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Walking Away

Ive fancied a girl heavily since the just before christmas,pretty much since i met her,while towards the beginning there were complications,such as her having a boyfriend for the first month or so, i felt there was definetely something there.Anyone who read my previous threads about her,ages ago now it seems,will know we were pretty close and pretty romantic

However somewhere along the line i moved from being her potential boyfriend to being probably closer to a pet than anything else,someone she could call up when she needed,company, but also she could use as a prop in her flirting with other people. She knew and knows how i feel about her,though never gave a conclusive reaction when i told her,the one time i was going to ask her out just after she and her boyfriend broke up she was fairly heartbroken and said she wanted to be single for a while

I ignored the fairly obvious conclusion that she considered me just a friend because at times it really did seem like i was more but the way she acted the last time i saw her,last time before the uni holidays started it was like i wasnt even her close friend, i was just some guy she knew. This hurt and annoyed me so ive decided to try and ignore her and cut her out of my life. i cant be just friends with someone i feel this strongly about. Ive Blocked her on msn,and will not txt her unless she txts me.

While i still hold out hope that a few weeks down the line i'll get a "stevo i havent heard from you in ages and i love you" txt this is unlikely. This is effectively a rant but im already finding it pretty tough not talking to her, i wonder if anyone else has had to do this and whether they care to offer advice or help me wallow in self pity?

Reply 1

little.miss.vicki

Unfortunately there isn't much advice anyone can give you. In the past when I've split up with someone and it still hurts I tend to avoid contact for a while, once it starts to get better (and it will get get better) I send them a txt or email just to see how they are. Maybe you could try that and hope that you can be friends eventually. It sounds like you've done the right thing for now.

If you want to wallow in self pity feel free to PM me (or chocolate ice cream,white wine, pizza, a girly chat/bitch and 'love actually' always makes me feel better-although I'm not sure how well that works for men lol)

xxxx

Reply 2

stevo23e

OP

much appreciated, im trying out the girly bitchy thing to be honest,though with a female friend who already didnt like the girl

Reply 3

Cj-Tj

15

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away

sometimes some people get me wrong
when it's something I've said or done
sometimes you feel there is no fun
that's why you turn and run
but now I truly realise
some people don't wanna compromise
well I saw them with my own eyes spreading those lies
and well I don't wanna live a lie, too many sleepless nights
not mentioning the fights, I'm sorry to say lady

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away

Well I'm so tired baby
things you say you're driving me away
whispers in the powder room baby
don't listen to the games they play
girl I thought you'd realise
I'm not like them other guys
coz I saw them with my own eyes
you should've been more wise
and well I don't wanna live a lie, too many sleepless nights
not mentioning the fights, I'm sorry to say lady

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away

Reply 4

lilac spooge

12

Its a hell of alot harder than you think...

I've tried and failed on a number of occasions with one girl...

if you've blocked her on msn you need to delete her or you will be tempted to unbloke her and tal to her...wrecking everything

Reply 5

Irrelevance

16

You took the bait matey, no consolation in that from me i'm afraid. You need to keep an eye out for these types that string you along.

Don't pity yourself, it happens. You'll get over it soon enough; forgetting her is a perfect start.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

I went through a similar sort of thing with a guy who (thankfully) did come to his senses and (much much later!) we're now together. But there was still a point where he knew how I felt about him, wasn't ready to act on it, but wasn't ready to tell me that he wasn't interested either so I was just left in limbo: and his idiot of a friend kept talking about me to mutual friends meaning that people were saying all kinds of crap, which admittedly he wasn't responsible for, but which really hurt.

Anyway, the useful bit that I was going to add was if you keep your friends in "categories" (e.g. I have school friends, uni friends, year abroad friends, TSR friends etc) then shut your eyes and drag them to another place (e.g. people I don't talk to much). By not knowing where she is, and not coming across her every time you're in your Best Friends bit of msn you'll be less tempted to crack and unblock her.

