Are your parents restricting/influencing your uni choices?

One of my friends isn't allowed to apply to places up North e.g. Durham, and her mum said she can't apply to places outside the "second division" in the Times league tables! I find this weird and stupid, i'm applying wherever i want.
I mean, i could understand if it was for specific reasons, but my friend's parents don't really have any proper reasons for these stupid restrictions!

Anyone else in a similar situ? Have your parents influenced your choices?

Reply 1

Dynamite

SiAnY

One of my friends isn't allowed to apply to places up North e.g. Durham, and her mum said she can't apply to places outside the "second division" in the Times league tables! I find this weird and stupid, i'm applying wherever i want.
I mean, i could understand if it was for specific reasons, but my friend's parents don't really have any proper reasons for these stupid restrictions!

Anyone else in a similar situ? Have your parents influenced your choices?

They "suggested" i apply to Cam

Reply 2

~Sam~

15

SiAnY

One of my friends isn't allowed to apply to places up North e.g. Durham, and her mum said she can't apply to places outside the "second division" in the Times league tables! I find this weird and stupid, i'm applying wherever i want.
I mean, i could understand if it was for specific reasons, but my friend's parents don't really have any proper reasons for these stupid restrictions!

Anyone else in a similar situ? Have your parents influenced your choices?

Not really, at least I don't think so. I basically just decided by looking at prospectuses and entry requirements and by going on a few open days. My dad doesnt really take an interest in that kind of stuff. My mum likes to get involved (TOO MUCH!) and she came on open days with me, but luckily we liked most of the same places. She thinks I should "Aim higher than UEA" but I'm not listening, I like the look of it so I'm applying there!

It's my PS that she really interferes with!

Reply 3

Ramaya

2

No, not really - I don't have that many options to choose from anyway. The places I would not like to go too they dislike too.

Reply 4

Dynamite

SiAnY

One of my friends isn't allowed to apply to places up North e.g. Durham, and her mum said she can't apply to places outside the "second division" in the Times league tables! I find this weird and stupid, i'm applying wherever i want.
I mean, i could understand if it was for specific reasons, but my friend's parents don't really have any proper reasons for these stupid restrictions!

Anyone else in a similar situ? Have your parents influenced your choices?

SiAnY - As a fellow geographer :smile:

will you support the Dynamite for mod campaign? :smile:

Reply 5

undiscovered

OP

13

~Sam~

Not really, at least I don't think so. I basically just decided by looking at prospectuses and entry requirements and by going on a few open days. My dad doesnt really take an interest in that kind of stuff. My mum likes to get involved (TOO MUCH!) and she came on open days with me, but luckily we liked most of the same places. She thinks I should "Aim higher than UEA" but I'm not listening, I like the look of it so I'm applying there!

It's my PS that she really interferes with!

In my family it's the opposite! My mum's more working class and she just says "Why don't you leave sixth form and get a job?" (!), whereas if I start talking about uni/UCAS my dad will be interested. Unless i talk about it, though, it's not really mentioned! My dad thinks uni will be great for me whilst my mum says "Why do you want to go up North? Don't go too far away!" Aww!

Reply 6

magiccarpet

2

SiAnY

In my family it's the opposite! My mum's more working class and she just says "Why don't you leave sixth form and get a job?" (!), whereas if I start talking about uni/UCAS my dad will be interested. Unless i talk about it, though, it's not really mentioned! My dad thinks uni will be great for me whilst my mum says "Why do you want to go up North? Don't go too far away!" Aww!

i have the same thing. my mom only let me choose betw job/APU/Essex. i wanted to do medicine at Imperial

Reply 7

rednirt

SiAnY

I mean, i could understand if it was for specific reasons, but my friend's parents don't really have any proper reasons for these stupid restrictions!

They just sound a little bit pushy. I'm the first in my family that went to uni, and my parents didn't really know where to start and let me get on with things... which was unusual for them :rolleyes:

Reply 8

undiscovered

OP

13

magiccarpet

my mom only let me choose betw job/APU/Essex. i wanted to do medicine at Imperial

Any reasons for that?

Reply 9

LS.

8

Dad doesn't want me to apply to Oxbridge :biggrin:

He said that I can get a decent education at most universities, and shouldn't be bothered about the 'elite.'

Mum orriginally wanted me to get a job after my AS's :eek:

But I showed her that graduates could earn a lot more than people with AS/A2 qualifications - then she changed her mind :rolleyes:

Reply 10

RachelBabyfrog

14

My dad has pulled the odd face at suggestions I've made... he's a teacher, and he was a sixth form tutor for quite a while, so he's all into it, lol. My mum is more concerned about what the places are actually like, and she doesn't really want me to go too far away- hence the Northern tendancies of most of my choices. They've both visited them all with me, and we're all happy with my final choices, so it's all good!

Reply 11

Sarky

18

My mum didn't even know what subjects i was doing for my A levels. She sure as hell won't care where i go to uni. Acutally when i told her i wasn't doing a performing art for my A levels (because i wanted to focus on medicine) she was more worried that i was dropping that.

Motherly love :rolleyes:

Reply 12

Elles

17

Dynamite

They "suggested" i apply to Cam

mine 'suggested' Cambridge was too far away.. whereas Oxford can be reached in under 1.5 hours.. plus they always supported Oxford in the boatrace..so.. :tongue:

otherwise, no. it was my decision. (though they made it clear they wouldn't be able to support me financially, so london would land me in quite some debt..)

Reply 13

Barny

17

My parents tried to be suggestive as to where I should apply but I just ignored them, at the end of the day they wont know where you put on your form until its too late, so you can put wherever you want

Reply 14

TheWolf

15

SiAnY

One of my friends isn't allowed to apply to places up North e.g. Durham, and her mum said she can't apply to places outside the "second division" in the Times league tables! I find this weird and stupid, i'm applying wherever i want.
I mean, i could understand if it was for specific reasons, but my friend's parents don't really have any proper reasons for these stupid restrictions!

Anyone else in a similar situ? Have your parents influenced your choices?

Nope

Reply 15

Dr. Blazed

16

My parents are letting me do whatever I want. They're not bothered if I don't want to go to uni, finish my A Levels or whatever, as long as I know what I'm doing before I do it.

Reply 16

BazTheMoney

Both my parents went to Oxford, so naturally there was a strong Oxford bias in my family.

Reply 17

Pegasus

2

I don't think my parents would be too pleased if I said I wanted to go too up north. But then, it doesn't really bother me as I don't want to go too far from home (i.e over 4/5 hours journey away). They seem to think Warwick is a bit far, but I'm still applying there, and at the end of the day they accept that it is my decision. :smile:

Reply 18

Jessie

9

I applied to St Andrews and Edinburgh and Exeter - all very far away from the most south-eastern corner of the U.K. My parents were fine with it. They always said that i should apply to Oxbridge but I wanted to anyway. There was the feeling that it would be a long old trek to those 1st 3 places....

Reply 19

Unregistered

I have 5 choices for 2005 and I can't think of a sixth one, so my mum keeps trying to push me into re-applying for Oxford. I don't really think I'd want to go there, but it might be nice to just see what the result was. Maybe I will, but I'm not rushing my personal statement just to make the deadline. If I miss it, I'll just have to apply somewhere else. Oxford would be my sixth choice anyway.

I don't want to apply to Cambridge because I don't know where it is. :biggrin:

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