Uni and the Social Nightmare (in my head?!)

I really dont know why Im writing this but er, here goes.

Im a third year student who's having a bit of a crisis.

There is more to this, but after writing it all down I've realized how stupid it sounds and deleted it, but this bit remains:

Does anyone else ever feel like they have no talents? No Skills?
Basicaly everyone I know is good at something, whats more, its something I once myself thought I was good at.

Coming to uni really opened my eyes.

Basicaly I wanted to ask if anyone else experiences this at all? Its really brought me low again, which isnt a good thing now with other things that have been going on. Like, social paranoia and extreme awkward feelings when I dont know what to say or act. Again.

Been reading this forums for the first time this afternoon, really made me feel better (lame as it sounds) to know I'm not the only one who has that and other things. Although... I do feel a bit old in comparison. Such confidence issues should surely of been resolved by now aye :frown:

Whats more, last year was so good. In school was friendless with no social life... at all. Then just before Uni, in the summer, I was invited out and became part of a little group of people, it was sweet. Then in my first year it was amazing, I met loads of people and was out all the time. When I was home I had an equally good group of mates...
Now this year seems to have reverted a few years, and I've realized I have, what, 2 good mates in uni (who I still feel awkward around and dont know what to say sometimes.) and i don't really see the people from my home area anymore.
Argh this isnt good... Buy hah, kinda diverted from the point there.
What the hell, I'll post anyway heh

Sorry for such a long post, and thank you if you took the time to read it.

Reply 1

Charlurr

I think at the moment, you'll be in a transition period, if you get me. Hell, i feel exactly the same, but your talents might be less noticeable, in comparison to being cushty at chess or whateverrr. Aaaaaand, i think everyone's kinda the same with the friends situation. tbh with you, i've got friends of 7 years that i don't feel that close to.. But it happens. All I'm gonna say is don't worry too much about it, things like that happen (: You've still got aaaages to sort things out. And honestly, are you still gonna make the effort to talk to people when you're in a proper job? Nahhh.

Reply 2

moonlitflower

Ofcourse your good at stuff.. everyone goes through these periods where they try everything out. i went for a good few months where i had no friends and nothing i could really do or felt as thought i was good at. i just went day to day and that was it. but beleive me thigns get better.. and even if you find your passionate about something different every couple of weeks like i seem too.. theres nothing wrong with that. As long as tou enjoy it.

Reply 3

Airel

This is kinda what I hope Uni will be like. Being thrown in at the deep end is probably the best way to learn. You're the only person with that extra urge to suceed.

Reply 4

JK'

i dont ever feel like this because i'm very competative... If i want to be good at something, then i go out there and read read read, then play play play, then repeat.

example,

i play backgammon. When i started i got lucky a lot and thought i was good... but i actually had a -EV rate on most moves i made (thats bad). I now know every single opening move (around 30) off by heart and can get +EV on most moves i make (albiet not yet the best possible plays :P).

Talent doesn't come naturally to all of us. In fact, even things like singing where people seem to be 'naturally talented' usually they have been taught in some way.

uni is a place for learning. So go out there and learn more about the games you play (Chess! lol)

Reply 5

xJessx

I used to feel exactly like that! Well, I had skills, but I didn't think they were interesting or relevant. Mine are foreign languages and horse riding (and being really small but that's not a skill) and I really wanted a talent that was glamorous like singing or dancing. As I've got older though, I've learnt to develop what I'm good at and just accept that I will never be a creative person.
I only have 2 mates right now, my sixth form is really small and I just don't click with anyone but some people take longer to get to know themselves and accept themselves, if you know what I mean. You're still young and you have loads of time to practise what you're good at, become even better and don't stop until you can whoop everyone's ass!
You sound like a mature, sensitive person but that can be the problem, sensitive people take more time to develop a thick skin and accept how other people see them. Well done for getting this far (into uni and becoming more confident). Sometimes you have to take a step back to jump further forward. Or something like that.

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