Reply 7

Federer Rulz

12

Cj-Tj

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away

sometimes some people get me wrong
when it's something I've said or done
sometimes you feel there is no fun
that's why you turn and run
but now I truly realise
some people don't wanna compromise
well I saw them with my own eyes spreading those lies
and well I don't wanna live a lie, too many sleepless nights
not mentioning the fights, I'm sorry to say lady

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away

Well I'm so tired baby
things you say you're driving me away
whispers in the powder room baby
don't listen to the games they play
girl I thought you'd realise
I'm not like them other guys
coz I saw them with my own eyes
you should've been more wise
and well I don't wanna live a lie, too many sleepless nights
not mentioning the fights, I'm sorry to say lady

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away from the troubles in my life
I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away

craig david

awesome tune

Reply 8

Goin'Underground

you should try dating other girls, playing hard to get. If she sees you as a friend she's less likely to be sexually attracted to you and more likely to see you as a 'girlfriend'. So don't chat to her about her problems etc. even if this doesn't make her like you more, you've still got the other girls to go out with and take your mind off her! its win win! :biggrin:

Reply 9

stevo23e

OP

while i think you'll forgive me for not taking Craig David's advice i do appreciate all this,especially the stuff from people whove been through the same thing,and ESPECIALLY the advice from the anonymous lady who had this turn out all right in the end,who knows it could happen.

I havent deleted her because i do see myself talking to her again at some point, i do have plenty of other people and girls to head out with to keep my mind off her, and avoiding her after the holidays will be fairly easy to begin with as im a year above her at uni,dont have classes with her and dont live anywhere near her,though i think thats changing soon.

but damn it is so tough not to talk to her. thanks anyway.

Reply 10

stevo23e

OP

nobody cares now but i got an "i miss you" txt message after not talking to her for a week,it didnt help

Reply 11

em1n3m

stevo23e

Ive fancied a girl heavily since the just before christmas,pretty much since i met her,while towards the beginning there were complications,such as her having a boyfriend for the first month or so, i felt there was definetely something there.Anyone who read my previous threads about her,ages ago now it seems,will know we were pretty close and pretty romantic

However somewhere along the line i moved from being her potential boyfriend to being probably closer to a pet than anything else,someone she could call up when she needed,company, but also she could use as a prop in her flirting with other people. She knew and knows how i feel about her,though never gave a conclusive reaction when i told her,the one time i was going to ask her out just after she and her boyfriend broke up she was fairly heartbroken and said she wanted to be single for a while

I ignored the fairly obvious conclusion that she considered me just a friend because at times it really did seem like i was more but the way she acted the last time i saw her,last time before the uni holidays started it was like i wasnt even her close friend, i was just some guy she knew. This hurt and annoyed me so ive decided to try and ignore her and cut her out of my life. i cant be just friends with someone i feel this strongly about. Ive Blocked her on msn,and will not txt her unless she txts me.

While i still hold out hope that a few weeks down the line i'll get a "stevo i havent heard from you in ages and i love you" txt this is unlikely. This is effectively a rant but im already finding it pretty tough not talking to her, i wonder if anyone else has had to do this and whether they care to offer advice or help me wallow in self pity?

Oh you are a brave man. I've tried to do what you have done but I always get weak. You're already on the right track, keep up man. You're doing the right thing.

Reply 12

em1n3m

stevo23e

nobody cares now but i got an "i miss you" txt message after not talking to her for a week,it didnt help

why not?

Reply 13

stevo23e

OP

im probably going to read to much into it,txt her back too much and fall into the desolate cycle of being tortured by being around her again,though i did reply it would have been rude not to

Reply 14

thebarmaidsmiles

'i miss you' means 'attention has run out elsewhere, please supply'.

Just be strong and stand your ground. If she likes you so much it won't hurt her to do some of the leg work for a change

Reply 15

stevo23e

OP

galleta87

'i miss you' means 'attention has run out elsewhere, please supply'.

Just be strong and stand your ground. If she likes you so much it won't hurt her to do some of the leg work for a change

with this particular girl thats probably exactly what it means,im not going to initiate any lengthly txt conversations and im sadly suprisingly proud of myself for not folding yet

Reply 16

Ron Stoppable

14

Irrelevance

You took the bait matey, no consolation in that from me i'm afraid. You need to keep an eye out for these types that string you along.

Don't pity yourself, it happens. You'll get over it soon enough; forgetting her is a perfect start.

*Replacing - and this time, talking of string, don't become an emotional tampon for anyone.

Reply 17

stevo23e

OP

"emotional tampon" why am i just learning this phrase now?!

Reply 18

HipsAndHearts

10

She sounds horrid.

Loving the craig David lyrics. :smile:

Reply 19

stevo23e

OP

3 weeks away from uni,one txt conversation initiated by her,one very brief drunk msn convo initiated by myself and one txt i sent that never got a reply, im quite proud but now the tough bit comes

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