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    I made some friends at uni but because I didn’t go to a uni near home, they all live in different locations, don’t get me wrong I put in a lot of effort but I feel like a few of them have given up meeting up. I officially only have two friends I see ‘occasionally’ because they are busy, understandable as we have our own lives but in all my life I have never felt so alone . I don’t really feel happy either because I feel like I have no purpose, considering I’m graduating with a grade that is lower than I expected, I feel I have no place.

    I’ve had really dark thoughts because I feel soo lonely, I just don’t know how to make friends now unis over or have someone or a group of people to go to events with. I feel like I wasted 3 years of my twenties already because I have mainly had noone to do things with and never been to proper festivals or concerts.

    Idk what to do, I feel like I’m on the verge of breakdown because I’m so lonely 😔
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I made some friends at uni but because I didn’t go to a uni near home, they all live in different locations, don’t get me wrong I put in a lot of effort but I feel like a few of them have given up meeting up. I officially only have two friends I see ‘occasionally’ because they are busy, understandable as we have our own lives but in all my life I have never felt so alone . I don’t really feel happy either because I feel like I have no purpose, considering I’m graduating with a grade that is lower than I expected, I feel I have no place.

    I’ve had really dark thoughts because I feel soo lonely, I just don’t know how to make friends now unis over or have someone or a group of people to go to events with. I feel like I wasted 3 years of my twenties already because I have mainly had noone to do things with and never been to proper festivals or concerts.

    Idk what to do, I feel like I’m on the verge of breakdown because I’m so lonely 😔
    Hey Op! dont give up! speaking from experience , Uni isnt everyones cup of tea if im honest, what you put in is what you get out and even then u have to put in another 10% so dont be disheartened about not making friends since most people are superficial at uni and spend most of their time staring at their phones or not being bothered with others! like the above user said go out to see attractions go to social events and your bound to meet people and then introduce urself! im sorry for the long post, i had more to say but itd become an essay! if you want to chat or want advice or just want to vent feel free to ask or PM me, id be happy to help!
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    Get a job. Play sport. Have hobbies. Make friends there. There’s no rule that says you must keep friends from uni. It’s going to be fine.
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    cheer up buddy, il be ur friend :] concerts and festivals can be fun but its not like its the main purpose of life. you can try talking to your friends on skype or something? my friends who are in different uni's, i still talk to them on discord. you can make friends anywhere man, be confident and be more outgoing buddy :]
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I made some friends at uni but because I didn’t go to a uni near home, they all live in different locations, don’t get me wrong I put in a lot of effort but I feel like a few of them have given up meeting up. I officially only have two friends I see ‘occasionally’ because they are busy, understandable as we have our own lives but in all my life I have never felt so alone . I don’t really feel happy either because I feel like I have no purpose, considering I’m graduating with a grade that is lower than I expected, I feel I have no place.

    I’ve had really dark thoughts because I feel soo lonely, I just don’t know how to make friends now unis over or have someone or a group of people to go to events with. I feel like I wasted 3 years of my twenties already because I have mainly had noone to do things with and never been to proper festivals or concerts.

    Idk what to do, I feel like I’m on the verge of breakdown because I’m so lonely 😔
    Happy for you to PM me too! Top bants and all that jazz...

    I moved far from home for work after graduating - I'm with my significant other but do appreciate it felt odd - if slightly lonely - at the beginning (and that's with a very social work cohort!). Part of it is nostalgia and missing the memories...

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    I know it's scary and I've been there, but you don't need to just socialise with people you already know. This is 2018 and it's actually very easy to meet up with new people now thanks to the internet (although it's easier if you live in a city). Also remember this is a planet with 7 billion people, it's not just your current connections. Loneliness is unpleasant but just remember most people experience this at some point in their lives, it's a very universal feeling. Feeling like you have no purpose is also how many graduates feel (I wouldn't be surprised if the overwhelming majority of today's graduates secretly feel the things you describe, people are very good at hiding how they feel) and this isn't a great time to be young in general as pretty much all statistics out there and everything in the news suggests. I wouldn't worry about it too much as there's not much you (or any of us) can do about the state of things.

    Don't feel like you've wasted 3 years of your 20s, you've still got your whole life ahead of you. I'm older than you (assuming you're 23) and I've still got my whole life ahead of me. (I started uni when I was 20 and I was there for a long time, when I finished I felt like I wasted those years (and subsequently had an existential crisis), but looking back I wouldn't trade that time for anything. In fact I feel a bit sorry for people I know who've spent their early 20s in **** jobs while I've been having fun and preserving my carefree youth.) Life expectancy keeps going up anyway and people do things later in life now compared to before.
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    Thank you, but I don’t really want to be off anon :/
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    (Original post by Dark_Knight123)
    Hey Op! dont give up! speaking from experience , Uni isnt everyones cup of tea if im honest, what you put in is what you get out and even then u have to put in another 10% so dont be disheartened about not making friends since most people are superficial at uni and spend most of their time staring at their phones or not being bothered with others! like the above user said go out to see attractions go to social events and your bound to meet people and then introduce urself! im sorry for the long post, i had more to say but itd become an essay! if you want to chat or want advice or just want to vent feel free to ask or PM me, id be happy to help!
    That’s ok it wasn’t as long as mine, thank you for responding
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    Happy for you to PM me too! Top bants and all that jazz...

    I moved far from home for work after graduating - I'm with my significant other but do appreciate it felt odd - if slightly lonely - at the beginning (and that's with a very social work cohort!). Part of it is nostalgia and missing the memories...

    Where are you based?
    Yeah like missing old times and being lonely.
    South east London
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    (Original post by MaskOfKeaton)
    I know it's scary and I've been there, but you don't need to just socialise with people you already know. This is 2018 and it's actually very easy to meet up with new people now thanks to the internet (although it's easier if you live in a city). Also remember this is a planet with 7 billion people, it's not just your current connections. Loneliness is unpleasant but just remember most people experience this at some point in their lives, it's a very universal feeling. Feeling like you have no purpose is also how many graduates feel (I wouldn't be surprised if the overwhelming majority of today's graduates secretly feel the things you describe, people are very good at hiding how they feel) and this isn't a great time to be young in general as pretty much all statistics out there and everything in the news suggests. I wouldn't worry about it too much as there's not much you (or any of us) can do about the state of things.

    Don't feel like you've wasted 3 years of your 20s, you've still got your whole life ahead of you. I'm older than you (assuming you're 23) and I've still got my whole life ahead of me. (I started uni when I was 20 and I was there for a long time, when I finished I felt like I wasted those years (and subsequently had an existential crisis), but looking back I wouldn't trade that time for anything. In fact I feel a bit sorry for people I know who've spent their early 20s in **** jobs while I've been having fun and preserving my carefree youth.) Life expectancy keeps going up anyway and people do things later in life now compared to before.
    Yeah I just turned 23, I get what you mean, the fact that there’s billions of people and I barely have close friends to hang out with makes me feel a little worst.
    Other than actually making friends through education, I just don’t know how to make friends other than get a job and go from there.. I’m just so lonely and I hate this feeling. I’ve felt like this for years it’s just that I’ve had friends come and go but it’s never got to the point where no one cares or bothers to hang out or even talk to me 😔.
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