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    I am 19 years old. When I say that I feel more mature than my age, I don’t mean that I go around wearing a full face of makeup and wear heels. I don’t do either of those things. I have a haircut I’ve only seen on mums and middle aged women. I dress in skinny jeans and shirts, or long/mid length dresses with my favourite grey men’s denim jacket over the top and do not aim to attract.

    I socialise with older women, such as my neighbours who are of young grandmother age, and my best friend is almost 32. I don’t identify in the same way as most 19 year olds do, and I frequently find myself feeling like they’re all much younger than me.

    The issue is that beside my clothing choices and haircut, I look very young. I have a youthful face and while I do turn the heads of guys mostly in their mid to late 20s, I find it difficult to initiate anything with any of them. A lot of men are nervous and as I’m nervous too, it’s a bit of a conundrum.

    If you’ve got through all that then I thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time out of your life to read it. It’s not easy. I want to know how women in their mid to late 20s, even their 30s, are perceived as attractive by men, because that’s what I’m dealing with here.

    Is it possible to live as if you’re older when you are very young? Has anybody here ever married at 20? Or settled down in their early 20s with a more established man?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 19 years old. When I say that I feel more mature than my age, I don’t mean that I go around wearing a full face of makeup and wear heels. I don’t do either of those things. I have a haircut I’ve only seen on mums and middle aged women. I dress in skinny jeans and shirts, or long/mid length dresses with my favourite grey men’s denim jacket over the top and do not aim to attract.

    I socialise with older women, such as my neighbours who are of young grandmother age, and my best friend is almost 32. I don’t identify in the same way as most 19 year olds do, and I frequently find myself feeling like they’re all much younger than me.

    The issue is that beside my clothing choices and haircut, I look very young. I have a youthful face and while I do turn the heads of guys mostly in their mid to late 20s, I find it difficult to initiate anything with any of them. A lot of men are nervous and as I’m nervous too, it’s a bit of a conundrum.

    If you’ve got through all that then I thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time out of your life to read it. It’s not easy. I want to know how women in their mid to late 20s, even their 30s, are perceived as attractive by men, because that’s what I’m dealing with here.

    Is it possible to live as if you’re older when you are very young? Has anybody here ever married at 20? Or settled down in their early 20s with a more established man?
    Hey! I'm not a girl but im a 20 year old guy who is quite similar so i thought id weigh in here! A lot of people think im older than i am but thats cause of my facial appearance but also my personality traits aswell in that i'm quite mature, quiet, hard working polite and i like to mingle with people older than me cause i find they are more easier to talk to cause of their life experience and subject knowledge.... and its just more enlightening to talk to them! in terms of clothes i dress simply, and i dress unlike most guys of our age, in a way i just dress to get it over with if it makes sense.... in terms of attractiveness trust me the traits u mentioned are just fine and depends on the guy and if he wants a mature lady so dont worry! to answer ur question u can live older than your age and me personally i have seen loads of people settle down at that age! its really interesting to hear someone say what u said its quite common and id like to hear more if you want? If you want more advice/ chat feel free to PM me!
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    I really don't have any great advice to be honest. I think you have to just be who you are comfortable being. But you are heading into your twenties and thirties. You will never get to be in your late teens/early twenties again so I wouldn't encourage fighting it just enjoy the stage you are in right now. You're not fooling anyone - your best friend may be 32 but she knows you're 19 and she doesn't care because you have a personal connection based on personalities. You're not going to be able to change your face to look older because you're not older. All you can do is be yourself. If a guy in his late 20's finds you attractive then so be it but acting older and even looking older doesn't make you older so, depending on the guy, your age may be a factor for now. Not necessarily but potentially.
    You can work on your confidence and work on making good eye contact and smiling when you're talking to a guy you might fancy. If he's trying to be funny then make sure you laugh at his effort at humour. Just be present in the conversation not looking down and not looking past him to see what else is going on in the room but look at him while he's talking and while your talking. If he's interested he'll try to keep the conversation going. I, personally, wouldn't try to look like you're in your late twenties/ early thirties at nineteen because there is no need for that. You're trying to identify as someone you are not. But, if that is where you are comfortable then just be yourself. And, yes, plenty of people get married at 20 or around the age.
 
 
 
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