and I’m white british. I’m a secret from everybody he knows.He’s terrified of telling his parents. I can’t help but wonder that if I was Muslim we’d be married By now. Shall I push him to tell them or leave it up to him?

It is only allowed if she is chaste i.e. does not have sex outside of marriage, even if the only guy she has had sex with is him. If they have had sex then it is prohibited

You just want his money lol or else why would you want to marry into a muslim family?! You have nothing in common, you white people are allowed to sleep over with your boyfriend from the age of 16, you eat pork and you only wipe after doing a number two (we muslims wash with soap and water).

Been with my boyfriend of 3 years he’s Muslim and I’m white british. I’m a secret from everybody he knows.He’s terrified of telling his parents. I can’t help but wonder that if I was Muslim we’d be married By now. Shall I push him to tell them or leave it up to him?

Seems like you’re just bitter that you don’t have what OP has. I hate Muslims that are like this, a true Muslim isn’t horrible and judgemental, they’re kind and supportive, and if this girl was even thinking of converting for her partner do you think your comment would be persuading her too or deterring her. You’re the type of person that makes people hate islam.

Could you point me to where it says this