boyfriend seeing his ex and lying to me about it? Watch
Fast forward to now and I had suspicions he was talking to his ex. I asked him about it around a month ago and reassured him that I trusted him and didn't mind if he spoke to her since I know she was a big part of his life, and he insisted that he only spoke to her to say hello when he was hanging out with her brother (who is one of his best friends).
I dropped it but recently noticed him texting who I was fairly certain was her, so I asked him again and he again denied having contact with her.
The other day we were hanging out and he left me to go pick her up, telling me he did it as a favour to her brother (told me over text while he was on his way back, didn't tell me where he was going beforehand).
This is my bad and I know it was wrong but it was really screwing me up - he left his phone home while he went out and got texts from the number I suspected was hers so I went into his phone and found out he has been texting her and cancelling plans with me to hang out with her for a while now. He texts her good morning and goodnight every day without her messaging first and frequently uses hearts in his texts.
I told him later that I knew he was seeing her and that I didn't mind that he was but was just stressed about the fact that he lied about it, which is true, but also I'm heart that from the texts it seems like he prioritises her and possibly cares more about her wellbeing and mental health (we both have depression) than he does mine (he usually goes MIA when he realises I'm down).
He said he didn't want me to get upset or hurt me and that he does love me, and was trying to cut her off.
I don't doubt that he loves me, but the texts didn't seem like they were coming from someone trying to cut off their ex, but rather stay in touch. I really love him and don't want to break up (whether it be me breaking up with him or him with me) but also don't want to be second best to his ex.
Any advice on how to bring up the conversation when he doesn't like talking about it, or what to do in general? Am I being overdramatic to be as upset as I am over him lying when he could have just been open?
What do I do please help