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    Do you think young people are turning their backs on dating?

    A national Sunday supplement is looking at research which suggests many millennials are giving up on relationships, distancing themselves from things such as Tinder, ghosting and 'rubbish sex'.

    A journalist is now looking for any young people in their twenties who have had enough of all this (or never really started as it just seems too unappealing) and would rather stay home instead, focus on friends, careers or other adventures.

    If you think this applies to you and would like to get in touch, PM me or email [email protected]

    Have you given up on dating?

    Maybe you can't be bothered to get started?! Share your opinion below!
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    (Original post by discobish)
    Do you think young people are turning their backs on dating?

    A national Sunday supplement is looking at research which suggests many millennials are giving up on relationships, distancing themselves from things such as Tinder, ghosting and 'rubbish sex'.

    A journalist is now looking for any young people in their twenties who have had enough of all this (or never really started as it just seems too unappealing) and would rather stay home instead, focus on friends, careers or other adventures.

    If you think this applies to you and would like to get in touch, PM me or email [email protected]

    Have you given up on dating?

    Maybe you can't be bothered to get started?! Share your opinion below!
    It's just an uphill battle when you have a lot of disadvantages, some of which can't be changed, and tbh when you don't meet that many people and struggle to make friends with the ones that you do meet, then you can give up on dating altogether. When your confidence is shattered from numerous bad experiences then it is difficult to get going. No confidence and a negative mindset means no success.
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    I'm 30 years old now and I know the best of my dating years have passed me by. After wasting seven years in a long term relationship with a habitual liar that ultimately went nowhere and proved to be nothing more than a meal ticket and a place for me to live, I briefly jumped into the local dating scene in my mid 20s. I didn't find much more than other liars, single mothers, girls who had their kids taken off of them, and various damaged goods. I did have a two-year relationship with a girl during this time, but mental health issues on both sides broke it down and we pretty much ghosted each other in the end.

    I've been thinking about dating again, but I'm also thinking what's the point nowadays? Do I want a girl stuck on panic mode because the biological clock is ticking for kids I'm less likely to be able to physically provide or someone fresh off of her first divorce and all the baggage it carries? Nope. I have enough stress and strife in my life and adding someone else's problems to the mix doesn't appeal to me whatsoever. What I'm looking to find will probably only be found in a fairy tale. Sorry ladies, but it's up to you to prove your worth to me, which I know goes against the dating grain and the protected princess mentality of millennial women wouldn't ever allow for it. No big loss to me. I'm happy with my several cats, anyway.

    I'll probably get married on my death bed to some lonely girl in the care home just to say I did it. I just hope I don't choose another incarnation in this world when this one ends.
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    There will probably be a disparity between the genders somewhat, since the dating experience has different hurdles for both.

    As someone who initiates, it can be exhausting putting in effort into many people, trying to coax a conversation out of them, trying to find someone you actually connect with when it seems like the populations ability to have an interesting conversation is on the decline. After a while it makes you feel like a jester, jostling for peoples attention having slipped into some game of approval.

    Nonetheless, loneliness is far more crippling than any of the inconveniences of dating, so it's not going anywhere. I usually just take breaks and trying dating in spurts.
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    Everyone I've met on dating has baggage, psychopathic behaviour or are manipulative narcissists. I've never met anyone where I felt it will last. People are too picky and online dating just makes people even more picky.
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    I gave up on dating because the crushing feeling of not getting a text back after the first date or after meeting in a social environment was too bad. It made me incredibly upset and depressed for a few days so I just stopped that exercise in self flagellation.

    Having spoken to women in long term relationships with friends, I have been told I am average looking which sadly isnt good enough for dating apps. They advise me to join a club.

    I was abit of a loner at school but I did make a real effort to socialise at university and made good friends with my male flatmates.

    I do get upset occasionally when I see a happy couple on TV or find myself having dinner alone but ive just accepted it now. Used to bother me more in the past
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    The date god don't bestow me with worthy-ladies. I have not given up on Dating, the Dating has given up on me.
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    The last three guys I dated at uni, I asked out myself. Two of them ended up in a relationship, one of which is my current boyfriend. I just think people need to start asking each other out more, both guys and girls.
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    I hate these BBC Three-esque "journalists" with their pandering "millennial" stories.
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    (Original post by Notoriety)
    I hate these BBC Three-esque "journalists" with their pandering "millennial" stories.
    I agree. This thread will probably glean some high quality whinging though, so I'm keeping an eye on the comments.
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    I'd have to date first to give it up :rofl:

    But Yes and No, I mean Im in no rush - it would be nice to have a girlfriend as Im now ready for another relationship but also want to focus pn other areas if live.

    As they say, love comes when you least expect it or aren't looking for it at all.


    So my answer is,(for me) yes, no maybe... I don't know ... but overall No, what a silly thing to suggest. People have not given up on finding someone :lol:

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    Im too ugly to be dating


    On a serious note- im too focused on uni and career. I also dont have the time for anyone to be wasting however long of my life. So dating isnt a priorty in my life right now.
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    Given up as I'm not good enough and have little success, as well as bad past experiences
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    Long given up without ever getting started.

    Don't get me wrong i'd love to meet "the one" and it sucks seeing everyone else you know tied down, but the fact is that i'm far too socially awkward and if you get to the age of 27 without meeting someone who feels that way about you, you never will.

    Can't expect someone else to love you unless you love yourself and i've got too many things wrong with me. I struggle to make friends (never mind relationships) and won't even take a picture of myself or look in the mirror, so how can I expect someone else to find me attractive.

    Rather focus on realistic things that I can actually achieve, like a career.
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    If you are an south eastern asian male, the odds are 9000% stacked against you.

    So yes, may as well give up consdering current female expectations are based on people that don't exist.
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    (Original post by Maid Marian)
    The last three guys I dated at uni, I asked out myself. Two of them ended up in a relationship, one of which is my current boyfriend. I just think people need to start asking each other out more, both guys and girls.
    Unfortunately, the majority of girls have this sexist double standards with asking out and always expect the guy to do it.

    Glad there are a few like you!
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    Not having Social media is a bit of a barrier I find. I can't say I blame a girl for not spending time to get to know me when they can very efficiently go through people's facebook and essentially have a very in depth dating profile to see if they are suitable
    It does mean however they are likely to rule someone out due to some "deal breaker" they saw from a pic from 5 years ago that wouldn't bother them of they had gotten to know them the old fashioned way though
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    (Original post by Notoriety)
    I hate these BBC Three-esque "journalists" with their pandering "millennial" stories.
    Something really irksome about them pushing stories about how millennial aren't doing x, etc.
 
 
 
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