The ring 3Z is every integer multiple of 3, now to define an equivalence relation.
You need to prove 3 properties,
1) a~a
2) a~b => b~a
3) a~b , b~c => a~c
If you define your relation (~) as a~b means that 3 divides a-b, then you can check the properties hold, and that this relation partitions the ring Z into 3 sets.
The addition and multiplication tables should be simple enough to write out, then you can use them to find out whether it is a field or not.