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mine live 10 minutes away, but due to 20 years of family arguments and some pretty stupid things theyve done, i never see them anymore....but its easier that way.
anybody else have no contact with their grandparents???
anybody else have no contact with their grandparents???
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Reply 1
I do not see my paternal grandparents ever since I have no contact with my Father. Well a couple of years ago when I was 15, I rang them up out of the blu and asked if I could pop around for half an hour. My family were completely against it but in the end they understood that it was something I had to do. I went over for a cup of tea and just told them about my life, about school, possible universities, pets, anything. I was nervous as hell but I am so glad I went and made the effort. i haven't again since, but I plan to soon, just to say 'hi, I care.'
Just do it, get some Uncle Joe's Mint Balls for your Grandad and soem flowers for your Nanna (or whatever) and go for it. I can't imagine that they'd not welcome you. Half an hour to an hour is a good length of time to stay because it saves it being awkward and is perfect for 2 cups of tea and a slice of cake.
Good Luck!
Just do it, get some Uncle Joe's Mint Balls for your Grandad and soem flowers for your Nanna (or whatever) and go for it. I can't imagine that they'd not welcome you. Half an hour to an hour is a good length of time to stay because it saves it being awkward and is perfect for 2 cups of tea and a slice of cake.
Good Luck!
Reply 2
I don't- still don't understand why. I get on well with my bf's nan though so I don't really mind.
Reply 3
When I'm home i see my mum's parents every week, unless they're on holiday.
My dad's parents? Well, contact is usually only Birthdays/Christmas/Easter. Not happy about it, but it's been that way for so long, conversations with her are awkward.
My dad's parents? Well, contact is usually only Birthdays/Christmas/Easter. Not happy about it, but it's been that way for so long, conversations with her are awkward.
Reply 4
Three quarters of my grandparents are dead.
Reply 5
I have no living grandparents. If any were still around I wouldn't let a silly family argument stop me from seeing them. I'd want them to be some part of my life if possible.
As it stands it would be a bit weird for me to say I have contact with them... It would be fun to talk to them from beyond the grave...
As it stands it would be a bit weird for me to say I have contact with them... It would be fun to talk to them from beyond the grave...
Reply 6
I only have one living grandma who lives abroad. My great uncle and auntie (who were pretty much our granparents when we were growing up) have fallen out with my parents over stupid things that happenned 20 years ago. Now they dont talk at all and as a result me and my bro's have v little contact with them... both of them are so stubborn that i think the argument will carry until they die!
Reply 7
I don't really have any contact with my maternal grandparents. My family had a big falling out with them. I occassionally talk to them on the phone but that's it and it's always me who makes the call.
I don't see my dad's mum much as she lives the other side of the country (see her about every 2 years or so) and my dad's dad only lives about 15 mins away but we hardly ever see him either but that's just because we don't get round to it.
I don't see my dad's mum much as she lives the other side of the country (see her about every 2 years or so) and my dad's dad only lives about 15 mins away but we hardly ever see him either but that's just because we don't get round to it.
Reply 8
i see my paternal grandparents nearly every day of my life..they live a few minutes away...sometimes that it is annoying..but im glad..but before my maternal grandparents passed away..i didnt see then like every 5 years or so, because they lived abroad.
Reply 9
wow well done littlechinagirl, thats really good 
Reply 10
Kater Murr
Three quarters of my grandparents are dead.
Same here, I'm lucky because my Grandma lives in Nottingham so I see her when I can really.
Reply 11
I have no desire to see my paternal grandmother and last surviving grandparent. She decided that I was kicked out of school for dealing drugs, even though I left of my own accord with the blessing of my parents. Nice one.. go go gadget dementia!
Mine are all deceased. I've been grandparent-less for 4 and a half years now.
Reply 13
When I'm in London, I see my Paternal Grandparents every week or so. It's not too bad, I enjoy their company...my Gran just tries to fatten me up every time I go round which gets rather annoying, but it's sweet I guess. Your story sounds very similar to my cousin's...I've never met my Dad's older brother or his children and they haven't met our Grandparents due to family feuds and they only live 10 minutes away.
Reply 14
Mine are all dead.
Reply 15
wow that is quite similar indeedy.
would be interesting to know how u cope with it?
ever feel like you're missing out and wonder about them and wish things had been different?
...or do you think its for the better and that families, and the respect you give them, need to be earned?
would be interesting to know how u cope with it?
ever feel like you're missing out and wonder about them and wish things had been different?
...or do you think its for the better and that families, and the respect you give them, need to be earned?
Reply 16
Anonymous
wow that is quite similar indeedy.
would be interesting to know how u cope with it?
ever feel like you're missing out and wonder about them and wish things had been different?
...or do you think its for the better and that families, and the respect you give them, need to be earned?
would be interesting to know how u cope with it?
ever feel like you're missing out and wonder about them and wish things had been different?
...or do you think its for the better and that families, and the respect you give them, need to be earned?
Nah, the feud annoys me. It's pathetic, it's between my Aunt (Dad's sister-in-law) and my Gran really, but as per usual everyone's picked their sides so my Dad's brother sticks to his own family and we stick to ours. I tried to contact my cousins a while ago actually because I found out one of my friend's went to school with the daughter, but that didn't go down to well. I didn't end up contacting her because everyone warned me off it. I would like to meet them at least once just out of curiosity, because I'm pretty close with my other cousins. It's a shame because they've both missed out on so many fun family times, but hey ho. I suppose our paths may cross one day.
Reply 17
14
I can't imagine life without mine... I realise that we all have to go sometime, but it'll cut me up when it does happen because I've always had such a close family. I love uni and my life there, but I miss my grandparents loads and visit them every time I come home.
I realise that not everyone is as lucky as I am to get on with their grandparents, but if you have the opportunity to make contact, go for it before it's too late. It might not be as idyllic as you'd hoped, but at the very worst, you'll have tried.
I realise that not everyone is as lucky as I am to get on with their grandparents, but if you have the opportunity to make contact, go for it before it's too late. It might not be as idyllic as you'd hoped, but at the very worst, you'll have tried.
Reply 18
Don't let arguments get in the way. They still love you, and when you're sat watching them slip away you'll wish you did things differently.
Reply 19
I don't see my maternal grandfather, which is difficult given that he lives with my maternal grandmother, who I do see.
It's my mother's choice, he was abusive to her and her siblings as she was growing up and now that she can be away from him, she is.
Sometimes I feel bad for him because he is a very isolated man and there have been some immensly sad and awkward moments over the years. However, I don't know what my mum went through, so I can't blame her for this situation, I have to let her act in this manner. I hate the way that the family is so divided, but as I said, I don't knwo what she went through.
It's my mother's choice, he was abusive to her and her siblings as she was growing up and now that she can be away from him, she is.
Sometimes I feel bad for him because he is a very isolated man and there have been some immensly sad and awkward moments over the years. However, I don't know what my mum went through, so I can't blame her for this situation, I have to let her act in this manner. I hate the way that the family is so divided, but as I said, I don't knwo what she went through.
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