Hello everyone!
I’m a 19 y/o male who has been recently broken up with by my girlfriend.
Let me give some backstory:
Well we’ve been together for about 8 months, met each other at uni and we live in the same accommodation (not same flat) but during this period we would often see each other everyday and spend a lot of time together because it was what made us both happy. I would say within the last month or so, we started to have a few heated arguments over the pettiest things. Last night, we was sleeping separately (due to her finishing work late) and she messaged me saying if she could come over because she felt sad. I told her to come over and she eventually started crying and was telling me about how unhappy she’s been recently.
I went home for about 2 weeks whilst she was still at uni accommodation and I thought it was all fine, until last night she told me that she cut herself a little bit whilst I was gone and I’m guessing that’s when she stated she was feeling miserable with everything. I comforted her and she has never done anything like this before, she hasn’t been diagnosed with depression or anything previously as she always spoke about how good her childhood was.
She said to me that she isn’t happy in general and that makes her unhappy in the relationship with me, but she constantly kept saying it wasn’t my fault and it was her. I was just really confused as to where this came from because we was doing amazing and was always having a good time together?
She was saying stuff like she doesn’t think she’s a relationship type of person and stuff, and that she has commitment issues. I do feel like it’s my fault and all the small things I’ve done have just built up and she’s tired of dealing with it anymore. I did agree and above all I want her to be happy and if that means that she’s not in a relationship with me then and that’s what happened.
Today, we spoke a bit more about it and thought we’d give it another go after me trying to fight for her. Later on the afternoon she just felt like having another go at this relationship right now wasn’t a good idea. At this time, she was saying stuff like I just need a break and some me time etc... and I was upset but I didn’t want to be anymore selfish but at the same time she was saying that a relationship just isn’t for her right now and she did confirm she’s breaking up with me but still wants to be best friends with me.
I don’t know what to do at this point because I was heartbroken but I want her to be happy with herself above anything else. What does it mean, when she’s saying she wants a break and then breaking up with me?
Am I supposed to wait or am I expected to move on and we just be friends? I’m just genuinely upset that this has happened and it’s been painful.
Any takes?
Thanks!