It’s making me so depressed. So so low. She has barely bothered to show any sexual attention. Never initiated, never wanted to sext, and she has cheated on me online. She had graphic sexual talk with other women and has been looking at men topless and telling me year after year she wishes my body was like that. It has made me feel worthless. Totally worthless. She claims she is attracted to my face but then said she didn’t find me handsome after i pressed her on it. We are long distance for now and she refuses to sext or talk sexually. We call once every few weeks when i initiate it mostly. Would you stay? How would you feel?
This place is mainly filled with younger students who have never experienced that type of issue, i would look at some forums dedicated to relationship/sexual advice.
I would say lol. You're in the wrong forum, posting anon, on behalf of a friend. That's like a blind man in a dark room, looking for a black cat, that isn't there.
people ask hard questions on here all the time and hard questions about marriage, so don't feel bad for sharing (just ignore the ignorant teenagers if they comment).
so you're separated right now? i wouldn't try sexting with her or anything like that. you need to focus on why she cheated and if you can work through that. is the cheating why you're separated?
people ask hard questions on here all the time and hard questions about marriage, so don't feel bad for sharing (just ignore the ignorant teenagers if they comment).
so you're separated right now? i wouldn't try sexting with her or anything like that. you need to focus on why she cheated and if you can work through that. is the cheating why you're separated?
Still with her. She cheated on me with a woman and has registered on lesbian dating sites. she also likes men but is not physically attracted to me. i make all the effort in the marriage.
Still with her. She cheated on me with a woman and has registered on lesbian dating sites. she also likes men but is not physically attracted to me. i make all the effort in the marriage.
okay, you said you were long distance so i thought not living together. does she want to make your marriage work? does she not want to cheat anymore?
did she marry you just for your looks....? she married you for your other nice traits too, didn't she...? (like your personality for example?)
I'm not denying that looking after our outer appearances is important to an extent (making sure we look presentable etc) but there are more important things in life than sexual attraction to somebody....
okay, you said you were long distance so i thought not living together. does she want to make your marriage work? does she not want to cheat anymore?
So after all the cheating, the hurt feelings and the betrayal’s of trust you’re ENCOURAGING him to work through it as if she’s worth fighting for? Lol.
she claims she loves and and can not see herself with no one else
OP, call off the marriage. This marriage is a mess and you need her out of your life. Then she can live out her kinky and weird fantasies, you deserve better.
It’s making me so depressed. So so low. She has barely bothered to show any sexual attention. Never initiated, never wanted to sext, and she has cheated on me online. She had graphic sexual talk with other women and has been looking at men topless and telling me year after year she wishes my body was like that. It has made me feel worthless. Totally worthless. She claims she is attracted to my face but then said she didn’t find me handsome after i pressed her on it. We are long distance for now and she refuses to sext or talk sexually. We call once every few weeks when i initiate it mostly. Would you stay? How would you feel?
Strange choice of forum for a thread like this.
But I'm 33..... so ancient to most posters on here.
The answer is that your relationship is over, your wife has told you as much, and your self-esteem is shot to pieces because of her.
Get out as soon as possible and begin the task of rebuilding your life and your confidence. Many people swear on second marriages being the best ones, although you'd be better off single than with somebody who has broken you down mentally.
So after all the cheating, the hurt feelings and the betrayal’s of trust you’re ENCOURAGING him to work through it as if she’s worth fighting for? Lol.
OP, call off the marriage. This marriage is a mess and you need her out of your life. Then she can live out her kinky and weird fantasies, you deserve better.
firstly, i'm not giving him any advice; i'm asking him questions to better understand the situation. secondly, you can't just end a marriage over night. thirdly, who knows how long he's been with this person, it could be 20 years for all we know. they could have children.
p.s. if you're 15 and have no life experience i doubt you should be telling OP what to do.
okay, you said you were long distance so i thought not living together. does she want to make your marriage work? does she not want to cheat anymore?
We have lived together for few years..caught her on les dating app multiple times when she denied me anything sexual. She then succumbed and was more responsive but when i asked a lot. Then she went to her place and we became long distance and jan of this year i found out she had sexted with a woman from her work. She also loves buff bodies on guys and tells me she just has no desire for me and she feels bad and would if i had that kind of body. I tried to work out and she did not notice even fair progress. She cried and begged me back when she cheated.
did she marry you just for your looks....? she married you for your other nice traits too, didn't she...? (like your personality for example?)
I'm not denying that looking after our outer appearances is important to an extent (making sure we look presentable etc) but there are more important things in life than sexual attraction to somebody....
maybe your wife is missing that point....?
Im not short, im about 5'10-11 and she is 5'3 and thinks im short. I have a wide frame but I've been skinny. I worked out n put on a lot lately, and tho i lost it, she never noticed..
I did most of the cooking, cleaning, looking after her...i proof-read her essays, tutored her, and she sincerely seems to want to be with me...but she barely makes any effort in anything...just seems attached...
But I'm 33..... so ancient to most posters on here.
The answer is that your relationship is over, your wife has told you as much, and your self-esteem is shot to pieces because of her.
Get out as soon as possible and begin the task of rebuilding your life and your confidence. Many people swear on second marriages being the best ones, although you'd be better off single than with somebody who has broken you down mentally.
This marriage is done I'm afraid.
People on TSR seem more mature than other forums, epitomised by your answer and some of the others. Helpful, honest and sensitive. I just don’t believe in myself anymore. I can’t look in the mirror and i feel worthless. It is bad because she seems to want to be with me. She went against her parents who did not want her to be with me and has rejected proposals from other guys. She has told me she cant imagine herself with anyone else and when i broke up with her before she begged me back. Why would she do that? She told me she cant help it and she finds me too skinny. she would want a guy with a buff body. She has said she barely tried sexually with me and even though i’ve begged she has not shown much sexual interest in me…i told her surely its my face that is the issue…what if i became sick and lost weight and muscle..how many guys even look like that?
firstly, i'm not giving him any advice; i'm asking him questions to better understand the situation. secondly, you can't just end a marriage over night. thirdly, who knows how long he's been with this person, it could be 20 years for all we know. they could have children.
p.s. if you're 15 and have no life experience i doubt you should be telling OP what to do.
First things first, better understand what? She has cheated on him, lied to him and she isn’t attracted to him anymore. Secondly, this marriage seems to have been dead for years. It died a long time ago. Thirdly, so if they have been together 20 years, it makes up for the infidelity, the mistrust and the emotional abuse? Good to know.
p.s you don’t need life experience to realise this relationship needs to end.
So after all the cheating, the hurt feelings and the betrayal’s of trust you’re ENCOURAGING him to work through it as if she’s worth fighting for? Lol.
OP, call off the marriage. This marriage is a mess and you need her out of your life. Then she can live out her kinky and weird fantasies, you deserve better.
She begged to have me back when i left her after she cheated. she said she badly regretted it and can not imagine herself with anyone other than me. She sexted a woman from work, but she is bisexual. She gave herself to her and never did for me. She showed no interest in me sexually.