Basically, Easter Break from uni and we are both in different places geographically. Anon as gf on here.
Earlier in the week she was texting me about 10 - 15 times a day which I found really annoying - am I being unreasonable?
Anyway, I think she's kinda got the impression it was annoying me since she hasn't really texted me or spoken to me online or rang me much.
Do you have partners who text/comminicate too much while you are away from each other? How do you deal with it?
I think we're ok, but it used to be really bad! Just let her know that you don't really like it that she texts you so much. Communication is key.
Well what exactly too much in the first place? I think in a relationship when these hurdles are met you need to make clear what the boundaries are/are not. For example, I may be able to handle 40 texts a day, whilst some rather only one or two a day.
I would suggest the next time you are with her to gently discuss what you deem as acceptable/unacceptable. Ask for her opinion too, and you can compromise.
U don't message her back after each text either right? Because maybe she thinks u like her messages.. talk to her (or stop replying to every message, every 5th instead, depending on content course).
Then dont reply to every text, or wait an hour or so before replying. if im trying to do work i switch my phone off so that im not distracted/annoyed by the texts.
Wouldn't it be nice if you could buy a mobile without a text function.
That would be heaven.
Errrgh thats used to happen to me with girls back in college, they would text me EVERYDAY.. in the morning,afternoon and evening.. it was hella annoying.. i have commitment issues so once traits like that show up.. i jump ship (very bad i know, but im working on it) But yeah just dont reply to every text message, that may lead her to send you a message like "Have i done something wrong?" and that will cause her to get all paranoid but the best thing to say is that you've been really busy with other stuff and that you'd prefer to talk to ber properly via the phone rather then random messages here and there.
Who just pos repped me for my post?
Thanks to whoever it was..
Er yeah anyhoo.. My ex used to do this all the time, used to do my head in. I talked to him about it and he calmed down and it was ok. But then I realised he was a **** anyway, locked him out of his own flat in his underwear then he moved to Germany.
Also speaking from recent experiences (the guy I'm currently stalking) I have been the one who bombards him with texts.
But its only because he doesn't reply or he'll reply with something like 'ha bloody ha. x' which is like ending the conversation. Which is just plain rude really.
So the moral of this story is.. If you want her to leave the country lock her out of her house and if you're planning on stalking someone soon, dont bombard them with texts because for some reason they dont take too kindly to that, let alone the stalking.
Ground rules. Early on in a relationship you just mention all the things that bug you or that you like in a person. Eg. "Yeah, I really like adventurous girls... you're adventurous!" or "Oh god, there is nothing worse than being bombarded with texts by a partner huh?" Don't make it person-specific, but make it clear. Works perfectly. And it prevents those awkward u-turns "darling, you know how I said I love it when you stroke my ears when I'm sleeping... turns out it annoys the **** out of me! sorry!"
I don't think you should ignore the texts - that'll just make her worse and paranoid which'll give you necessary stress and stuff to sort out.
Just when she sends the first one of the day, just text back something like 'Yeah I'm fine thanks, just going up town for the day so I'll ring you later' or 'Yes things are good thanks, I'm up to my eyeballs in uni work, gonna be busy busy all day so how about I give you a text later?' or something like that.
Stops her texting you all day and reassures her that you still do want to talk to her, just later and at a more convenient time.
End of the day mate YOU are building your own path in life
If she has an unresolved issue with you doing that then you need to adress it ASAP!
1) You cant relax around other "new" people who will then INSTANTLY pass a judegment on you/your personallity
2) Space is key to some form of happyness (will promote the "wanting feeling" to be alot more obvious between you two and itll be worth the wait!..........Like rabbits as they say! lol)
3) Itll effect more than just your mind, your work and the whole point of being at uni!
4) If she gets annoyed at the fact that you can speak all day (Busy building your path) then she has bordem/lonely/hit a brickwall in her life issues!
If you dont make it clear then you'll be the one taking in up the rear because she's wearing the trousers! lol
Sorry but i used to do the EXACT same thing to my ex!