Any advice for an issue in my relationship?

OP

I can understand that some of it goes towards his parents and into a savings account, but I know he still has quite a bit left over after everything has come out that needs to. Going out like to the cinemas or for a meal isn’t every week, maybe every few months.

I’ve done that before when we’ve gone for lunch or something, I’ve only bought what I’m getting & said he can get his own.

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temzra

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Original post by xFFDPx

I can understand that some of it goes towards his parents and into a savings account, but I know he still has quite a bit left over after everything has come out that needs to. Going out like to the cinemas or for a meal isn’t every week, maybe every few months.

I’ve done that before when we’ve gone for lunch or something, I’ve only bought what I’m getting & said he can get his own.

Continue to do that then

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He either needs to drastically change or you dump him. He sounds very selfish.

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Original post by Afforestation

He either needs to drastically change or you dump him. He sounds very selfish.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who was thinking he’s being selfish

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Original post by xFFDPx

I’m glad I’m not the only one who was thinking he’s being selfish

I was in basically the same situation as you and it wasnt good. I have a feeling that spending isnt the only thing hes selfish about.

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asheda_s

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In my opinion it doesn't have to be 50/50, if you have, pay it.
Not trying to be rude but here your guys seems little selfish...

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 9

as125

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This is the test I use:

Its called the scatty test
Go to the local takeaway and order a 1pc chicken and chips
Ask next man to treat you and if he doesn't then he's scatty

Can't get more scatty if he's not willing to pull out £2

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Original post by Afforestation

I was in basically the same situation as you and it wasnt good. I have a feeling that spending isnt the only thing hes selfish about.

What else do you think he may be selfish about??

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Original post by xFFDPx

What else do you think he may be selfish about??

If he wont pay for his own dinner then I doubt there's much he isnt selfish about. Generosity is kind of important in a relationship, but dont go overboard...

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OP

Original post by Afforestation

If he wont pay for his own dinner then I doubt there's much he isnt selfish about. Generosity is kind of important in a relationship, but dont go overboard...

I agree with you on that one

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Original post by xFFDPx

I agree with you on that one

Maybe a weird question but hes probably selfish in bed too?

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DeNotoriousOne

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Yep I would suggest dumping him if talkin doesn't work cause he sounds like a stingy selfish A hole!
Damn ok usually the guy has to pay to be polite ( considering his income he shud be able to) but atleast he shud pay a 50/50..... :/
He sounds like a jerk if u ask me

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AndrewSCO

Whether you think it's right or not, a man should always feel inclined to be the one to pay more nevermind try to get his girlfriend to pay for everything for him. Also the fact he's making way more money than you as well, and that he doesn't even feel guilty but instead gets angry at the thought of having to pair a fair share.

Have a serious chat with him and say you're not happy about it and it's not fair. If not then just say you aren't going to go places with him anymore and if further just leave him. Like it seems like a fairly small thing but it's the fact he's being so stubborn and petty over a basic relationship system that's just weird.

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Original post by Afforestation

Maybe a weird question but hes probably selfish in bed too?

Sometimes he is, sometimes he isn’t. He’s usually the first to initiate sex however, it’s only recently that he’s started doing more oral on me whereas before I did have to ask for him to do it. When he does do it, he doesn’t do it very long although I tell him I’m close to climax he just stops & gets on with it I suppose

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Original post by DeNotoriousOne

Yep I would suggest dumping him if talkin doesn't work cause he sounds like a stingy selfish A hole!
Damn ok usually the guy has to pay to be polite ( considering his income he shud be able to) but atleast he shud pay a 50/50..... :/
He sounds like a jerk if u ask me

I told him the other night because I suggested to him let’s go out but I asked him if he’s alright to get it because I got it last time (which I did, and the last two times before that as well). He said he’ll get it but if he does, we’ll have to wait till next month to get promise rings because he “doesn’t have enough money”. I said straight out to him that going to the cinema AND a meal will cost more than one cheap ring. Then I said to leave it because when it comes to it, it’ll be me that will suggest going out and he won’t offer so I guess we’ll just have to wait for that

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Original post by xFFDPx

Sometimes he is, sometimes he isn’t. He’s usually the first to initiate sex however, it’s only recently that he’s started doing more oral on me whereas before I did have to ask for him to do it. When he does do it, he doesn’t do it very long although I tell him I’m close to climax he just stops & gets on with it I suppose

Kinda what I expected haha

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