i’m 18, my boyfriend is a year older than me and we have been dating for 7 months. we love each other and i do adore him, but we argue a lot. usually it stems from stupid things that don’t really matter, but it’s the fact we argue that makes it a problem.
something that we argue about most commonly is how easily annoyed and agitated i can get. it’s something i find really hard to control but he doesn’t understand it as he is a very calm person (i’ve had anger problems since i was a child).
The most common reason as to why i get so angry and agitated is because my sex drive is quite high. when i was with my ex, we would have sex 7-10 times a day (which seems too much to me now), but my current boyfriends sex drive is unbelievably low. now, i’m lucky if we have sex once a day. it’s gotten to the point where i have to plead with him to have sex and ask, rather than just let it happen naturally. When he says he’s not in the mood, it drives me insane, because he’s never in the mood. And then i feel as if i’m pressuring him into sex, which i obviously don’t want to do, but it’s inevitable that he might feel that way.
I don’t want to leave him, but i really can’t go on like this. i know sex shouldn’t be a big thing in a relationship, but as someone with a pretty high sex drive, it makes me go a little insane when i don’t have it for weeks. i really don’t want him to feel pressured into sex and i don’t want him thinking i’m being manipulating, but it’s really hard for it not to come across that way.
What should i do? or say to him?