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My dad is honestly such a prick. So I’ve recently decided to sponsor a Kenyan kid to pay for their education and improve their living conditions.

This guy walks into my room and asks for a favour and asks who the picture of this “black kid “ on this letter is, basically when you sponsor a kid they send you a picture of them and details about them and how your sponsor helps them.

I just told it was kid who I was sponsoring cause she lives in poor conditions etc,

And his guy is like why are you sponsoring, sponsor me instead.

At first I thought he was joking I was like do you have to walk miles to get water and even then it’s not good quality and he’s like yeah whatever I do.

He said how it’s stupid of me to sponsor a kid and how I’m wasting my money and should instead pay for his expenses such as his car and that pisses me off like get off my back. I’m only 17, he always bangs on about money and his expenses since me and my siblings have started working.

I know he wants money from us but we aren’t giving it to him. He’s already tortured my mom and called her thief cos some of his money went missing and he always threatens to cut of the internet which is literally the only thing he pays for in the house. Everything else from rent to bills my mom pays with benefits.

Then he has the face after calling me and my siblings stupid and being a racist ******* he comes and acts like nothing has happened and tries to joke around and even then he’s joking around is just like him. Violent and disgusting.

I can’t wait to move out of this ****ing house.

Honestly why is this guy like this. He’s fcking racist and full of greed for money and yet spites other people for being racist too him and claims he doesn’t like money,

What the ****?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My dad is honestly such a prick. So I’ve recently decided to sponsor a Kenyan kid to pay for their education and improve their living conditions.

This guy walks into my room and asks for a favour and asks who the picture of this “black kid “ on this letter is, basically when you sponsor a kid they send you a picture of them and details about them and how your sponsor helps them.

I just told it was kid who I was sponsoring cause she lives in poor conditions etc,

And his guy is like why are you sponsoring, sponsor me instead.

At first I thought he was joking I was like do you have to walk miles to get water and even then it’s not good quality and he’s like yeah whatever I do.

He said how it’s stupid of me to sponsor a kid and how I’m wasting my money and should instead pay for his expenses such as his car and that pisses me off like get off my back. I’m only 17, he always bangs on about money and his expenses since me and my siblings have started working.

I know he wants money from us but we aren’t giving it to him. He’s already tortured my mom and called her thief cos some of his money went missing and he always threatens to cut of the internet which is literally the only thing he pays for in the house. Everything else from rent to bills my mom pays with benefits.

Then he has the face after calling me and my siblings stupid and being a racist ******* he comes and acts like nothing has happened and tries to joke around and even then he’s joking around is just like him. Violent and disgusting.

I can’t wait to move out of this ****ing house.

Honestly why is this guy like this. He’s fcking racist and full of greed for money and yet spites other people for being racist too him and claims he doesn’t like money,

What the ****?
Oh, hon. I know it might not help, but is there anyone you can talk to? Anytime you wanna rant or just talk, pm me xx
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Why do you keep referring to your dad as "this guy"?
He's not this guy, he's your dad!

If the worst things that he's done is to not be breadwinner in the family then he's a good enough dad. At least he's not beating anyone in the family.
His political views are neither here nor there. Certainly not worth falling out with him over it. You don't have to agree with them.

And yes, please move out as soon as you can. Moving out now would be fine. If not, move out when you go off to Uni.
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Probably because you go on TSR and cry about him/
Seriously? Not helping.
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(Original post by Dazeo)
Probably because you go on TSR and cry about him/
Moron.
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Anyway OP, you stick in there. Some parents are just bad bad people. You and your siblings are strong for resisting him and not entertaining him, his money grabbing or his racist views. Its hard to stand up but if you're off to uni then hopefully you'll be going within this next year. Otherwise, move away when you get a good job. You sound like a good guy to me. Stick in there for now, you're doing just fine.
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
Why do you keep referring to your dad as "this guy"?
He's not this guy, he's your dad!

If the worst things that he's done is to not be breadwinner in the family then he's a good enough dad. At least he's not beating anyone in the family.
His political views are neither here nor there. Certainly not worth falling out with him over it. You don't have to agree with them.

And yes, please move out as soon as you can. Moving out now would be fine. If not, move out when you go off to Uni.
It takes more than someone biologically being your dad to be a real father. Abuse comes in many forms, not just physical, and it seems like OP's mum has been dealing with this. You can't stop someone having questionable opinions or being selfish, so I suggest OP distances themselves from him as much as they can before uni.
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My dad is honestly such a prick. So I’ve recently decided to sponsor a Kenyan kid to pay for their education and improve their living conditions.

This guy walks into my room and asks for a favour and asks who the picture of this “black kid “ on this letter is, basically when you sponsor a kid they send you a picture of them and details about them and how your sponsor helps them.

I just told it was kid who I was sponsoring cause she lives in poor conditions etc,

And his guy is like why are you sponsoring, sponsor me instead.

At first I thought he was joking I was like do you have to walk miles to get water and even then it’s not good quality and he’s like yeah whatever I do.

He said how it’s stupid of me to sponsor a kid and how I’m wasting my money and should instead pay for his expenses such as his car and that pisses me off like get off my back. I’m only 17, he always bangs on about money and his expenses since me and my siblings have started working.

I know he wants money from us but we aren’t giving it to him. He’s already tortured my mom and called her thief cos some of his money went missing and he always threatens to cut of the internet which is literally the only thing he pays for in the house. Everything else from rent to bills my mom pays with benefits.

Then he has the face after calling me and my siblings stupid and being a racist ******* he comes and acts like nothing has happened and tries to joke around and even then he’s joking around is just like him. Violent and disgusting.

I can’t wait to move out of this ****ing house.

Honestly why is this guy like this. He’s fcking racist and full of greed for money and yet spites other people for being racist too him and claims he doesn’t like money,

What the ****?
Honestly, your dad is right. Sponsoring does nothing. We should contain poverty
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Your dad is wrong. You should sponsor me instead.
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Sounds like a narcissist. get out asap.
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
Why do you keep referring to your dad as "this guy"?
He's not this guy, he's your dad!

If the worst things that he's done is to not be breadwinner in the family then he's a good enough dad. At least he's not beating anyone in the family.
His political views are neither here nor there. Certainly not worth falling out with him over it. You don't have to agree with them.

And yes, please move out as soon as you can. Moving out now would be fine. If not, move out when you go off to Uni.
The worst thing? What's wrong with you. He's racist, that's not a political view. He shouldn't be praised for being not violent, that's expected.
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The worst thing? What's wrong with you. He's racist, that's not a political view. He shouldn't be praised for being not violent, that's expected.
Him thinking that you shouldn't be sending money to a Kenyan child does not necessarily make him a racist.

He could just be a free market capitalist. Which is a political view.

You on the other had appear to have more socialistic political views. That's OK. You're welcome to have whichever political viewpoints you wish. And so is your dad.

I think every non-violent person in the world should be praised for not being violent. You are taking his non-violence for granted. And that mindset is one of the ones that I don't agree with - taking the good features of those around us for granted. Whilst focusing on any "bad" points they might have. And in this case his views on your money to Kenyan child is not even bad. It's just a different political viewpoint to yours.
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The worst thing? What's wrong with you. He's racist, that's not a political view. He shouldn't be praised for being not violent, that's expected.
being racised is a political view
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I'm in a similar situation. Pm me if you want to chat about it
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You are an awesome person just so you know!

what you are doing is amazing and a lot of other kids your age would never ever think about such selfless acts of care and kindness.

Karma will reward you with great things!!
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What’s your instagram bro
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