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Girls - how do you get a guy in a club?

I am 18 and have never properly pulled a guy. I am quite good looking, but really lakcing confidence. I really want to just get off with a guy in a club - not one of those sleazy 40 year olds, but not fussy about who else really! Just for the experience. Because I am quite shy (and this doesn't go away enough with alcohol) I can't quite do it. Any advice on attracting a guy? Im guesisng that its simple stuff like eye contact etc which makes all the difference? Please help.

Reply 1

krisss

9

Just relax. The more you do it the easier it will become. Theres no set code, just make eye contact as you said, dance near them then it should follow from there.

Reply 2

Mr. Giblet

from a guys perspective, yea, make eye contact from accross the room and stuff. once you know hes seen you and if hes made eye contact back, if your in a group, give him a chance to approach you, maybe go to the bar on your own so he can come and talk to you away from your group. he (should) buy you a drink, ask you to dance and what youre looking for would probably go from there.

Reply 3

dh00001

16

go and talk to them. some males are just as shy and hoping you make the move

Reply 4

Darkened Angel

11

When you've made eye contact go dance with them, always works for me. Or you could try talking to them, just say something like 'you alright?' or 'having a good night?'.

Reply 5

WhatTheFunk

17

some males are
i am :p:

yeah making eye contact is good and if he makes it back smile, move over to him see what he dose, this from a males point of view

Reply 6

doctor2be

If you're just looking for a random pull, and you're good-looking, chances are they'll just approach you anyways if you're dancing near them etc/attract their attention. Just kind of have the notion that you're never going to see them again so you can act exactly how you please?

Reply 7

Nadinus

1

Yeah, it's pretty easy in clubs. Stand around looking half bored but thoughtful. Works like a charm. If you're good looking, you probably won't need to do much. If you drink, then just chat to a random guy at the bar, drunken chats nearly always lead to getting off.

But I warn you op, it will be a total anticlimax. You feel all crap that you never have and then when you do it it's just like...okay I don't feel any different having done that.

Reply 8

qubog

12

Pulling in clubs is not as fun as it sounds, most of the time.

But anyway, the bar is a good place to pull. Make eye contact with someone cute, smile and look away then look back. If they are still looking they'll probably know you're interested and come over to talk to you/possibly buy you a drink. Have a chat with them and ask if they want to dance. When you are dancing, whisper something in their ear and/or kiss them on the cheek and voila, you almost always end up kissing.

God, I sound like a seasoned man eater haha. Everyone has their moves :smile:

Reply 9

AwesomelyPsycho

Y'know what's funny... I'm exactley the same!
Except I'm 17.
I have hardly any confidence and so it's really hard for me to get the nerve to talk to a guy.

Reply 10

Yusuf.T

15

pulling in clubs in fun, its the only place you have to actually scream in someone's ear to get them to hear your chat up line.
Guy- DO YOU COME HERE OFTEN!!!!???
Girl- SORRY,WHAT!!!!???
Guy- I SAID DO YOU COME HERE OFTEN!!!!??

And so on and so forth.

Reply 11

Ice_Queen

17

Eye contact on the dance floor. Then each of you gradually move towards each other until you're dancing from there.
Probably there will be kissing, then when the club closes you just walk with him to either your place or his :wink:

Although I don't recommend it.

Good luck!

Reply 12

Ashes_to_Ashes

2

Look at them a bit, dance closely, start talking a bit, start dancing more with them, complement them, gaze at them, brush against them, start whispering in their ear and then see what they do. :p:

A club is always great for this due to the loud music. :smartass:

Reply 13

NW8_SW1_EC3

This is amazing, I have seen countless guys get rejected from such ugly girls when they try grinding on a girl in a club, if you class yourself as 'quite good looking' I can't believe no boy has tried it on yet. You must go to some wierd clubs.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

NW8_SW1_EC3

This is amazing, I have seen countless guys get rejected from such ugly girls when they try grinding on a girl in a club, if you class yourself as 'quite good looking' I can't believe no boy has tried it on yet. You must go to some wierd clubs.

They do show interest but I am to shy to respond, and guys in clubs dont put much effort in until they move onto the next girl. They assume (probably righlty in most casses) that if a girl appears uninterested from the start then they are not going to get very far and they give up.

Also, I can't help it but I always look like im having a really miserable time, even when im not. I think it goes back to the nervous and shy thing again. No guy likes a girl who looks like shed rather be dead than on the dance floor!

Eye contact.

a girl can do pretty much anything in this sort of situation if she's good looking enough. just say hello, nod and laugh when the guy speaks, make eye contact and say some corny **** like "wheres yr girlfriend?" etc etc

Reply 17

ShinyApple

14

NW8_SW1_EC3

This is amazing, I have seen countless guys get rejected from such ugly girls when they try grinding on a girl in a club, if you class yourself as 'quite good looking' I can't believe no boy has tried it on yet. You must go to some wierd clubs.

Most boys don't go for the pretty ones because they believe they are unattainable. So, your theory doesn't hold. They're much more likely to grind against something that they think they can get easily than something that the perceive as having 'no hope' with.

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

im the same...except..im really not attractive!

Reply 19

Crystaltears

12

Erm...just dance and they will come up to you! :smile:

Girls - how do you get a guy in a club?

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