i dont know why everyone wants a relationship

so basically ive never been in a relationship or on a date, because whenever i get asked out i am not feeling it. It's either that the people arent my cup of tea(hence an immediate no) or if they are , I still decline because I would rather spend that time alone or with friends etcetc

I'm not asexual because I've definitely had crushes in the distant past and once in a while I do look at some people and think they're attractive etc. My thoughts don't usually go beyond appreciating their looks, though.

Is there something wrong with me? Like I genuinely enjoy not being in a relationship and ofcourse I wouldn't know because I've never been in one but whenever someone makes a move to try and get me out of single mode I'm like *shudders*
so if thats how i feel simply being asked out I can't imagine how I would feel being in a full on relationship with someone

anyway this is a very long post where I basically am just wondering if people experience something similar because everyone around me seems to love the idea of being with someone else

thanksssss

You’re in a very good position to focus on yourself. It’s so much worse when you’re so desperate for a relationship that you’ll chase anyone.

My ex and I broke up in March, and I’m ambivalent to relationships. Like, they’re a lot of hassle and it restricts your ability to make huge changes in your life, because you’ve got to consider how that person will feel. I’m out of the crap heap of crying over him multiple times a day and convincing myself that he wants me back and I feel now like I’m ‘discovering’ myself as cliche as that sounds, now I’m single. On the other hand, I miss having ‘my person’ and someone that was unconditionally accepting of me, and was always available for a cuddle, a takeaway, a new adventure.

Being single is the healthiest thing for me right now.

Nothing wrong with you. I’ve had a similar experience. I think you are asexual - it’s a spectrum, and asexual people also have crushes and romantic attraction, but because they lack that strong sexual impulse, they basically can’t be bothered to go on a date unless they really care for a person

cuz ur lazy

so basically ive never been in a relationship or on a date, because whenever i get asked out i am not feeling it. It's either that the people arent my cup of tea(hence an immediate no) or if they are , I still decline because I would rather spend that time alone or with friends etcetc

Nah relationships are over rated. My ex was always so vindictive and emotional. I had no choice but to end it with her. It was toxic and I almost ended up losing my mind with her.

So yeah being single is the way to go. You invest in yourself rather then someone else. Which is more beneficial.